What do you say during sex? She wants me to talk, but I've always found dirty talking challenging...
“I’m harder than a hard question on leetcode!” Works every time.
I’d like to checkout out your lady bits and hopefully not leave with any bugs
Just say what you like about her/what she’s doing/what you like/what you’re doing. Apply this advice (“catch ‘me doing something good”), in bed: https://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/12/13/too-seldom-is-heard-an-encouraging-word-why-and-how-to-offer-more-compliments/
Just don't say "micro" or "soft"
Prior to your arrival, tell him/her that you’re Qualcomming.
Ha ha
One more thing: avoid promises of fun/pleasure/whatever. Again, compliments about something she’s doing well will be appreciated.
Be willing to get embarrassed and feel safe enough to keep trying. If she shamed you or laughs at you (not with you) it should be super clear that it’s unlikely to be something you feel comfortable trying again. Seems easiest to go with expression of desire (you can pick the language and see if you get more comfortable “I want to hold you down fuck you” may not be your opener), and explicit description of what is already happening. You could also ask! She’s telling you what she wants, she took that risk. You can risk asking “do you want me to tell you what I’m feeling, what I want to do to you, what I want you to do to me? Do you want me to be “sweet” or explicit? Etc. She may not know and ask you to try things, but you should be able to “check in” to see how it’s going out of the moment.
Maybe try joking around when you aren't having sex? You know, tease her with ridiculous Monty python esque double entendres? Know what I mean nudge nudge wink wink say no more say no more? Anyway, point is to practice so the pressure is not hard...and so you'll stay that way, lol....have fun! A partner you can laugh with is the best!
“I think a sliding window approach will work, but I’m opting for brute force!”
I’m going to do penetration testing. for(move : me.getmoves()) penetrate.using(move);
If it's not your style forcing it won't make it better. If this is just a girlfriend and a blocker for her then at least you know now before it's complicated.