How do I reach out/make introductions to folks I know of online in a non-weird way?
Warning - social incompetence post (Talking platonically) I found one out a person I follow on twitter goes to my school a few months ago. I feel like we have a bunch of common interests (tech, activism, snarky feminism etc) and I’d like to pick their brains sometime. Dozens of people follow them on twitter and I have an anonymous account and don’t interact much. The problem is the person is a somewhat attractive girl and I’m concerned that any thing I’d do would come off as fucking creepy (or maybe it already is). How do I come in contact while being as non-weird as possible?
You think they are interesting because they are cute. Do not contact, delete Twitter
Yeah that might be true but then again the politics + tech thing is pretty rare in guys in my experience.
Well if you don’t actually want to date them make it clear in your intro, as simple as that.
Sounds like a weird thing to make clear if it’s not immediately relevant.
It depends on how you phrase it. “Hey, I’ve enjoyed following your thoughts on here and it looks like we have many shared interests. I’d love to get to know you better, just as friends. If you’re up for it let’s get coffee sometime?” Not weird at all and you’re actually doing her a service by making it explicit. Nobody has time for games.
Find an event she goes to and talk to her in person.
Try to strike up a direct conversation with her on a topic you’re both really in to, which most people don’t get. Ask a really insightful question or send her a great article with a question. She’ll notice you and remember you. Tell her your real name. Then introduce yourself at an event. If you want to be clear this is platonic, keep your eyes north of her collar, don’t touch her except to shake her hand, and don’t comment on her appearance or your own.
Still feels kinda weird to do it out of the blue esp if she doesn’t know all of her followers.
I’m in sales and it works for me!
Get a gf first
That’s an intractable problem
> attractive girl Well, if you’re attractive, you’re probably good. If you aren’t, I’m not sure there is a way that isn’t creepy.
Nah I’m ugly af, not Quasimodo level though