Have impostor syndrome? Contact me, I want to help!

Intel gwailoh
Sep 15 32 Comments

Hi everyone,

Some background about myself, for most of my life, I had a serious lack of self confidence. I worked hard, got good grades in school, and then went on to work as a hardware SOC engineer for almost a decade. I had insecurities but I was able to keep them in check by being outwardly successful....until I couldn't pull that trick anymore...

3 years ago, I got a job at a division at Intel. The working environment in that company was so stressful and toxic. I worked flat out for this division but even my best efforts were not enough to make up for the insane deadlines and unrealistic expectations placed on everyone there. My usual way of dealing with my lack of self confidence through achieving things no longer worked. The first year of working at Intel was honestly the most tramautic, stressful experience of my entire life.

Fortunately, I got help. I sought the help of a clinical counselor who used to work as a sports therapist. With his help, I tackled and fixed the root cause of my lack of self confidence. You know how a lot of engineers talk about having impostor syndrome? Well, I am an engineer who defeated it.

I know that there are a lot of engineers out there who lack self confidence, who feel that everyone else is better than them. And unfortunately, there are not a lot of resources specifically designed to help engineers overturn their anxieties or deal with the stresses of the job. So I have decided to do something about that.

I am planning on building a company that helps engineers to become confident and healthy people. So I am reaching out to the Blind community asking for any stressed or burnt out engineer to contact me so that I can interview them for market research. The goal is to get to know what are the biggest health challenges engineers face and how a business can help tackle these challenges.

If you are interested, schedule an appointment at https://calendly.com/auggywonger/1-1-interview.

Good luck to my fellow engineers who are going through what I went through. It's for you guys that I am building this business!

Thanks for taking the time to read.

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TOP 32 Comments
  • Roku cruella
    I do. Help me!

    $150/hr for providing data points for ur company.
    Sep 15 3
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      Hi. Thanks for responding. Can you schedule an appointment by clicking the link on the original post? It helps me organize my schedule. Thanks!
      Sep 15
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      Also, unfortunately I cannot pay people for their time. There are plenty of people I know outside of Blind who are happy to share their experiences for free. But I wanted to reach out to Blind because I see the occasional post about someone who needs help dealing with stress. I want to help those people.
      Sep 15
    • Roku cruella
      Was just kidding man.

      I'll book something on ur calendar. I like ur idea and ur vision.
      Sep 16
  • Microsoft 🦍Ape
    What proof do you have that you “conquered” anything? Seems like you live the same life and job.
    Sep 15 9
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      That's a good question. My counselor is retiring his practice and is not going to take on my clients. But he is interested in helping me build this business because he can see how passionate I am about it. So he is bringing in the professional mental health experience and I bring in the empathy and understanding I have of engineers who suffer from self confidence issues like I did.

      But by all means, I encourage everyone to seek professional help from someone. And as to my qualifications, I see people on Blind asking for help to resolve their anxieties and stress all the time...and I doubt anyone here is really qualified to provide advice beyond the usual "exercise" and "meditate."
      Sep 15
    • Intel / Finance LC_ups_TC
      Ape, stfu will you, OP is trying to do some decent work.
      Sep 16
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      I appreciate the encouragement from people on this thread. But it's okay for people to ask me tough questions. I am after all a stranger on Blind making a big claim. I just want to reiterate that I am just here to help. If you don't trust me, just talk to people who you do trust. It doesn't have to be me!

      But I am confident that I am a good person to talk to. I have built a relationship with a clinical counselor and I have experience working as an engineer. I guarantee I know what a lot of you are going through.
      Sep 16
    • Microsoft 🦍Ape
      Are you fucking me? I’m asking legitimate questions? I’m supposed to have this dude counsel me and not ask him about credentials?
      Sep 16
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      Everyone is free to ask me about my credentials. I have nothing to hide and I love talking about these sorts of things.

      The bottom line is yes, I am not an expert. But I know from personal experience that there is a need for resources to help engineers deal with their mental problems. So I'm trying to step up. I don't think I need to be an expert to step up.
      Sep 16
  • Facebook smokedat
    I’m rooting for you
    Sep 16 1
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      Thanks! I'm looking forward to being able to help people like us. Ever notice how there's so many resources for engineers to help become better engineers (leetcode) but barely any resources to help engineers develop their mental toughness? Despite how almost all of what engineers do is mental work?
      Sep 16
  • Uber / Eng HvWK68
    You can't call yourself a counsellor man, maybe a life coach or career coach or something generic like that.
    Sep 16 0
  • Cruise Automation hqudy651
    If you have not gone through the proper education and certification path for counseling, please please please do NOT attempt to counsel people.
    Sep 16 0
  • Microsoft Wahh28
    How are you helping people by interviewing them?
    Sep 16 2
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      The goal of interviewing people is to understand how to structure the business to provide the most value to customers. It's a part of the market research.

      I can't build a business based on what I think other people's needs are. I need to build a business based on what people actually need.

      But aside from market research, I am more than happy to share my own experiences with clinical counselling and such.
      Sep 16
    • Microsoft Wahh28
      This just sounds like you're helping yourself build your business. I don't see how you're helping the interviewee.
      Sep 17
  • Job is too stressful so quits, decides to make a startup capitalising on other poor souls in the same situation. It's like an episode of Silicon Valley.
    Sep 20 1
    • Travelport / Eng buttnpushr
      Life imitates parody yadda yadda
      Sep 21
  • SAP panfhs
    Why only engineers?
    Sep 16 1
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      Engineers is the catch-all phrase for "people who work in tech companies and are involved with building software/hardware in some way". But obviously, that is a mouth full. :P
      Sep 16
  • Facebook / Eng e999
    So you are planning to build a company that provides psychological help? ...Online?

    How are you different/better than just seeing a clinical (and certified) person *live*?

    I don’t think you really thought this through.
    Sep 16 1
    • Intel gwailoh
      OP
      It is true that perhaps I have nothing to offer. That's what I hope to prove or disprove with the marketing research I am conducting.
      Sep 16
  • Intel gwailoh
    OP
    I did not explicitly called myself a counsellor. But if I gave the impression that I was going to, I apologize. All I said was I am working with a counselor to build a business to help engineers deal with their anxieties and whatever mental issues they have. So yes, I would not call myself a counsellor. A career coach or something like that would indeed be more appropriate.
    Sep 16 1
    • Pandora x0kjF
      I agree with GP, you gave the impression that you wanted to help people with imposter syndrome (during the interview). Instead seems like you just want to extract buisness value of of them and leave them high and dry.

      Wouldn't want to get "help" from a company like that.
      Sep 16
  • Lucidworks hMbF15
    Imposter syndrome = insecurity......get over it
    Sep 17 0
  • Travelport / Eng buttnpushr
    Good hustle
    Sep 16 0
  • Micro Focus / Eng hellabro
    Sent you a DM.
    Sep 15 0