I am a 26 year old Indian guy(5'10"). I have a good physique (been going to gym for about 2 years) and have a proper dressing sense. I moved to Santa Clara and haven't been able to find any girl company. I enjoy hiking and have gone with some meetups, but I mostly see old women there or couples. And there are certainly not a lot of women in tech side of my department whom you can interact with. So, the question is to the Indian men of blind, how did you find a gf in the bay area? And as per the ongoing tradition: TC: $225k YOE: 2 years PS: Not working at cisco anymore Edit 1: Tried a couple of dating sites, but haven't found any luck(why do most of them need a fb account?). Probably should work on making the profile better Edit 2: Open to have a relationship with girl of any ethnicity. NO "pressure from Indian parents to date/marry indian women " kind of crap!!!
Join the paid Meetup group - Tribe. I think the membership fee is $5 / month and it's totally worth it.
Do a lot of people actually meet SO's there?
This is exactly the reason I (and many other women in my social circle) have stopped going to meetups. Guys would start hitting on us there.
Haven't had any luck with tinder, bumble and coffee meets bagel. Would definitely try out match
Dilmil, if you are into Indian women. One of my female friends got into a serious relationship through that and may be getting married next year.
Are you handsome? Do your parents only want you to date other Indians?
Edited the post. I am decent looking;a little fair (Punjabi) and people sometimes confuse me for a mexican. No, there is no pressure from parents to find an Indian girl. They had an arranged marriage, got divorced when I was 5, and from that experience I have decided not to go towards that direction . Would like to know more about the girl more before being in a serious relationship
Good on you. Smart decision. It really doesnt make sense for someone to get married after 2 weeks of dating like they do back in india. Now a lot of the indian girls are different from our parents generation so they probably wont put up with something they wont like during marriage.
online dating tip: make a fake girl profile and scope out what your competition is. look at the pictures of guys and figure out what are they doing right with their profiles. take this as seriously as you would studying for a tech interview, as it can have a lot of payoff if you meet the right girl because of it. girls do this *all the time* to understand the profiles of their competition, standard strategy.
Go on sugar daddy sites and just toss money at the problem. It’s an easy solution and you get to have pick of the litter.
+1, a friend of mine (female) used seeking arrangements and had some pretty fantastic experiences here. she’s in a committed relationship now with the guy and they are pretty happy.
Was she the sugar momma or sugar baby?
Go out and meet, join some group like dance grp, or some sports group or some other. You’ll be social.
get the offers from gf first
Good luck. You seem like a nice guy. If I were single I’d totally date you.
Same. If I were in the Bay, I would consider this guy. He seems nice to me. Nice guys are rare anyway.
Haha, thanks! Made my day :)
OP, on said dating apps, do you have a problem getting matches or a problem converting matches to dates? I come in peace, not trolling.
Probably both, there have been times when a girl unmatched me, even without starting a conversation.
The unmatched without a conversation is fine. It’s either done by the app itself (when it detects there is a bot or a profile that’s been reported a lot) or if the girl wants to prune her matches list. Either way, no biggie as it saves you a lot of time on the conversation itself. Have you tried Bumble? The girl has to make the first move there. Yes, they’re normally the canned, “Hi! How’s it going?” kinda openers but it’s still better than you starting a conversation and not getting reciprocated at all.
In the bay area you're kinda fucked unless you're extremely attractive. Could try moving to Manhattan
Or extremely wealthy.