Warning: Rant post I don't drink alcohol, I never did. My closest friends know this and are cool with it. But when I meet new people, they judge me for it. The default place for a bunch of friends to catch up is a bar (which I don't mind but I hate the weird looks I get from people when I order a mocktail). I hate the reactions - "dude, you don't drink? Wtf. I'll order one for you, it's on me" (oh yeah it's actually $10 that has been preventing me from drinking all my life). I am immediately judged as not being fun and worthy of hanging out with (maybe I am, maybe I am not, but don't judge me right away). Oh and when I mention I turned vegan 3 years ago, people run away from me 😂 It's funny to watch their reactions. Has anyone else experienced this or been that guy who makes fun of non-drinkers (Fck you)?
I don’t have much problem with it, sometimes I get funny reactions, but usually turn it into joke myself, and it dies down. Same goes for my veganism. And cheers, it’s your health, good thing you’re taking care of it.
Thanks. I don't have much problem either, it's just weird. Cheers.
Straight edge veganism seems Really extreme. Have you talked to a therapist?
No. Can you send me your therapist's number? /s
My therapist is great but I’m not going to share her info for fear of revealing myself. I recommend phone interviewing 5-10 of them, 15 minutes each, then see 3 in person for 2-3 sessions, then stick with the one that works best for you. It’s making a huge positive difference in my life.
I would definitely run away from this guy.
Funny 😂
Not funny man. You are a creep. A person should avoid. Not because you don’t drink. But because of your mentality. It’s evident from your post that you think full of yourself but pretty hollow inside. And the way you presented you being vegan, yeah, no shit people don’t wanna be around you.
Dude you don't drink?? WTF
Haha no. You want to hang out at a bar sometime?
You're seriously missing out on a lot a fun! Unless you're a super extrovert, it's great to make social interactions more fluid and fun
I’m drinking right now... you’re missing out!
That's what everyone says
I just say that I’m a recovering alcoholic. That ends the attempt pretty quickly.
Why is being a recovering alcoholic considered better than never been an alcoholic?
It's not, but it will make people stop insisting. Other bullshit excuses include "I'm taking antibiotics" or "I'm alergic to alcohol" or "I have a problem in my liver"
I’m in it with ya! I’m not a drinker either, but if I go out with friends, I’ll get a cocktail or wine depending what we’re eating. Most of the time I can’t finish the drinks, I’ll take a sip then and there more for socializing. I’ve had the same comments from my friends or coworkers which are annoying.
Yes, definitely annoying. I am tired of telling them it's by choice (as though it wasn't obvious).
Well, maybe try hanging out with a different kind of group. Or given some time, the people around you might get used to it once they get to know you as a person. I have never faced that issue maybe because I have not hung out with an all out American group of people. Also, it's difficult for me to hang out and get to know more of them because like you said, most of their events are hanging out in a bar which is not how I like to spend my weekend evenings because I don't drink. So either try giving them a chance or try finding other set of friends who are more inclusive or similar to you
I have noticed after some time, people get used to it. But the first reactions are usually surprising.
Americans are alcoholics. I feel that they find it so cool cause they are not allowed to drink till 21 and they all act like college kids when it comes to drinking. Plus they must be somehow frustrated with their life and like to get drunk to forget. I think they are the ones with a problem not you.
Thanks. I don't think everyone who comments on me is frustrated or finding an escape from other problems. But it's their default reaction. It's surprising how drinking is so much a part of our culture that people have a hard time accepting someone may not do it by choice.
Yup some people just have to bring you down with them. It’s annoying but you’ll get used to it.