How did you meet your partner

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Ama B.O

New Eng

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Amazon, Google, Facebook
Ama B.Omore
May 29 98 Comments

Let's give a quick and tiny story of how you met your significant other (girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, fiance, partner etc..)

- Make sure to specify who your significant other is: ie. girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband.

- How long in relationship?

- Happiness scale 1 to 10.

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TOP 98 Comments
  • Amazon / Eng imaballer
    Self, we grew up together, 27 years, happiness: 10/10 .
    May 29 5
    • Salesforce tensorchic
      Lol me too :)
      May 29
    • Oracle / Eng intvlife
      Siamese twins ;)
      May 29
    • Salesforce tensorchic
      No one said partner(x) != x.
      May 29
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      This guy nailed it. Me too 😂
      May 29
    • Amazon SNcv30
      Hi Jaimie
      May 29
  • Amazon bettylou
    I was his boss...... long before there were rules for that sort of thing. Married 23 years
    May 29 2
    • Microsoft dabbing
      Spicy
      May 29
    • Microsoft pJcW86
      He was "promoted"
      May 29
  • LinkedIn / Eng jet la
    Bharatmatrimony.com
    May 29 2
    • Varian Medical FNhu82
      My dude reppin the shit
      May 29
    • Microsoft qccj55
      Ads are getting smarter
      May 29
  • Amazon rbaratheon
    Arranged marriage, my wife seems to hangout with her twin brother quite a bit. Happiness: 4/10
    May 29 3
    • Amazon / Eng
      shorts

      Amazon Eng

      PRE
      Google
      shortsmore
      Cersei and Jamie?
      May 29
    • VMware iterator
      😄
      May 29
    • Nvidia bit-coin
      Well that's a yes
      May 29
  • Microsoft boogl
    Husband. Was doing my PhD and we met through a common friend. He impressed me the moment I started talking about my research and he cited a paper spot on my niche topic. I was like, this dude must know a lot. Together for 5+ years, married for 4. Happy 10/10.
    May 29 2
    • Turns out he knows nothing?
      May 29
    • New / Eng
      Ama B.O

      New Eng

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      Amazon, Google, Facebook
      Ama B.Omore
      OP
      Sounds very similar to a scene in the movie Limitless. Very cool 👍
      May 29
  • Microsoft qccj55
    I was an intern at Microsoft. She was too.
    We were working in 2 different team but her mentor was in my team room so she walked by my team room very often. I never talked to her during the 3 months of internship.

    Then the next year, new internship... I crossed her, took my balls in hand, and started a conversation. Then I stalked her in the internal glossary to find her email address, which allowed me to ping her to go on a lunch at work... One lunch... And a seconds, a third blablabla during all the summer.

    She got a crush on me and I figured it out weeks later. I got one on her too. Now we're together for 6 months as FTE, working on the same product but in a different team. However, I'm working remotely for visa reasons. So happiness 9/10 and hopefully soon at 10/10
    May 29 1
    • Amazon / Eng imcute
      Vancouver ?
      May 29
  • Nvidia civil
    After messaging back and forth for seven years on Grindr, we decided to get married online and have two chia pets on the way due in October.
    May 29 0
  • DocuSign girlyy
    Arranged marriage. Happiness scale 10
    May 29 7
    • Nvidia bit-coin
      You have more knowledge/experience with arranged marriage than I do, true.

      But just the fact that you put "love marriages" in quotes is a very... interesting perspective.
      May 29
    • Facebook Paillier
      How can less information (arranged marriage) be better than more information (love marriage), on average?

      Your arranged marriage may be the awesomest in the world - you got lucky. Similarly, in the small sample set of your friends, maybe the ones with arranged marriages got lucky and are happier.

      I don't think this generalizes though.

      One more question - before your arranged marriage, did you have a long, romantic relationship? Just making sure you have a good baseline 🙂
      May 29
    • Microsoft RandomInt
      bit-coin - I put it in quotes as often these are actually infatuation marriages.
      In any marriage, arranged or not, the long-term survival generally hinges around the development of deep and lasting love. That sort of love can really only develop over time and through shared growth and tackling of challenges.
      May 29
    • DocuSign girlyy
      We knew each other for a month before we got engaged. I would say our interests and thought process aligned. So we got married. It’s been 4years now. We have lot of differences as well(from music to food). But both of us respect each other knowing one’s strength and weakness. Everyone we knew got surprised when they learnt that ours was a arranged marriage.
      May 29
    • Nvidia bit-coin
      In the west, I would say most people maintain the idea of marriage is a union between two people who love each other. Love first, because that keeps it together besides the whole attractiveness of romance and kinship. Very easy to get divorced unfortunately as family pressure is often less effective or a consideration in the equation.

      Getting married because it's agreed upon by people other than the two involved seems to be a harder start and finish, to build trust, character or achieve anything close to love instead of just not hating each other.
      May 29
  • Microsoft sbbsjsj
    I'm an ABCD : American Born Confused Desi. I have had one sided crushes since I was 12, never had a success. Except once, he liked me back for a week. And I liked him back for 7 years , on going. It's save to say, FML.
    Parents want me to look at bharatmtrimony websites. And I have, I met his parents first, then I my family and I drove across the country to meet him, and I had to get engaged in the first meeting. And they told to kiss. I obviously couldn't do it. That's slightly ... Um.. you know... INSANE!!! so that engagement broke off.

    And now here I am, sexually deprived. Incapable of dating. (I need at least 2-3 years of friendship and trust building before I date, or develop romantic feelings). People tell me that's not practical. The only way that could happen is during school. And school is ling done. I'm not going back.

    Idk if I'll ever find someone I love. Or if I have to marry someone that I'm not attracted to.

    Another silver lining on top of all this is, I'm indian, brown woman, and I'm attracted to Chinese men. Sadly none of them take me seriously, and they would never agree on a long term relationship with me. Anyways that's my experience.
    May 29 3
    • Facebook bl@ckmamba
      2-3 years of friendship before you date? Sorry to say but no one is gonna wait that long.
      May 29
    • Microsoft RandomInt
      Find something, anything, that you really enjoy doing in a social group that is not centered around dating and do it. Doing things with others with similar interests is the best way to establish friendships.
      Examples: working in a charity, hiking, skiing, singing, community theater, etc.
      May 29
    • Amazon LAxL08
      Hit me up 😉
      Jun 2
  • Cloudflare / Eng myimouto
    I met my wife in a pick-up group in world of warcraft. 9/10 idk
    May 29 0
  • Amazon / Mktg
    pkwD00

    Amazon Mktg

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    Microsoft
    pkwD00more
    Picked her up off Aurora Ave. 1 night happiness an 8.
    May 29 2
  • IBM / Eng
    hashClash

    IBM Eng

    BIO
    Install Gentoo
    hashClashmore
    University
    May 29 0
  • Amazon / Eng Mlsh17
    Wife. She hired me, then we started dating, then I quit after working there for a year (for reasons unrelated to the relationship). Then we got married. 2 years later she hired me again at a different company and she laid me off after working there a few months (reasons unrelated to marriage). I’d still probably work with her again. 10/10.
    May 29 4
    • New / Eng
      Ama B.O

      New Eng

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      Amazon, Google, Facebook
      Ama B.Omore
      OP
      How did you feel about the fact that she was your boss/Superior at work?
      May 29
    • Amazon / Eng Mlsh17
      Wasn’t a problem at all. In both cases, she was CEO, I was an engineer. First time at a 4 person company, second time at a 50 person company.
      May 29
    • New / Eng
      Ama B.O

      New Eng

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      Amazon, Google, Facebook
      Ama B.Omore
      OP
      How did the employers find out was it awkward or it was fine and normal?
      May 29
    • Amazon / Eng Mlsh17
      First time it was at a 4 person company, so it was pretty obvious to the other two people when we started dating. At a company that small, there aren’t really any boss/superior dynamics - it’s just a group of people on a team building something.

      Second time, we were married before starting working together, so everyone knew up front, and was fine with it.
      May 30
  • Amazon
    .A0b1

    Amazon

    PRE
    Microsoft
    BIO
    ...
    .A0b1more
    Met her the first time when I visited my best friend whom she was dating.
    Now, we are together.
    6 Months, Happiness: 10/10
    May 29 2
    • Facebook Transforme
      How's your best friend doing, Brutus?
      May 29
    • Amazon
      .A0b1

      Amazon

      PRE
      Microsoft
      BIO
      ...
      .A0b1more
      Well let’s just say that we are not friends anymore and, I don’t really know.
      May 29
  • Microsoft rgutfhk
    Wife, met in college, love at first sight (for me) dated 9 years through college, grad school, work, many years of long distance, married 6 years, 10/10
    May 29 0
  • Amazon sRjf52
    Met my now wife In college , 22 years ago, happiness scale 20,0000000000
    May 29 8
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      Lucky you. Best 😊
      May 29
    • Amazon sRjf52
      And by the way, we are both desi as well. Met her back home, few years on college together , then got married back home and arrived in US together with a new born baby :) . He is ready to go to college and we will be empty nesters ready to partayyyyyyyy again :)!
      Jun 1
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      Wow that's a cool journey. College relationships are adorable. How old are you guys now, if you don't mind?
      Jun 1
    • Amazon sRjf52
      I am 45, she is 40
      Jun 2
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      You guys married young it seems. Amazing journey. Wish you guys happiness 😊
      Jun 3
  • Microsoft RandomInt
    We met over 2 decades ago while participating in a group social activity/hobby we both enjoy. Neither of us was "looking for someone", but we fell for each other that day and have been together ever since. We got married about a year after meeting.
    Happiness 10, though over the course of all this time has probably varied from 4-10 with the low point at around 6 years and an overall upward slope from there to year 15.
    May 29 4
    • SWC / Data
      spiked

      SWC Data

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      Virtusa
      BIO
      Looking for new opportunities in data. Maybe move to North Carolina.
      spikedmore
      What caused the low point?
      May 29
    • Microsoft RandomInt
      People grow at different rates and in different directions. That was the point at which our respective growth paths diverged the most. When you get to a point like that you either have to find ways to grow together or... Not
      May 29
    • SWC / Data
      spiked

      SWC Data

      PRE
      Virtusa
      BIO
      Looking for new opportunities in data. Maybe move to North Carolina.
      spikedmore
      Good reminder to me in my first year of marriage. Thanks, and good luck to you!
      May 29
    • Microsoft RandomInt
      Our advice to all newly married couples is that it generally comes down to both partners agreeing to making the marriage work being more important thing than any specific difficulty along the road. Then when difficultues occur, you don't look at leaving the marriage as the "simple solution". That will never be 100%, there will always be people who realize that being in the marriage is no longer the best option.
      May 29
  • Apple lsosg
    First BF.. met in 2009, fell hard for him. Long distance relationship, married 4 years back.. finding out that we are completely two different people now.. wanting different things in life. Happiness 2/10.
    May 29 2
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      What different things? How did you not know about them in so many years?
      May 29
    • Apple lsosg
      I guess.. cliche - when you start living together and families get involved.. things change..
      May 29
  • Google / Eng
    plaster

    Google Eng

    PRE
    Amazon
    plastermore
    - wife (would still be gf, but visa needed marriage)
    - female friend asked "wanna hook up with my sister?"
    - 5 years
    - 8 happiness
    May 30 3
    • New / Eng
      Ama B.O

      New Eng

      PRE
      Amazon, Google, Facebook
      Ama B.Omore
      OP
      Did you guys hookup that same night?
      May 30
    • Google / Eng
      plaster

      Google Eng

      PRE
      Amazon
      plastermore
      No, went out twice first with her and my friend, then hooked up.

      No, sadly no trio.
      May 30
    • New / Eng
      Ama B.O

      New Eng

      PRE
      Amazon, Google, Facebook
      Ama B.Omore
      OP
      That's sad if you didn't start going out with her but since she's yours now, I guess it's a good thing ;)
      May 30
  • Apple Jdkhhhhhh
    Still single and live with my hands
    May 29 2
    • Nvidia bit-coin
      Soon to be married but still handy?
      May 30
    • Apple Jdkhhhhhh
      Yeh bro
      May 30