How do I find a husband?

Wayfair / Eng
Sineteeta

Wayfair Eng

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A new grad in a new city :)
Sineteetamore
Aug 27 266 Comments

Hello friends,

Before you troll this post, stop right there, take a minute and think how important it is for one to have a suitable partner. We worry so much about our careers, make it our identity and lose ourselves to it. I'm one of those.

I was brought up in a traditional middle class household in South India. So I never allowed myself any of the fun that I think my parents won't approve of. Never dated anyone, had very poor social life. Early life social conditioning has influenced me so much that I struggle to socialize although my world view has changed a lot as I grew up.

Now I'm 26 (turning 27 this December), graduated, have a well paying job but I feel too old to casually date, get to know people, try going it with different people to find the suitable one. My parents are now open minded, they started looking for a suitable guy on matrimonial sites and wish that I had a boyfriend. Sigh.

Any tips of meeting/dating Indian men in Boston area? I tried a few dating apps, did not like the experience. Been talking to guys from matrimonial site but don't like them either.

Thanks in advance.

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TOP 266 Comments
  • Facebook S4MEER
    Good luck. At that age your market has greatly diminished. You should expect to settle and not waste even more time searching for a unicorn
    Aug 27 13
    • Intel / Eng
      hulahoops1

      Intel Eng

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      Intel Corporation
      hulahoops1more
      Op, it's never too late.
      Aug 27
    • Google workfrom🏝
      Lol men caring about degree? That has to be sarcasm right?
      Aug 27
    • SAP ell€
      ^ Well, men like YOU don't, THAT is clear
      Aug 27
    • Hard put? two names for you:

      Scott Adams & Kristina Basham. *mic drop*
      Aug 27
    • SAP ell€
      Two names? How many times have I told you that two names do not a generalization make.
      Aug 27
  • Expedia Group dspd12
    26 is NOT too old.....
    Aug 27 10
    • Indeed Decider
      “Facebook's reply is what makes me wonder how much longer women will continue to date men”

      This is everything.
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      @twitter, relax, breathe
      Aug 28
    • Flagged by the community.

    • Uber ananna
      @Decider Exactly 🤣🤣
      Aug 28
    • New JmDT61
      In Asian countries everything over 25 is too old if that person isn't married or at least have a fiance already
      Aug 28
  • VMware xyz...
    Why looking for only Indian men?
    Aug 27 11
    • Amazon LwEF67
      You’re destined for an unhappy life if you’re marrying someone for your parents and not you. Find someone you love no matter what race, sex, or class!
      Aug 27
    • Amazon vbjimg
      where’s the fun in that, get a guy they can’t communicate with and they’ll leave you alone
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      @citrix, I don't watch sports. I love pancakes. But I get your point. It's really not that difficult to find a connection with someone from a different nationality. A colleague of mine is 34 and American. He studied bachelors in chemical engineering and worked as a bartender when he started his career. He's 100% opposite to the kind of guy I want for myself is what I thought when I met him. But he's so nice, fun, mature, understanding. Living with someone like that will be effortless. I really like his perspectives towards life and how easy going he is. He treats me like a kiddo and give him a chocolate when he helps me with work. I'm not interested in this specific guy. He's married and no longer works with our company. But giving it as an example. Cultural backgrounds aren't as important as they seem.
      Aug 27
    • Facebook GXuw28
      My parents didn't approve a lot of things but eventually came around. Parents are people too and that means that they have prejudices and flaws but they can learn and grow too. If they love you they will come to understand that what makes you happy is more important
      Aug 28
    • eBay maybeno
      I’m an Indian dating an American. My parents visited me and we all lived together. It went far better than I thought. I now sometimes even forget that I’m dating someone who is not of my culture.
      Aug 29
  • Bloomberg / Eng F.U. money
    Lol @ too old

    I have two questions. Please don’t be offended, but since it does matter to most:

    1) where would you rank yourself on the attractiveness scale of 1 to 10
    2) where would others rank you on the attractiveness scale of 1 - 10
    Aug 27 11
    • Indeed Decider
      I just threw up in my mouth a little reading this thread. 🤮 @Twitter sounds like a nightmare.
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Seeing guys comment like this is actually comforting. I was worried that I might be living in my own shell and open mindedness is too much to ask for. Comments by Uber and indeed make me believe that there are right guys out there and I just need to be patient
      Aug 27
    • New / IT
      spartan90

      New IT

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      Sopra Steria
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      Blah blah tech blah
      spartan90more
      Comments by uber and indeed. Facepalm!
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      @twitter if you don't understand that someone can stand by what they believe in, without being assured sex, I don't even think there's a point in trying to make you understand. I really hope that you will see this for yourself and change someday :)
      Aug 28
    • Uber bobby_san
      wtf what kind of a question is that.
      Aug 28
  • Apple RXtA67
    Before finding a husband, try finding yourself.

    Do you really know what you want in a partner? Like do you have a good list of must haves. I am Indian and had a similar upbringing. We are trained to get good grades but never really get a chance to understand our preferences in a partner.

    So instead of jumping on the band wagon, I would suggest take a good amount of time to know yourself. Before dating my fiancee, I never knew a lot of aspects about my own personality. I wish I had known, life would have been much better.

    Once you have your preferences ready, try targeting those groups. For instance, if you are into men who are into fitness, join a club with fitness classes. If men who are spiritual rush up your heart beat, then try visiting the ISKCON Boston temple on Sundays where many Indian guys show up. A little artsy, join a theatre company.

    You can find these guys on a matrimonial website too but people usually don’t date a long time on the website and I sincerely think you should date someone for at least one or two years.

    Hope this helps and all the best.
    Aug 28 15
    • Apple RXtA67
      I was in the same boat, believe me.

      It’s not easy tbh. You know it’s possible that your parents don’t feel comfortable with him as time flies. Are you prepared for that mentally? I wasn’t and it really hurts now. At first my parents really liked her but then something happened(not her fault) and things fell apart. Today, they are simply agreeing to getting me married because of me. And here I was, trying to find someone whom they will love.

      So you’re treading on a slippery slope here. Be careful and take your time. One advice I’ll give is, be very honest with your partner about your expectations from the very beginning.

      It might take time to find the right person, but it’s worth it. Hope this helps.
      Aug 28
    • Facebook qwertyuip
      @Apple what is your advice on determining sexual compatibility before marriage? Or that is not at all important for a marriage?
      Aug 28
    • Apple RXtA67
      Having sex 😉.

      Well, honestly that’s a tough one. You can easily determine if you two are sexually attracted to each other. But beyond that, the amount of sex you need, type of sex etc can only be determined over time. You need to communicate these things. And also try it(preferable) I know in some cultures sex before marriage is considered taboo but that’s the only way IMHO to figure things out.

      SC is important. If needs aren’t met, it could lead to frustration or even cheating. Why do you think a few men cheat when their spouses is pregnant. Not that it’s fair but just pointing things out.
      Aug 28
    • Facebook qwertyuip
      @apple being sexually attracted and satisfying each other are two different things. Things will not always work out over time if it's delayed until after marriage. It's mostly not possible to check SC in arranged marriage and not sure how people adjust over time.
      Aug 28
    • Apple RXtA67
      I agree that in an arranged marriage it’s impossible. The closest one can get to us discussing but it’s no where close to reality. I can’t suggest anything useful.

      Are you in that situation?
      Aug 28
  • DealerSocket / Eng
    ronaldo7

    DealerSocket Eng

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    code till dead 💀
    ronaldo7more
    Most Indian girls who were extremely out of league for lot of guys to date a few years ago are struggling to find a guy now
    Aug 27 4
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      @twitter, now might be the time you stop this feminist shit. Dragged it too far
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      @twitter, no offense but because this is open forum, I'm trying to get you to consider how your remarks are insensitive towards women wanting to be treated as equals. If this wasn't an open forum, I would just agree with whatever you say and move on
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Most of your comments about feminism are stereotypical and judgemental. May be it's time to consider seeing your thoughts more clearly.
      Aug 27
    • Uber ananna
      @Twitter why so mad at feminism? Must be an incel. If you don't know what that is you can google it with your chafed hands.
      Aug 27
  • Atlassian / Other HotSoup
    Isn’t this whole thing a bit...I mean...saying “I’ll only date [fill in race]”...or even “My parents will only let me date [fill in race]”...is that OK?? Genuine question.

    It also seems a bit of a shame in a way, limiting one’s self like that. Like, for instance, what if OP’s soulmate is Chinese?
    Aug 27 13
    • Facebook qwertyuip
      @OP are you parents fine with any caste within Indian race? Will they be okay with a North Indian? Does this person have to be same religion as you? Your answers to these questions will clearly tell us if your parents follow some sort of racism (includes caste and religion).
      Aug 28
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Hmmmm. Good point. First of all, no matter how they think, it's difficult for me to make them unlearn and learn at this age. But I agree that it's my responsibility to make them see things clearly if their thinking process is skewed. They would prefer someone who could speak Telugu not because of regionalism but because my mom can't speak Hindi/English. Having said that, it shouldn't be difficult for me to convince them if I like a guy who isn't Telugu (and by making the guy learn a bit of Telugu while I learn his mother tongue). Marrying outside the caste and religion should be easy to convince.
      Aug 28
    • Salesforce patronous
      There is a difference between being racist and being practical. Marriage brings together, not just 2 people, but 2 families and it is imperative in the long run for the families to be more or less compatible. So given a choice, parents would obviously prefer someone who understands their culture, their traditions. It will bring more empathy amidst the 2 families and help with a healthy marriage.

      That said, arranged marriage is fast becoming a flawed system. My suggestion is to avoid it if you can. Age is definitely not an impediment. I met my wife when she was 26 and we have been happily married for 3 years now! So, good luck and hope things work out for you!
      Aug 28
    • Facebook qwertyuip
      @patronous can you clarify why is it a flawed system and do you think when you met your wife she was a bit older than your preference?
      Aug 28
    • Salesforce patronous
      From my experience, there is a huge mismatch in the perspectives of parents and their kids. A parent's view of their daughter/son is very different from the actual daughter/son! You are given maybe a couple of months to meet your partner for 4 or 5 times in which they showcase only their best qualities. You can only best guess what you are truly getting into which is risky! You would hear of many arranged marriages living short these days for that very reason. (I do not mean to say knowing your partner very well guarantees success in marriage life, but it definitely minimizes risk)

      And no, I felt meeting her at that age was perfect.
      Aug 28
  • Facebook qwertyuip
    OP frankly speaking (most) Indian girls have too much attitude and lot of ego. Especially the ones who come to US and start making a lot of money. It's hard to see this trait in those who already have a bf but the ones looking for a partner on a matrimonial website or dating apps are too proud of themselves. They mostly care about their own personal life, their parents, siblings, relatives and also want their partners to continue this leaving behind the partner's life and family. This is not true for every girl but as I said most of them are like this.
    Aug 28 6
    • Facebook qwertyuip
      OP this is from a sample of guys I'm aware of who have faced similar issues. There do exist nice girls but this niceness diminishes among the Indian girls who come to US for the reasons I quoted above. I know there is much more independence and freedom over here compared to India but that shouldn't be taken for granted. If not this then the parents are brainwashing in the background.
      Aug 28
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Guess what. Women feel the same way about men. We could safely blame it on upbringing and social conditioning
      Aug 28
    • Facebook qwertyuip
      Tbh it's less common for men to do this due to skewed gender ratio of Indians in US. Women have a lot of options to choose from and thus the attitude/ego problems arise for them. With many men approaching a single girl they feel entitled to a special treatment.
      Aug 28
    • Flagged by the community.

    • Facebook qwertyuip
      jQpf16 - speak for yourself. I never said a woman should leave her family, friends and lifestyle. I support woman to be independent and earning well. But some women take this as a reason to be treated in a special way and ask men to leave behind their life.

      You're a classic case of jumping into the ship just for the sake of argument without fully understanding the context.
      Aug 30
  • New / Consultant
    jennatalia

    New Consultant

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    Spotify
    jennataliamore
    I think your first problem is trying to force it.

    Instead, look for organic opportunities to meet people and allow a connection to form.
    Aug 27 13
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      @def self, Rana? Not my type. That's not what I'm looking for
      Aug 27
    • Cruise Automation / Eng ⛸️
      @Sineteeta, I met my bf off Discord and currently run a social Facebook group for Asians (in the Bay Area, though) - where actually a handful of relationships have formed within the last year. I recommend meeting people online. Find some social group that will expose you to lots of people and you may find someone you are interested in.
      Aug 31
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sinetheta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sinethetamore
      Discord? Crazy! Must be an interesting story.
      Aug 31
    • Cruise Automation / Eng ⛸️
      Yup. Well, the story isn't that long. We connected over our love of techie shitposting and memes.
      Sep 3
    • Wayfair / Eng
      admirer

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      admirermore
      That's beautiful ❤️
      Sep 5
  • @Sinetieeta , did you think about my filter coffee date? What is this, you are looking for your community boys whom you would be interested to marry. I am right here. But you are replying to everyone except me. People always look far ...
    Aug 28 7
    • VMware xyz...
      As a famous person once said, what we really doing is searching for that imaginary person we have in our mind as potential mate. Not knowing that person is not real and our aim should be to know real individuals. I am making the same mistakes though and don't know what to do.
      Aug 28
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      I don't have a hypothetical person in my head. I have seen real life people who I think could be a great fit for me but all of them were taken even before I met them :/
      Aug 28
    • Fyi- I am not a Chatbot. I am real 😊
      Aug 28
    • PayPal / Eng adult
      GE, I’m the filter kaapi authority here. Please back off da. 😆
      Aug 28
    • Cruise Automation / Eng ⛸️
      @Sineteeta, no reason why you can't just be friends with guys who you think you might be compatible with down the line if they're taken now. Worst case, you get a friend. Best case, maybe a future bf. Obviously be respectful of their relationship but why not start a friendship?
      Aug 31
  • Facebook ⭕w⭕
    Church / temple, or activities like sailing or sports.
    Aug 27 17
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      Also, success story question was for FB guy who suggested it
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      @oracle, I totally believe you. Infact, that's the only reason why I'm soo actively checking out matrimonial sites and dating apps although I don't really see the need to have a companion asap
      Aug 27
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      This process is not ASAP. If you are lucky it can be fast but if not you are in for a surprise and wild ride :) esp if you don't want to go arranged marriage route
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      I don't mind arranged marriage. Source doesn't matter to me as long as I like the guy
      Aug 28
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      Irrespective of what avenue you use if you want to find someone you like is not easy and time consuming is all I meant

      GL!
      Aug 28
  • Google MrBenDover
    You can start by asking your friends to hook you up with their friends. Or your parents could ask their friends (if that’s how arrange marriage works)

    Don’t waste your time on Tinder. No one goes there to find a soulmate. CMB is a better option.
    Aug 27 6
    • Kaspersky Lab / HR
      mayfair

      Kaspersky Lab HR

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      Heineken
      mayfairmore
      Do they have boyfriends with friends/ coworkers?
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Most of my friends in US are non Telugu. So I'm kinda sorta the only Telugu friend they have. But that's an interesting area I haven't explored
      Aug 27
    • Kaspersky Lab / HR
      mayfair

      Kaspersky Lab HR

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      Heineken
      mayfairmore
      There is a group on meetup https://www.meetup.com/Boston-Telugu-Speakers/
      They seem to just chat to improve language skills, it could be a good environment
      Aug 27
    • Kaspersky Lab / HR
      mayfair

      Kaspersky Lab HR

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      Heineken
      mayfairmore
      And I would recommend you to look into doctors or bankers, they rarely get married early, too demanding jobs
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Doctors try to find other doctors. I'm speaking from experience. My sister is a doctor
      Aug 27
  • Cognizant AglH71
    Get involved in things that interest you. You will find people with similar interests there and maybe someone you like.
    Aug 27 5
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      I have been going to a few tech meet ups but I hardly find any Indians my age in those groups. I think I would like someone working in tech space.
      Aug 27
    • Cognizant AglH71
      No don't go to tech meet ups. Go join a cycling group or a dance class. Expand your circle
      Aug 27
    • Amazon / Eng
      eisenhower

      Amazon Eng

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      Google
      eisenhowermore
      Do you like anything beyond tech? Social work? Airplanes? History?
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      I like to create my own food recipes, decor, gardening and running. I also read on most days.
      Aug 27
    • Amazon / Eng
      eisenhower

      Amazon Eng

      PRE
      Google
      eisenhowermore
      So join some culinary, decor, gardening, or book club.
      Aug 28
  • Amazon jQpf16
    I am a south Indian, married to a non- Indian, they beat Indian men hands down. My family adores my husband and he in turn treats them with a lot of love and respect. He is a wonderful partner to me and son in law to my parents. He paid for our wedding entirely and is just a delight to be around. My parents agree that no Indian son in law can match him. Cut to my cousins who married Indian men, so much drama from the in laws, the expectancy to be treated specially by the wife's family. the everyday sexism with women generally beinf responsible for the household. also they age badly, go bald and pot bellied. There are exceptions but I havent found any. This is not a case against Indian men, but rather a case for you to consider marrying someone outside your race who treats you with love and respect. Parents will come around when they see you happy. Follow your heart, dont throw away your life. 27 is oh so young, explore a lot, date - use friends, dating apps. Develop hobbies, learn languages, learn something new. Be an open and interesting person. Dont become a lame and desperate to marry girl, your desperation will draw in some serious losers. good luck
    Aug 30 3
    • PayPal / Eng adult
      Good for you! 😉
      Aug 30
    • Facebook qwertyuip
      "they age badly, go bald and pot bellied" - that's a nice way to let blind know about the appearance of your dad and other older men in your family tree. No doubt you're a very open minded person suggesting OP to be one like you.

      OP her description also includes your dad.
      Aug 30
    • Amazon qazwersd
      Oooo...someone got butthurted
      Aug 30
  • DealerSocket / Eng
    ronaldo7

    DealerSocket Eng

    BIO
    code till dead 💀
    ronaldo7more
    I'm a South Indian myself, entered dating scene pretty late at 23, had 2 break ups over 4 years period then found love of my life, I've been with her for 2 years now, thinking of getting married soon, every girl I've ever dated was introduced by a mutual friend, I think that's the best way of finding someone.
    Aug 27 3
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Happy for you. I hope you guys will value the relationship forever.
      Aug 27
    • Wells Fargo USOpen4Fed
      Wow bro, typical CR7!
      Aug 27
    • Facebook qwertyuip
      @ronaldo7 can you also specify the race of all the girls you've been in a relationship with?
      Aug 28
  • @Sineteeta, hello Honey, how are you? Shall we meet? I too from South India. Shall we go for a nice filter coffee ☕️?
    Aug 27 1
    • Samsung / Product MtuC05
      Well done. You scared her away.
      Aug 29
  • Wells Fargo USOpen4Fed
    You are 26. Arranged marriage is not fun these days. If your parents find someone - You will obviously end up marrying someone close to 32 or above. Getting each other will take few years by that time all fun will be over. Better see if you can find someone through common friends or work place and get to know each other before marriage. Good luck with your search.
    Aug 27 5
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Why is it obvious that I will end up marrying a 32 year old? Not that I mind. Just curious
      Aug 27
    • Ness Technologies __|__
      Because 29yr old guy will be looking for 24yr olds lol
      Aug 27
    • SAP ell€
      But 24yr olds are not rushing to get married
      Aug 27
    • Ness Technologies __|__
      they all will be in op situation
      Aug 28
    • SAP ell€
      Better OP's situation than unhappily married
      Aug 28
  • Microsoft BiWA58
    It doesn't make sense to look for a partner in a dating site because you will never get a good south Indian.. Let your parents find some one then you filter among them.. Look for people who are close to your ideology, who understands you and your family better.

    Your 26 now.. If you want to fall in love and choose your partner then it will take atleast 2 or 3 years.. So you will be very old by that time, given you are not being friendly.. it will never work out and you might not find good soul mate

    Don't worry about marriage.. Things will fall in place at right time, that's the beauty of south Indian marriages..
    Aug 27 4
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      Exactly! I talked to about 15-20 guys from matrimonial site after my parents advanced filtering based on their careers, family backgrounds, good looks etc. But I did not find them suitable. I'm starting to wonder where all those amazing wise men are. Most of the guys I talked to, are super dumb it quite narrow minded. Like, way below the bar. It's surprising to me because most of my guy friends are wise, intelligent and understanding. Where are all these nice men marrying from 🤔
      Aug 27
    • Wells Fargo USOpen4Fed
      OP - Matrimony is biggest joke. Don’t fall into that trap!
      Aug 27
    • Microsoft BiWA58
      Finding life partner is not easy for you or for your parents. It takes it's own course of time.. You might meet shitty people but that's okay don't lose hope. Have low bar on some things (like personality, hair, etc) and don't think your life partner should be perfect as there is no one perfect in this world..

      If you try dating app or try to find on your own, other people will take advantage and all they want is romance and sex.. It's very difficult to find a good friend who can be your life partner in less than 2 years..
      Aug 30
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sinetheta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sinethetamore
      1. Personality is disposition. You are confusing it with appearance. It's not on the top of my priorities.
      2. Not all people on dating apps are on it for romance and sex. Like I'm there looking for a real relationship, I'm sure there are many others.

      However, I agree that it takes a lot of tolerance and persistence to go through all the profiles on these apps, talk to people, filter them out. It's so much more difficult when those filtered people are in a different city.

      Inspite of having no success from dating apps, I encourage people to get on dating apps considering how our real life networks are very limited otherwise. It's always a good idea to expand the network irrespective of the route.
      Aug 30
  • Amazon / Eng Yliu
    The problem is that everyone is on dating websites apps etc. if you see someone attractive just go and ask them out for a coffee. You’ll be surprised how many guys would be absolutely elated when someone asks them out. It’s like interview process. Got to get used to discomfort and rejections before you find something worth pursuing.
    Aug 27 6
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      I talked a lot of guys on dating apps. I did not find any guy in my area to ask out. I did chat with a couple of guys from California, it dint workout because they aren't looking for a serious relationship anytime soon
      Aug 27
    • Amazon / Eng Yliu
      Don’t talk to people with the expectation of getting married. Try to date casually and explore what you like/dislike in the significant other. I am an Indian and have a similar background as yours; trust me, you’ll discover a lot of things that are hard requirements or hard pass. Also meet people in the real world, not apps. It will also build your social skills. I was terrible at talking to people before. Just talking casually to a lot of people without expectations helped me a lot.
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      @ Amazon, how to make people and make friends? :) I'm sure I had higher success as a child.
      Aug 27
    • Amazon / Eng Yliu
      Drop the expectations and agenda. Real relationships take time, effort and are uncomfortable. Just have to dive into the deep end and face people directly instead of hiding behind apps.
      Aug 27
    • Wayfair / Eng
      Sineteeta

      Wayfair Eng

      BIO
      A new grad in a new city :)
      Sineteetamore
      OP
      My expectations are already low enough I think. Can't lower the bar further 😔
      Aug 27
  • Backcountry.com / Other
    quanthole

    Backcountry.com Other

    BIO
    beep ba da beep beep boop
    quantholemore
    You're very young, take your time.
    Aug 29 0