How do I find a gf?

Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
Nov 4, 2018 63 Comments

I am a 26 year old Indian guy(5'10"). I have a good physique (been going to gym for about 2 years) and have a proper dressing sense. I moved to Santa Clara and haven't been able to find any girl company. I enjoy hiking and have gone with some meetups, but I mostly see old women there or couples. And there are certainly not a lot of women in tech side of my department whom you can interact with. So, the question is to the Indian men of blind, how did you find a gf in the bay area?

And as per the ongoing tradition:

TC: $225k
YOE: 2 years

PS: Not working at cisco anymore

Edit 1: Tried a couple of dating sites, but haven't found any luck(why do most of them need a fb account?). Probably should work on making the profile better

Edit 2: Open to have a relationship with girl of any ethnicity. NO "pressure from Indian parents to date/marry indian women " kind of crap!!!

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  • Uber / Ops techdragon
    Good luck. You seem like a nice guy. If I were single I’d totally date you.
    Nov 4, 2018 8
    • Clover Health / Eng doenfh
      Hell, I am single. HMU for a date!
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Good luck, OP.
      Nov 4, 2018
    • @Clover good luck to you too
      Nov 4, 2018
    • I guess making a thread like this on Blind is one way to get some dates :)
      Nov 4, 2018
    • I am expecting a surge in these posts over the next few days 😀
      Nov 4, 2018
  • Google !comet!
    online dating tip:

    make a fake girl profile and scope out what your competition is. look at the pictures of guys and figure out what are they doing right with their profiles. take this as seriously as you would studying for a tech interview, as it can have a lot of payoff if you meet the right girl because of it. girls do this *all the time* to understand the profiles of their competition, standard strategy.
    Nov 4, 2018 2
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      Would do. Thanks for the tip!
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Cisco bitset
      Great strategy. Everything is so competitive these days. Finding 200k job, finding p***y.
      Nov 4, 2018
  • Compass / Eng
    FUPayMe

    Compass Eng

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    FUPayMemore
    Go on sugar daddy sites and just toss money at the problem. It’s an easy solution and you get to have pick of the litter.
    Nov 4, 2018 5
    • Google !comet!
      +1, a friend of mine (female) used seeking arrangements and had some pretty fantastic experiences here. she’s in a committed relationship now with the guy and they are pretty happy.
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Salesforce
      Git log

      Salesforce

      BIO
      I am blind to something and you are too.
      Git logmore
      Was she the sugar momma or sugar baby?
      Nov 9, 2018
    • Google twinacdp
      baby
      Nov 9, 2018
    • Salesforce
      Git log

      Salesforce

      BIO
      I am blind to something and you are too.
      Git logmore
      Curious, are these relationships those based on equality? I mean if you met someone as a "sugar baby", how do the Dynamics change once you are committed and need to put in equal weight??
      Nov 9, 2018
    • Compass / Eng
      FUPayMe

      Compass Eng

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      FUPayMemore
      They aren’t based on equality. But they are some of the most honest relationships you can find. Both people know exactly what the other wants and can then decide if they want to pursue it.
      Nov 9, 2018
  • Google / Eng 🍑☁️
    In the bay area you're kinda fucked unless you're extremely attractive. Could try moving to Manhattan
    Nov 4, 2018 1
    • Uber / Ops techdragon
      Or extremely wealthy.
      Nov 4, 2018
  • McAfee JohnMcPee
    OP, on said dating apps, do you have a problem getting matches or a problem converting matches to dates? I come in peace, not trolling.
    Nov 4, 2018 5
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      Probably both, there have been times when a girl unmatched me, even without starting a conversation.
      Nov 4, 2018
    • McAfee JohnMcPee
      The unmatched without a conversation is fine. It’s either done by the app itself (when it detects there is a bot or a profile that’s been reported a lot) or if the girl wants to prune her matches list. Either way, no biggie as it saves you a lot of time on the conversation itself.

      Have you tried Bumble? The girl has to make the first move there. Yes, they’re normally the canned, “Hi! How’s it going?” kinda openers but it’s still better than you starting a conversation and not getting reciprocated at all.
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      That unmatched thing, happened to me on bumble :P, but it was certainly better than a lot of other apps out there
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      Anyways, thanks for the advice :)
      Nov 4, 2018
    • McAfee JohnMcPee
      I would like to add that it’s all about the pictures. I initially joined a couple of these apps to test the waters a couple of months ago with pictures I thought were good. Nope, you need to vet them from some of your female friends to get some perspective. Or something like photofeeler.com. The results can be skewed due to people just wanting to reap karma on the website, but can give you pointers.

      Or, have a friend who dabbles in photography take pictures of you in various settings (close up, doing some fun activity, with friends, etc). Think of it like an interview. You gotta put up your best face, even if it won’t really matter when you actually work there.
      Nov 4, 2018
  • Facebook fhaksoqbre
    get the offers from gf first
    Nov 4, 2018 2
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      What does that mean?
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      Lol, I get it. I am in the process of preparation, would surely update you when I get one!
      Nov 4, 2018
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  • Easier to get into Google than getting a decent looking gf here
    Nov 4, 2018 1
    • Uber / Ops techdragon
      Let’s see how you look.
      Nov 4, 2018
  • Uber / Ops techdragon
    Also OP you’re going to have a lot of guys come on here who have been in failed relationships giving you advice on the worst possible ways to get women. Don’t listen to them.

    They are single and bitter for a reason. They focus mainly on looks, go for the wrong women, then blame all women for their relationship shortcomings; primarily their inability to find quality women.

    Keep on being a good guy and a great girl will come! Goodnight.
    Nov 4, 2018 1
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      Thank you! :) Have a wonderful week ahead
      Nov 4, 2018
  • Salesforce Escobar
    Join the paid Meetup group - Tribe. I think the membership fee is $5 / month and it's totally worth it.
    Nov 4, 2018 8
    • Salesforce Escobar
      They have a strict policy to discontinue the membership if you report someone being a creep. So don't be a creep.
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Salesforce Escobar
      @🍑☁️, you can meet SO's anywhere around in the walk of life, you just have to open your eyes, heart and mind for it to happen.
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Salesforce Escobar
      Not an app. Just a Meetup group with more than 10 meetups a month, a platform to meet young professionals. Many friends had great success meeting people, one of them got married (Punjabi guy and Canadian girl) and few others seeing each other. I don't want to set high expectations, but just give it a try. You'll know what I am talking about in just one month if you go to their meetups.
      Nov 4, 2018
    • PayPal YTzb32
      Whats SO?
      Nov 5, 2018
    • Expedia / Eng hvmi04
      Significant Other
      Nov 6, 2018
  • Hop on dating sites. POF but that may just get you flings. If you want something more serious sign up for match.com
    Nov 4, 2018 2
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      Haven't had any luck with tinder, bumble and coffee meets bagel. Would definitely try out match
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Dilmil, if you are into Indian women. One of my female friends got into a serious relationship through that and may be getting married next year.
      Nov 4, 2018
  • Collective Health RushHour
    You are Indian and taller than 5'6"? You'll have great success on Shaadi.com.
    Nov 4, 2018 0
  • New / Mgmt
    TheOracle

    New Mgmt

    BIO
    ...not that Oracle.
    TheOraclemore
    Are you handsome? Do your parents only want you to date other Indians?
    Nov 4, 2018 4
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      Edited the post.
      I am decent looking;a little fair (Punjabi) and people sometimes confuse me for a mexican. No, there is no pressure from parents to find an Indian girl. They had an arranged marriage, got divorced when I was 5, and from that experience I have decided not to go towards that direction . Would like to know more about the girl more before being in a serious relationship
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Intel sushhuh
      Good on you. Smart decision. It really doesnt make sense for someone to get married after 2 weeks of dating like they do back in india. Now a lot of the indian girls are different from our parents generation so they probably wont put up with something they wont like during marriage.
      Nov 4, 2018
    • Google / Mktg Googleywe
      What is with Indians obsession over fairness? Get a life
      Nov 9, 2018
    • Cisco / Eng Shshdheh
      @google, was just describing myself. Nothing else. Don't overthink
      Nov 9, 2018
  • Microsoft Fggitt
    There seems to be something seriously wrong in our dating world.
    Anyway, I have heard a couple of success stories on dilmil.
    Nov 6, 2018 1
    • Axtria nyc!
      Yup, I heard the same
      Nov 6, 2018
  • New / Consultant
    ILiL17

    New Consultant

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    ILiL17more
    First be honest and don't lie about your TC .
    Nov 5, 2018 1
    • Cisco / Eng Aftghdex
      OP
      Seems like you're pretty new to Blind
      Nov 5, 2018
  • Zillow Group GilFoyle1
    Simple O(1) solution.....blow up doll?
    Nov 5, 2018 1
    • Uber / Ops techdragon
      OP this is one of the examples I was talking about ☺️. Don’t be like ☝️ guy.
      Nov 5, 2018
  • Nextdoor / Eng fSMb86
    You can try asking girls out in person....
    Jul 10 0
  • Apple / Eng vxwh42
    You feel honest and cute to me. I am single OP. HMU.
    Nov 9, 2018 0
  • Apple Natallia
    Get one from India is your best bet
    Nov 6, 2018 0
  • Apple / Eng Marijuana
    The problem is that you live in Santa Clara.
    Nov 5, 2018 0