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Helping someone fight depression

LinkedIn peacefuel
Feb 7

Is there a way to help the people you love fight depression and Suicidal thoughts? I am feeling helpless over my inability help this person in my family.

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  • Cisco xceM43
    Depression is not only a mental condition. It’s a physical one as well. Get him to see a doctor and get medicines. Medicines can help
    Feb 70
  • MathWorks £€€¥
    Don't take advice from Blind, get the person to talk to a professional. Depression has so many factors that no one here can give you the right advice.
    Feb 71
  • Proofpoint / Engfoodtruckj
    Somewhere deep inside they are stuck in an emotional loop where they are constantly thinking about an incident or an event.

    Try to reach there and help them realize that there was no other possible outcome no matter how much they could have tried otherwise. Once you push them, they will realize and may emotionally free themselves.

    I have tried it and it works.
    Feb 75
    • Wipro
      JohnnyCa$h

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      JohnnyCa$hmore
      @proof, Really insightful
      Feb 7
    • LinkedIn peacefuel
      OP
      That could work but I can’t freely communicate with them because of relationship dynamics. I know they are in severe pain because of depression but I can’t even bring up the topic except for asking if they have taken their meds. How do I get them to trust me and let them share?
      Feb 7
    • Proofpoint / Engfoodtruckj
      You have them to share their feelings with you by developing trust with them. They should feel like their true feelings are safe with you.

      Ask about their day. Their week. Their work life. Never imply to them that you are concerned about their depression. Soon they may start to share details of their life that helps you build a picture. Over a period of time start suggesting interesting activities that helps them break out of their regular loop.
      Feb 7
    • LinkedIn peacefuel
      OP
      Thanks. I will try that.
      Feb 7
    • Fiat Chrysler xcleet
      Just listen to them. Don't probe.
      Feb 7
  • LinkedIn peacefuel
    OP
    I want to be able to support and stay strong. I don’t think just the meds are enough for holistic healing.
    Feb 71
    • New -joker-
      You are right. Just the medicines don't cut it.

      Here's what I suggest:
      1. Try being around them physically as much as possible and impart positivity (preaching always may not work so just little things like calling over friends for dinner to get the mind distracted, keeping the house organized and fresh with scented candles and fragrances and designer lights etc, playing relaxing music etc)
      2. Try to analyze what negative thoughts or situations get them stuck in a loop. Try to minimize conversations around those topics.
      3. Plan a travel with them to their choice of place.
      4. Do things together with them to break the monotony like watch a movie (be cautious about the choice of movie), or put some party music and dance, or get the creativity out through painting etc, or go shopping together.
      5. Help them set up a meditation routine.
      6. Listen to them. Let them get out there negative thoughts, but make sure to cut the conversation if they get stuck in an emotional loop while talking (refer to my previous points)
      7. Minimize their use of social media, if possible
      8. Set up small short-term chievable goals together like complete 14 days of everyday running streak, or complete a blog by the weekend.

      The key is to distract their mind, make them feel involved, and help them realize their self worth.
      Feb 7
  • New dluz61
    One important thing is to validate feelings rather than argue with them. There's this really natural tendency when someone tells you "I'm such a failure" (or whatever) to tell them that they aren't and try to reason it out. But all that does is force them to further argue why you're wrong and try to prove they suck, which just digs them in deeper. It's better to be like, "it must be hard to feel that way. I don't see you that way, but I can understand how hard it is to feel feel that way."
    Feb 80
  • Amazon / EngjNeo42
    Does this person admit to being chronically depressed? Or do they want to believe that they have a medical problem (ie a physical malady) that a doctor should diagnose and treat?
    Feb 70
  • Barclays PLC FAANGHNTER
    If they learn to manage regret, they will be just fine.
    Feb 70
  • PayPal wervziv
    Buy them tickets to another continent. Take them to airport with the pretext that you're going out. Push them into the plane. See the magic!
    Feb 81
    • Microsoft
      ujkfz

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      ujkfzmore
      Agreed my sibling was someone else in the other continent and was totally not suicidal
      Also if s/he is speaking out loud about these maybe remind them how valuable they are for you and how you would be devastated, show them you care
      Feb 8
  • Salesforce tensorchic
    Meditation helps.
    However if suicidal, I think you'll need meds
    5d0
  • ViaSat / Designmark1650
    Maybe this is too simple, but I always feel a lot better after a good workout. As the saying goes...you're just one workout away from a good mood. I know this probably isn't huge, but a frequent workout might help.
    Feb 70
  • LinkedIn peacefuel
    OP
    They have been depressed for a few years but I came to know just now and they are seeking professional help. I feel guilty for being oblivious to their condition.
    Feb 70
  • General Motors / Eng
    RamenCup

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    Boeing, Lockheed Martin, General Motors
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    Full stack developer with 6+ years of experience. I enjoy problem-solving, learning, and knowledge sharing.
    RamenCupmore
    Make them delicious food
    Feb 70

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