How do I get a CS boo?

Amazon / Eng CSBoo
Feb 1, 2018 47 Comments

Using Tinder without much success. I’m probably going to reset my account/Elo score soon. My weird thing is that I’m exclusively interested in girls in CS (I know beggars can’t be choosers but I’m not terribly lonely or whatever).

Things I’m doing:

- Eating better
- Hitting the gym
- taking better pictures
- Dressing better
- mention CS in bio (surprising # of girls do that)

(I don’t think I’m that ugly, just still about 15lb too heavy and have lost 20 since August)

Problems:

- Shorter side (5’8 or so)
- I’m Indian and come off as a fob despite being a good ol southern boy inside

Any advice?

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TOP 47 Comments
  • Zillow Group GilFoyle1
    CS boo? Make chicks do leetcode before you meet them.

    But seriously though, hit the gym, height doesn’t really matter since most women are around ~5’4. Find some dude friends and hit the bars.

    Plus remember man, you’re one in 8 billion, you are the center of your universe. Make sure you know who you are and what matters to you. Just be the person or want to be, and you’ll find your “boo”. Best of luck dude.
    Feb 1, 2018 3
    • Amazon YFdu24
      As a 5'5, I should kill myself. Lol
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Zillow Group GilFoyle1
      Damn dude 5’5 isn’t short. As long as you got the game and the goods, you can still be a player. Go get’em tiger!
      Feb 1, 2018
    • New FMnse4
      Nah he's right, that's pretty short. Move to New Zealand, Frodo.
      Feb 2, 2018
  • New / Mgmt
    idiot45

    New Mgmt

    BIO
    I get things done.
    idiot45more
    I would suggest that be more Indian. Wear your ethnic cloths, share authentic experience of being you. When one tries to become,what one is not ; it creates trouble.
    Feb 1, 2018 2
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      I’m American by birth so nah
      Feb 1, 2018
  • Duck Creek / Eng M ZUccB0rg
    Work on your self esteem issues. They’re prevalent in this post.

    Stop actually seeking female companionship and make friends in stuff you like to do...whatever that may be. Tinder is for hookups...don’t waste your time if you want something meaningful.

    A girl will come to you when you have confidence, aren’t using women as relationship objects or seeking attention from them, and you have an interesting life of your own.

    Good luck
    Feb 1, 2018 4
    • Infosys
      NotIndian

      Infosys

      PRE
      Boeing
      NotIndianmore
      Ignore all of this
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Duck Creek / Eng M ZUccB0rg
      For sure, he can do what he wants
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      Tbh, I’m not actually that desperate for anything (most people think I’m asexual ), I’m just more searching in a more limited space.

      Me having an interesting life in general is a good point but the problem is I have no idea how. Maybe I should start with that!
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Duck Creek / Eng M ZUccB0rg
      Hey to be honest I did forget about the CS part. Luckily, most CS girls I’ve met are very down to earth, and you don’t need to go out of your way to really get their attention.

      Try getting into stuff that’ll put you in the way of other people. Even if it isn’t CS related, the friends who you make there could introduce you...you never know. You started with the gym, you’re on the right track.

      But yeah - you know where you need to head! Don’t give up man!
      Feb 1, 2018
  • Snapchat / Eng Cncnfnueye
    Hit the bars
    Feb 1, 2018 5
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      I don’t drink :/
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Snapchat / Eng QyeyeyyquV
      Who is asking you to drink, just find the lonely one
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      So you’re saying just talk to random people in bars without drinking?
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Amazon YFdu24
      Nah. There's never any chicks alone in a bar.
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Amazon m37uj8
      OP is a 5’8” overweight, average-looking Indian guy. He’s going to have a brutal experience trying to get girls at bars, even worse than Tinder. OP I recommend you LDAR immediately.
      Feb 2, 2018
  • Microsoft / Eng DaleCarneg
    Be less Indian.

    Jk.. But really you should try other dating apps. Have you tired coffee meets bagel?
    Feb 1, 2018 1
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      I have, but I didn’t use it much. People seemed less interesting than on Tinder for whatever reason. CS concentration far lower. I think they also have a points system right?
      Feb 1, 2018
  • Amazon YFdu24
    Go back to college for real. There's so many Asian cutie pies in CS in school. It's way easier than tinder or work.
    Feb 1, 2018 2
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      My friend says she’s low key going back to school for an MRS degree just for this reason - the problem is at my school these sorts of people (my type) are in pretty short supply. It would be better if I went to Berkeley or something :/
      Feb 1, 2018
    • New FMnse4
      Watcha doin? Jus low key gaining an education bra.
      Feb 2, 2018
  • Microsoft / Product NewR2D2
    I’m a CS girl. Don’t care about height. Don’t care that much about weight (I’m a size 0) and what I chose for my love was someone who was confident, not arrogant, made me laugh, had a good heart, and loved me and made me his priority. I agree with a lot of what was said above: know yourself. Be sure of yourself. And be outgoing. I just thought: what about dancing classes? A few of my CS friends go to that for fun
    Feb 2, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng Zorg (;,;)
    Girls only care about money. Mention how much you make
    Feb 1, 2018 4
    • Oath / Eng L12
      It’s a combination of attractiveness and wealth. You can be a male stripper with no money and girls will still be all over you.
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      It’s Amazon dude I don’t think that would work!
      Feb 2, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng Zorg (;,;)
      In my case I casually mantioned that I am very well endowed and that I’m a sr. sde. My tinder inbox exploded.
      Feb 2, 2018
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      Ayy lmao
      Feb 2, 2018
  • Reddit UBRx74
    That’s such strange advice. Just be yourself. I’ve never taken a photo next to an elephant.
    Feb 1, 2018 5
    • Reddit UBRx74
      I disagree. I would be less likely to be with someone with weird fake props. On tinder I would go for a guy with something somewhat funny in the bio but also serious.
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Zillow Group GilFoyle1
      Set the example bro. Take the pic and share it on here
      Feb 1, 2018
    • Reddit UBRx74
      I don’t think OP wants to do what you are suggesting. So maybe OP is not cut for you.
      Feb 1, 2018
  • Apple Fbvi333
    Do you wear deodorant? Do you put on nice cologne? Do you dress nicely? Those are pretty easy ways to get girls' attention, CS or not.
    Feb 2, 2018 0
  • Amazon Caves
    What is CS..?
    Feb 1, 2018 1
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      Computer Science. General term for devs just because I’m in college.
      Feb 1, 2018
  • eBay / Eng
    kab2929

    eBay Eng

    BIO
    Software Engineer.
    kab2929more
    Have you tried lying? Tell them you have mba or whatever works!
    Feb 1, 2018 0
  • Glassdoor Wool
    Why do you think you come off as a fob?
    Feb 2, 2018 2
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      I dress more conservatively than most of the other Indian guys I know and I’m not a gym rat.
      Feb 2, 2018
    • Glassdoor Wool
      Not sure what you mean by dressing more conservatively, but not being a gym rat doesn’t make you fobby. Just need to take good care of yourself and work out so that you stay healthy :)
      Feb 4, 2018
  • Samsung / Design
    sweetleaf

    Samsung Design

    BIO
    UX
    sweetleafmore
    Widen your filters. Does “CS” include other aspects of tech? UX? Web development?
    Feb 2, 2018 1
    • Amazon / Eng CSBoo
      OP
      I count that.
      Feb 2, 2018
  • Oracle
    Impurrfect

    Oracle

    PRE
    Amazon
    Impurrfectmore
    you did not say anything about how you are “being interesting”. Try to get more into your hobbies or find interesting new ones. Then you will be having fun, will have something to talk about, and may be even meet people that way.
    Feb 2, 2018 0
  • Oracle
    gash_t

    Oracle

    PRE
    Amazon
    gash_tmore
    Try meetups, but not the CS related ones. Go for the board game nights, or the Singles bar hopping ones. Pretty good chance of meeting folks there, and in low pressure situations.
    Feb 1, 2018 0
  • Airbnb bearbnb
    they aren’t much different from regular girls imo. I like your list of things you’re doing. good luck OP
    Feb 1, 2018 0

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