How I make a girl to pay or split a bill on a date?

Walmart smsmtrdn
Sep 9 212 Comments

I met this girl from online dating app. Asked her out few times and I am the one who pays all the time. I like her she’s sweet and hot but I don’t want to pay all the time. And she just looks like type of girl who expects man to pay on a date. What do I do?

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  • Amazon Dr. Jones
    Some women are just raised this way and you will never get them to pay. You have to decide if she’s worth it.
    Sep 9 17
    • State Street Corporation zdps
      I'm the one who is still married to a Russian woman. Traditional thing is not something about all of Russian women
      Sep 10
    • Amazon Dr. Jones
      You can point out exceptions all you want, the Russian woman the OP is talking about is obviously not an exception.
      Sep 10
    • State Street Corporation zdps
      They expect that man would pay until you raise that question. You can even get that surprising look. But if you have an honest talk with them you find they are not different from other women. They can pay for themselves. I dated only Russian girls exclusivity. You may call it an exception if you want.
      Sep 10
    • State Street Corporation zdps
      I'd say it's more manly thing to "provide". But it shouldn't be this way
      Sep 10
    • AnchorFree / Eng 🍪 cookie
      Me and my wife are Russian. Yes, a Russian girl is like that, it's a tradition, a culture thing. Geez, it's so Gay to ask a girl to pay.. dude are you serious? Just don't date.

      TC: 140
      Sep 12
  • Amazon trek34
    You cheap fuck
    Sep 9 4
  • Facebook leetworld
    Stop seeing her. She seems entitled to not even offer after a few dates.
    Sep 9 10
    • Walmart smsmtrdn
      OP
      We had sex.
      Sep 9
    • And she still doesn’t pay? You sure she ain’t an escort ?
      Sep 9
    • Bose
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      haITriedmore
      Then what are u complaining about lol.
      Sep 9
    • Walmart QTFP86
      Look like consumer is not aware of portfolio he being offered and what value added services are offered in this unspoken agreement or a nature of this commodity-consumer relationship.
      Sep 9
    • AnchorFree / Eng 🍪 cookie
      You like her, and you had sex AND now you want her to pay 50/50 when your TC is 250????? Please give me her number so I can tell her you're a jerk and she should stop dating you ASAP.
      Sep 12
  • Apple yeah!?
    One day try- Forgetting your wallet at home.
    Sep 9 3
    • Autodesk leetboba
      +1
      Sep 9
    • I keep an old credit card around for this reason. I use it to "pay" for one of the earlier dates that might be a little on the pricier side to see how my date will react when it comes back declined
      Sep 9
    • Autodesk leetboba
      ^ that’s clever, I might try it haha
      Sep 9
  • Square riJbJiid7
    Educate her on feminism and gender roles.
    Sep 9 4
    • Walmart smsmtrdn
      OP
      She definitely doesn’t look like a feminist at all! She’s more spoiled old school girl. But I really like her.
      Sep 9
    • Mozilla eRqw31
      What does a feminist look like?
      Sep 9
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      What are gender roles?
      Sep 9
    • Microsoft KKWh68
      Dude this is bad advice. She may get that short feminist hair dyed in blue and have nose ring. That will be horrible
      Sep 12
  • Oracle / Eng aham
    Men - I don't want a feminist who fights for equality and pays her own bills

    Men - I don't want a old fashioned woman who doesn't split bills
    Sep 9 20
    • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
      Keep in mind that many feminists don't necessarily fight for equality in these areas directly under the banner on feminism, but my own experience is that being feminist is an extremely good predictor for also supporting better mental healthcare, justice reform, etc.
      Sep 9
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      I believe in equality be it for men or women. If a woman is taking advantage of a man (not sharing responsibilities) or taking undue adv ofc I am not on their side.
      Sep 9
    • Yep this pretty much summarizes the expectations of many Blind men in a nutshell.

      Hate feminism, feminists, and also traditional minded women.
      Sep 11
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      ^^ so in general they hate women :p
      Sep 11
    • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
      You mean "females" because they can't use any wording that ascribes too much humanity.
      Sep 11
  • LinkedIn ex-fb
    As a feminist, I’m outraged at the lack of gender equality....
    Oh wait, This doesn’t suit my agenda. Never mind!
    Sep 9 12
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

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      I didn’t tell you to regret anything, just having a dialogue 👍🏼 totally disagree that it’s “only fair” for you to see feminism as nothing but sexism but agree to disagree I guess
      Sep 9
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

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      I hope you share your concerns and have these conversations with all the feminists you know in real life though. No other way to see the change you hope to see
      Sep 9
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

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      Mi8c2more
      Sadly I have run in conservative Christian circles where virtually everyone literally is “not a feminist” and believes women belong at home caring for children and cannot be leaders.

      Not sure what “if you have the emotional courage for it” is supposed to mean (certainly not a very charitable way to invite someone to consider another view) but yes, I’ll watch the video.
      Sep 9
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

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      Mi8c2more
      I just finished the video. I am pretty surprised that you’d share a video about having empathy and compassion for those you deem your enemy by saying “if you have the emotional courage for it.” I’d suggest taking the advice of the speaker in the video and being a bit more charitable.
      I do not have the same view the filmmaker had prior to making her documentary. As I said I’ve run in circles where calling yourself a feminist is literally seen as sinful/heretical. When I call myself a feminist, I mean that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men, not that women are the only ones with problems. I am married to a man who has dealt with some really serious issues including mental health issues and instead of getting support to seek counseling, he was told by other men to “man up.” Men face serious and dire problems in our culture. I would never deny that.
      Sep 9
    • EATON / Sales
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      I didn’t say you were insincere, I said you could have been more charitable and at least attempted to give me the benefit of the doubt.
      I still think “men’s rights activism” is a term that has become so loaded it is probably not going to help/will work against the actual goals of those who want to advocate for issues that uniquely or more severely affect men.
      Of course, that eventually comes down to semantics/who “owns” language which is not really the point of this discussion.
      Thank you for the dialogue and sharing the video. I did appreciate it. I’m not here for trolling and actually enjoy real conversations :)
      Sep 10
  • Ellie Mae mr 🥜
    She does pay you. In terms of sex.
    So stop complaining
    Sep 9 8
    • Ellie Mae mr 🥜
      I am not saying anything. Just make your own opinion
      Sep 9
    • Orion / Cust. Srv. 🌹♟🗡
      Y’all are incel pigs (except wayfair)
      Sep 9
    • Microsoft cancel!
      Wayfair if she is using sex as substitute for paying, you bet that's what I am implying.
      Sep 9
    • Ellie Mae mr 🥜
      @orion , I am not saying anything.
      Sep 9
    • She gets sex too ...
      Sep 10
  • Microsoft / Product TeLangPu
    It's called trade-offs. A sweet hot chick who pays her share and wants to date you would be a Unicorn.
    Sep 9 6
    • My girlfriend is sweet, intelligent, beautiful, and we split meals and everything else (eg show tickets, surfboard rentals). Am I dating a unicorn?
      Sep 9
    • Microsoft / Product TeLangPu
      Beautiful doesn't count, I'm talking hot.
      Sep 9
    • Amazon Dr. Jones
      @nopotato No, you’re just cheap.
      Sep 9
    • @nopotato you are lying....
      Sep 10
    • AnchorFree / Eng 🍪 cookie
      @nopotato, a unicorn, or you both are teenagers then it's ok.
      Sep 12
  • Oath HK_黄尸
    I had a mad crush in college and ended up dating this girl for months. I paid every bill for every date. But later I found she was also dating other guys. Only until then did I wake up and stopped seeing her. When you are paying for everything you are not only spending money but also building inequality and losing self-esteem. It was an expensive lesson but lm glad I learned it
    Sep 9 0
  • Citrix Systems / Eng ಅವನೌನ ಹಡಾ
    Go to restroom after food and hide there until she calls. She would have paid by then
    Sep 9 1
    • Cruise Automation / Eng ⛸️
      if she doesn't wanna pay, she's just gonna place the bill on your side, waiting for when you get back.
      Sep 9
  • Oracle / Eng aham
    Ask her why she doesn't want to split the bill.

    Some women think they invest lot of time in make up and to look good and expect the date to pay in return. This is the argument they use. Or she might be a free loader
    Sep 9 25
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

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      Talking to married people about dating is like talking to homeowners about NIMBYism? That’s fair i guess lol
      Sep 9
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      ^^ you are lucky you found someone.

      Online dating has made it more worse for women who don't go by societal standards.
      Sep 9
    • Walmart smsmtrdn
      OP
      Did you ladies split the bill when were dating ?
      Sep 9
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

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      Yup, for sure. Again we were young so it was pretty different, but I never assumed he’d always pay
      Sep 9
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      @walmart we do. But we all believe in equality

      We are not your type as you dislike feminists. As you said this girl is not feminist so don't expect her to split the bill
      Sep 9
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    • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
      Who would've guessed that a forum full of incels, redpillers, and general sexists wouldn't like feminism. Weird
      Sep 9
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

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      At least you are a voice of reason though lol
      Sep 9
    • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
      Because being around all of you makes me feel better about myself. No matter how bad it ever gets, at least I'm not you guys 👍
      Sep 9
    • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
      Oh, I don't have to, but it's sure a nice bonus. Plus what else am I supposed to do while I watch YouTube after getting home from the gym? It's amusing peek into the bizarre world that is the minds of peers.
      Sep 9
    • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
      Got one, thanks for the advice though! This is the quality content I come to Blind for.
      Sep 9
  • Davey leetRabbit
    if the OP went at her honestly and told her "you know, I wish you could help out every so often", and she still refuses, then I'm sorry, but then he should definitely consider finding someone else.

    she might not be offering right now because of some cultural thing or just not being aware how much money the guy ends up with every month, but if he tells her and she still won't change, then she's not someone I would personally want to be with.
    Sep 9 1
    • Facebook cocosof
      What? If you're earning 250TC you don't need help paying for dinner.
      Sep 9
  • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
    Say "Hey, you wanna pick it up this time?"
    Sep 9 0
  • Google Britt
    This is on you. I've always split the bill right from date one. When you enable this behavior you get stuck with the bill. Lesson for the next girl you date.
    Sep 10 2
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

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      Just curious, what exactly do you do when the check comes? Has this ever gone poorly for you?
      Sep 10
    • Google Britt
      Just tell the waiter that you're splitting it. If your date isn't motioning towards the bill, as you're reaching for your wallet say something along the lines of 'Want to do half and half?' or something like that. If she likes you, she won't care about splitting it. If she doesn't or is raised to believe that men should pay for everything you've dodged that bullet I guess.
      Sep 10
  • Facebook PKMKB_1
    ...ask?

    “Do you wanna pick up this one?”
    Sep 9 0
  • eBay DickJonas
    Think of it as you are paying for a good quality food for yourself + sex. If you think if you ask her to pay is worth risking sex, go ahead. Else stop whining
    Sep 9 0
  • Apple
    TWB-tWBu16

    Apple

    BIO
    I’m a software engineer. Right now my job is focused on full stack web dev but I love everything related to tech
    TWB-tWBu16more
    Ask her to split before going out
    Sep 9 4
    • Walmart smsmtrdn
      OP
      I think it’s gonna be a deal breaker for her.
      Sep 9
    • Apple
      TWB-tWBu16

      Apple

      BIO
      I’m a software engineer. Right now my job is focused on full stack web dev but I love everything related to tech
      TWB-tWBu16more
      So you don’t know if it’s a deal breaker for her or not. And if you did know, you could make a more informed decision
      Sep 9
    • Walmart smsmtrdn
      OP
      I know if I just ask her to split the bill it’s gonna be a deal breaker. She mentioned several times that she doesn’t like cheap men .
      Sep 9
    • Apple
      TWB-tWBu16

      Apple

      BIO
      I’m a software engineer. Right now my job is focused on full stack web dev but I love everything related to tech
      TWB-tWBu16more
      Then either stop being a cheap man or date someone who doesn’t mind cheap men...?
      Sep 10
  • ViaSat / Eng zag37
    Minor problem. Don't make it a big one.
    Sep 9 1
    • Ellie Mae mr 🥜
      You damn right. Today op is cribbing about paying for dinner, imagine how he will pay tomorrow for hairdo, makeup, perfumes, thongs etc.
      Sep 9

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