How has anger ruined you and what mitigating factors did you have to handle it? I am usually very calm and don't get angry that easily but lately I have noticed how horribly angry I get and I take it on a family member (not a spouse). I quickly regret my actions but at that moment, it's almost like I can't control my anger any more. I hate myself for it and to be honest I am very ashamed of my behavior. I also immediately apologize but the damage is already done. Can anyone relate to me. P.S - I ALREADY know it's bad and I have no right to take it on another human. I am asking for small changes to life that may have helped people. Therapy and meditation is something I need to work on. I workout everyday, so that's already checked. What else can I do?
Watched this whole thing on meditation today and how it changes your brain wiring for the better (to handle anger and hatefulness). Look into mediation man
Do you use any app to meditate?
I donât. I donât even meditate haha, but itâs good i keep reading
Stop taking steroids. See a counselor.
Therapy, meditation and going out for a walk when you feel like you are about to explode. If it's happening Repeatedly and there's a pattern get yourself checked for symptoms of IED
I just went for a run when I was having this huge rage. I gotta see what's IED!
Hi! Well first thing just huge kudos to taking responsibility and trying to change! My experience with this is it takes time - and repetition Rinse and repeat ... So be patient without yourself because thereâs no quick fix Some of the things Iâve found is certainly exercise - sleep and food can also be triggers - underslept and hungry that is Investigating how behavior affects neurons helps put it into perspective in terms of when we have repeat behaviors it creates pathways in our brains that are very hard to change but they are able to change - just takes awareness time and discipline. Awareness and learning impulse control I would say are key. To recognize when your breathing is increasing and your pulse is rising - to walk away breathe and respond only when youâre calm. For me personally I learned to separate emotion from situations so that I can hear difficult things and be able to be present and listen but not be emotional in my response so that I can understand and not react negatively. I wish you the best of luck! Congrats on taking a step! Donât give up - you bring into your life what your put out and being able to change this will drastically change you and your life
Thank you so much!!! Really appreciate the thoughtful message. Those are some good pointers
Ugh with yourself -* probably more misspellings in there due to autocorrect Sorry!!!
I have a punching bag that I take my anger out on and started boxing.
Work out at orangetheory.
Literally do anything besides this
I do something pretty intense so like I mentioned I am already doing my share of workout
Get a health check u may be suffering from hyper tension
Oh crap!
Anger is a natural emotion. How you choose to express that anger is what can ruin your relationships with others. Also, being aware of your anger trigger points is very crucial to your sanity. If you are around people that make you angry often then you need to exam those people more closely in addition to yourself.
True words. The challenge is if the trigger points are coming from people you love.
Very common imo. Sometimes those you care the most about cause the most anger because you know their âwaysâ and they know what can trigger you to go off which leads to a vicious love/semi-hate cycle.
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Shout it out in a room. Alone obviously. That helps. Removes it from your system.
This is a good vent out