How do you manage a good balance of performing at work, workout every day, sleep enough hours, and be able to spend time with kids and husband, and still have a social life? If I spend 8-10 hours working, I barely have time for everything else.
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- Oracle 6444ddlet me tell you this. Been married for 26 years. Silicon Valley 25 years both husband and I are hi tech folks (Indians). Successfully raised two boys - one will be graduating from Harvard this June and the other will be entering Duke this Fall. I am a Group PM and my husband Director of Engineering, Both mid level career people. You cannot have it all. Something has to give. I feel I have done a great job with kids, decent job with career and balancing with family. I haven't spent as much quality time with my husband as my non-Indian counterparts. Hopefully I will get to do that, now that the kids are out of the house. Some of the people I graduated from college and grad school have much higher titles and probably TC. But overall I am very proud of my accomplishments, both home and a decent career.
- By being single 😎. Try that, it helps a lot.
Sorry, on a serious note, by maintaining a routine. Like workout on Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday. Hang out with friends on Friday. Go out on a date on Sunday. Spend time with kids everyday.
I also outsourced my work like mowing the lawn, cooking, and cleaning. It's expensive but helps save time.
- I understand. I really did the bare minimum at work when I focused on other things. I didn't get promoted and I was ok with it. I also knew I didn't do really bad (no missed deadlines, no escalations) so they won't let me go.
I spent 8 hours at work, nothing more. I had lunch at my desk, so I could work at that time. I reduced my work outs in the evening from 5 to 3 days a week, I met my friends once in 2 weeks for limited time (marginal value that time spent on social connects decreases ie spending 30mins vs an hour will make more difference than spending 2 hours vs 2.5 hours. So I limited my time there).
But I am not the best person to give you advice on time management with kids :)
- Oracle 6444ddNot easy. Try to outsource many tasks when you are married and raising kids. Its gotta be very team oriented with your husband.
- This is something we both are trying to avoid. We are also saving money for kids, so outsourcing house chores are something we do not want to do. We want our kids to spend time with the family, having babysitter is something I choose not. Anything else we both can do?
- Slack heartsWorkout every day is overkill. If you look at many non-American cultures, they work out less and seem to be just as healthy or better. Try following a healthy diet and cut out sugar as much as possible. Happiness is key and be aware that you need to prioritize. The illusion that you can have it all is unrealistic for most humans.
- General Motors QEmN10Prioritize tasks. Family logistics first then work your work schedule around that. Plan ahead and communicate with your spouse. An important observation good companies should support - happy employees who don’t stress out over family life will be more productive in 8 hours then someone doing 10 whose brain is fried all the time. Generally when I mentor young or inexperienced people in this position I find nobody is making them work excess - the stress and schedule is often self induced.
- Apple ~~£$%₹___Outsource, as others have suggested.
Speak clearly with spouse about goals and strategies so they know what's required of them.
- Aon Hewitt sfstreetsI'm surprised this wasn't something you thought about before having kids? I definitely agree with the Outsourcing part that's the only way to go, it will affect your health later on if you try to do everything yourself. Lots of videos /articles on this. Also get kids involved in chores