Had to cancel my date because of this field

Goldman Sachs nbqi06
Oct 18 18 Comments

So a while back i posted saying how i met this girl my first time going out downtown at my uni and she showed so much interest in me. I told her how my summer in NY went interning at GS and how id join Facebook/Instagram after i graduate this semester. We also exchanged many jokes and generally had a good time.

She messages me on insta and asks to hang out. I oblige, offer Monday. She cancels last hour, says feeling sick and wants to feel at 100%. I posit Thursday, I cancel because i had a take home midterm assigned and due that day and couldnt spend entire afternoon/night with her.

Now we cant find a time and I feel like shit. I think im a semi attractive guy but its been so hard to meet ppl in college for me considering all id do is personal projects to generate income, leetcode, study, research, etc.

Now that I had a chance to actually go on a date with someone i screw it up.

Not rlly sure how ill meet/date anyone at this point. Especially considering how Ive read zero dateable women exist in Silicon Valley, so really dreading going there, even for FB

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TOP 18 Comments
  • NVIDIA acfm
    Maybe she disapproved of your employer choices
    Oct 18 2
    • Google qqsfhu
      So true.
      Oct 18
    • Oscar
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      Seriously????????
      Oct 18
  • Lockheed Martin / R&D Schz3
    The hopelessness you express sounds like depression.

    Just set up another time to see her and do it.
    Oct 18 0
  • Oscar
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    This is normal. It is not anyone’s fault. And this will happen whether you work for facebook or farming in your backyard. You will have deadline to meet, outage to fight, family emergency to attend and unexpected commute problems. Don’t let them make you feel sad.

    Keep the contact. Perhaps hangout during Halloween? If she is into you she will find a time with you and wait with you. If she is not and rushing into the relationship, she is probably not the right one yet.
    Oct 18 0
  • Yelp JMP2
    come the fuck on dude. look at the larger picture and don't be sad because of one failure. you have career figured out now you just need to focus on dating if you want it so badly. you are good man.
    Oct 18 0
  • Microsoft ABACADABAC
    Bruh. Don’t leetcode for one day and go on that damned date. What’s the matter with you.
    Oct 18 1
    • SAP RUBie
      Yeah like wtf. Victim mentality right here. If you can’t take 1 hour from your day to do one important thing then the problem is you
      Oct 18
  • Amazon undertaker
    Semi attractive = not attractive
    Oct 18 0
  • Oracle alwzangry
    Are you making serious decisions based on Blind discussions? Most of them are noise.
    Oct 18 0
  • New lgne56
    Totally normal stuff. If you take one opportunity like the be all end all then it wouldn't have worked out anyways. Besides maybe you can take time out of personal projects to date more. There are plenty of women out there you just need to be respectful to them and be willing to find time for them.
    Oct 18 0
  • How old are you ? 10 or 12 👎
    Oct 18 0
  • eBay 0hsh!t
    she cancelled last hour = next. plenty of fish in the sea.
    Oct 19 1
    • Lockheed Martin / R&D Schz3
      In general, yes. But she initiated the get together plan AND was willing to reschedule for another day. She at least WAS interested.
      Perhaps she really was sick. It happens (maybe her nose was a faucet that day. Maybe she gets migraines, for instance).
      Perhaps she is pathologically anxious; that might be nextable .
      Perhaps she changed her mind and was too shy to be direct when OP suggested Thursday. Ok, THAT is nextable. No way to know until OP tries again.

      There are plenty of fish in the sea so while OP ought to have remained open to others while this situation became clearer, seems senseless to walk away from time invested without more data.
      Oct 19
  • SAP RUBie
    YoE?
    Oct 18 1
  • it’s so easy to date in NYC.
    Oct 18 0
  • IBM bruxy
    Honestly once you get right down to it, getting a girl doesn't seem that hard. There's nothing wrong with doing one thing at a time.
    Oct 18 0

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