How much sacrifice you can do for your spouse/love?
I’m currently in a situation where I have to move to a different city because of my spouse work(Boston). I think it will take a career hit for me because if I stick to Microsoft there ain’t many teams in Boston & I don’t see enough tech companies. I’m one of the top performer at Microsoft and leaving Redmond would affect my career.
I love my spouse, but when I think rationally there is a sense that I will not be happy professionally in Boston.
What do you guys suggest? Is it okay to sacrifice a bit of career for love? :)
- New cherokeetoLove > career. You can always catch up when it comes to career, but might not be lucky twice in finding love
- MathWorks rewThere's plenty of tech companies near Boston. Staying at the same company too long can be risky as well. Ultimately up to you though.
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- Facebook / DesignjerkslayermoreI chose my wife over career. We have gone up and down with money but we stuck with each other and made both ups and downs worth the journey. Money and jobs come and go. A good person to live with and die for is more difficult to find. I say give it a try for your spouse. A happy wife is a happy life.
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- Wayfair WNEm45IMO, Seattle > Boston for tech but unless you're in a very specialized role, you should be able to get that TC at Boston (there's a good list of 15+ companies that will offer 250k+ TC).
- New / EngF*MyBossYou want to live separately for career and that to loose top performer .. very funny.
Tum to Desi ho aur Desi hi rahoge ;)
- Amazon / EngAm A BotFor my wife, I live in a red state I can’t stand with weather too hot for me, and with my mother in law and cat (I’m allergic) to boot. On one occasion my wife told me “your job is a threat to our marriage” and I quit the next day without something lined up.
For a girlfriend, I wouldn’t sacrifice my career. Possibly not for a fiancée. But for my wIfe I would, because she would only ask if it were absolutely necessary.
- The meaning of love is different for different people. Not everyone associates love with sacrifice. If you do, then the more you love your partner the more you would be willing to sacrifice.
If you don’t feel like sacrificing too much, then there is a limit to how much you love your partner.
Having said that, moving cities because of a partner’s job is very common these days.
- I've been at the MSFT Boston office. There are some ok projects there and you can help their new college grads. Explore it. Also, why would she not move here for you?
- Square SSSJI thought this post was going to be about a real struggle, like your spouse became paralyzed, or was diagnosed with a rare disease that requires immense sacrifice on your part. But nope, just another dumbass career post.