Horrible experience on dating apps

Google laur3
Jan 7 33 Comments

I moved to SF a few months ago and been using dating apps for a little over a month (all of them !) and all I find are guys who “are looking for something casual” 🤦‍♀️

What does that even mean? That’s like saying “I intentionally want to be with someone I have no future with”.

Anyways, is that everyone’s experience on dating apps ?

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TOP 33 Comments
  • New / Eng ☘️ guest
    Yeah sf has more players than South Bay. I think I went out only on 1 date a long time ago for that.

    This guy met up and he’s director of finance at a startup. He was looking at his phone the entire time, just to proceed onto telling me he has emails from work. It makes me why he even wasted my time in the first place. Then after I got home I got a message saying he has a nice time and wants to see me again. I said thank you, sure, me too and blocked him. Haha 😆 he deserved it.
    Jan 7 0
  • Salesforce
    shankchuni

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    shankchunimore
    Female here. Got off all dating apps. Dating apps just made me lose faith in humanity. Couldn't spend hours meeting someone only to have them ghost. Just letting it be. Luck will strike when it does.
    (Used them few years back though)
    Jan 8 6
    • Oracle ypoint
      Yes, exactly because apps are designed for advertising as measured by the number of clicks and eyeballs/subscriptions. Getting quality leads are the sales person's (i.e. your) job. People, biology and psychology don't work that way!
      Jan 8
    • SAP jordy
      Post pics shankchuni . Asking for a friend
      Jan 8
    • Salesforce MorningLad
      Good stuff. I'm off dating apps too. Also, I am convinced that luck has already struck me. The way my life is is exactly how I want it to be. If someone comes along, so be it. If not, I'm still lucky. I am lucky to not be in a bad relationship, and to be single and healthy and free from responsibilities and have the financial freedom that I have, and so on.
      Jan 8
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      You might need to adjust your tastes. And by tastes I mean standards
      Jan 9
    • Salesforce
      lozere

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      lozeremore
      I don't think it's the rejection which bothers people. It's the exhaustion of texting back and forth, ghosting, and literally no semblance of personal connection. Agree with morninglad. Getting to where you are is my 2019 goal.
      Jan 9
    • Salesforce MorningLad
      I agree, lozere. People have forgotten their manners.

      ypoint, I didn't know people had that concern. At least I don't. I haven't come across a case like that.
      Jan 9
  • Microsoft / Eng Cacadoodoo
    How funny. I looked in SF for relationships online for years. Maybe you’re only going for the super good looking young white guys? Trying reading the profiles more and looking at the pics less.
    Jan 7 1
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      99/100 times when a girl has a problem with ghosting on dating apps, it's a user error.

      Goes for attractive dude with many options -> is surprised when ghosted. lol
      Jan 9
  • Salesforce rcno01
    Women I dated here do the same thing. Too many options are available and people don't know for how long they're gonna stay here, so they don't settle down. I still met great people online though.
    Jan 7 2
    • Microsoft / Eng Dr. 13
      Where is here for you?
      Jan 7
    • Salesforce rcno01
      SF
      Jan 7
  • New / Eng ☘️ guest
    Don’t worry just keep going out on dates. You will meet the right person. It’s all a numbers game and please don’t get discouraged. There are a lot of amazing guys out there too.
    Jan 7 3
    • Google laur3
      OP
      Did you find one online ?
      Jan 7
    • New / Eng ☘️ guest
      Yes I met all my boyfriends and fiancé online. You need to do work to filter them out though.

      I probably met like 100+ guys and had 5 long term relationships. I made sure I only slept w them once we figure out we should be exclusive. I looked at dating like a homework assignment, forced myself to go on dates even if I wasn’t feeling it. Some feelings developed over time, some did not.

      Only time will tell.
      Jan 7
    • Datometry / Eng LangEr
      ^ This!
      Jan 8
  • Google / Eng Bluths
    Try shaadi.com. Works wonders for finding long term commitments.
    Jan 7 6
    • Apple niceman
      What is this shaadi.com. Why everyone is from India ?
      Jan 7
    • Apple 88812122
      Shaadi is hindi for marriage. Its an Indian matrimony site
      Jan 7
    • Salesforce
      shankchuni

      Salesforce

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      I am blind to something and you are too.
      shankchunimore
      Three months on Shaadi dot com took me to a psychiatrists office!
      Jan 8
    • Apple 88812122
      Doesn’t work, i had 6 months premium. Wasted $93
      Jan 8
    • Salesforce
      shankchuni

      Salesforce

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      I am blind to something and you are too.
      shankchunimore
      I found myself exchanging emails with guys parents only to never hear from them ever. Just drained me out of my energy.
      Jan 8
    • Apple 88812122
      Mind sharing your profile id?😉
      Jan 8
  • New Fkwlwm
    I ended up marrying the woman who I initially just wanted to nightstand (via tinder). So you never know what happens! Btw I am so happy with her.
    Jan 8 0
  • Amazon what¿
    Guys are say that. Something casual means they are looking for sex (like always, no surprise) and not looking for a relationship. It is a way to not commit, before knowing a person, but not necessarily a hard no on a relationship .

    It takes pressure off both sides, like if the guy says he wants to marry you after a first date, you might be scared and block them.

    If you read the blind posts, there are so many guys who are looking for a relationship and find too many men compared to women.
    If you find a profile you want to reach out to, you can try to reply - that you are only looking to date and meet someone first, then see if there is a connection, see what the response is.
    Jan 8 0
  • SAP jordy
    OMG, did you grow up in USA? You should know what casual means.. no need to come here to ask
    Jan 7 0
  • New meeepy4
    I am married and have friends looking to date. Yes, guys are just looking for some hanky panky.
    Jan 7 0
  • Oracle ypoint
    While a lot of choice feels good, you only need one! Be ruthless in screening and save time. Over time, you'll develop the right instincts for this. Don't worry about missing out due to false negatives. Like in hiring, you don't want false positives, so review the small subset carefully for LTE. For something casual, you could ignore a couple of parameters to expand the set.
    Jan 8 2
    • Not happening
      Jan 8
    • Oracle ypoint
      😁 That's the kind of thinking that makes people HODL...
      Jan 8
  • I don’t know about your concern as nobody dates me
    Jan 9 0
  • Oracle redvsblue
    RIP inbox, OP.
    Jan 8 0

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