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How far you would go for love!

Microsoft Yakob
Dec 5

How much sacrifice you can do for your spouse/love?
I’m currently in a situation where I have to move to a different city because of my spouse work(Boston). I think it will take a career hit for me because if I stick to Microsoft there ain’t many teams in Boston & I don’t see enough tech companies. I’m one of the top performer at Microsoft and leaving Redmond would affect my career.

I love my spouse, but when I think rationally there is a sense that I will not be happy professionally in Boston.

What do you guys suggest? Is it okay to sacrifice a bit of career for love? :)

TC:280K

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  • Love > career. You can always catch up when it comes to career, but might not be lucky twice in finding love
    Dec 50
  • Google / Engalbhed
    lmao sacrificing your wife for Microsoft? Really?
    Dec 52
    • Microsoft Yakob
      OP
      Lol definitely not going to sacrifice but could think of other options like living separate for sometime
      Dec 5
    • Microsoft Horseface
      Kali ma!! Kali ma!! Kali ma!!
      Dec 5
  • Oracle tayne
    If you have to ask strangers about this then are you sure you're in "love"?
    Dec 50
  • Verizon ShutTheFup
    What a pathetic question to ask. TC or GTFO.
    Dec 52
    • Amazon 🍌Frenzy
      TC was provided can you kindly do the needful yourself
      Dec 5
    • Verizon ShutTheFup
      TC or gtfo bish
      Dec 5
  • MathWorks rew
    There's plenty of tech companies near Boston. Staying at the same company too long can be risky as well. Ultimately up to you though.
    Dec 51
    • Flagged by the community.

  • Facebook / Design
    jerkslayer

    FacebookDesign

    PRE
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    People, projects, pay, then place. In that order.
    jerkslayermore
    I chose my wife over career. We have gone up and down with money but we stuck with each other and made both ups and downs worth the journey. Money and jobs come and go. A good person to live with and die for is more difficult to find. I say give it a try for your spouse. A happy wife is a happy life.
    Dec 50
  • Flagged by the community.

    • Microsoft / Engmkay🔪
      Mistress in Redmond? No way for a guy who is asking if he should sacrifice his own success for a woman.
      Dec 5
  • Google / EngrRPD43
    I would do anything for love... but I won't do that
    Dec 50
  • Asurion / Finance
    Glamour

    AsurionFinance

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    Misfit mama. Wife. Trying to nagivate this thing we call life.
    Glamourmore
    You said 'until death do us part'
    Dec 53
    • Microsoft Horseface
      🎼 I love you with every piece of my heart. And I sweeeaarr. By the moon and stars in the skyyyyyy. I’ll be there (I’ll be there).
      Dec 5
    • Asurion / Finance
      Glamour

      AsurionFinance

      BIO
      Misfit mama. Wife. Trying to nagivate this thing we call life.
      Glamourmore
      Yassss!
      Dec 5
    • Google / EngrRPD43
      Murder is a bit extreme
      Dec 5
  • Wayfair WNEm45
    IMO, Seattle > Boston for tech but unless you're in a very specialized role, you should be able to get that TC at Boston (there's a good list of 15+ companies that will offer 250k+ TC).
    Dec 52
    • Google YTpM41
      Yeah, shouldn't be a problem in Boston - ton of tech cos. Especially if you do biotech + sw
      Dec 5
    • Salesforce GQch66
      450+ is totally doable in many places in Boston.
      Dec 6
  • New / EngF*MyBoss
    You want to live separately for career and that to loose top performer .. very funny.

    Tum to Desi ho aur Desi hi rahoge ;)
    Dec 52
    • Microsoft Yakob
      OP
      Yes desi with an American passport:)
      Dec 5
    • New / EngJohnMacPii
      Bhai.. competition, race, work everything would be there forever.

      I think, your manager is successful in motivating to work hard ;)
      Dec 5
  • Amazon / EngAm A Bot
    For my wife, I live in a red state I can’t stand with weather too hot for me, and with my mother in law and cat (I’m allergic) to boot. On one occasion my wife told me “your job is a threat to our marriage” and I quit the next day without something lined up.

    For a girlfriend, I wouldn’t sacrifice my career. Possibly not for a fiancée. But for my wIfe I would, because she would only ask if it were absolutely necessary.
    Dec 51
    • Microsoft Heyooo
      Wife not understanding
      Dec 5
  • New 0hedge
    Dont go blind for love, but do realize that you will have your spouse for twice the length of your career in your life if they are a good match.
    Dec 50
  • Microsoft eWji22
    Everything. There are always other options. Explore them. I mean career options of course.
    Dec 50
  • Google / EngI❤️edging
    Divorce
    Dec 50
  • Amazon / Opssaladbar
    The meaning of love is different for different people. Not everyone associates love with sacrifice. If you do, then the more you love your partner the more you would be willing to sacrifice.
    If you don’t feel like sacrificing too much, then there is a limit to how much you love your partner.
    Having said that, moving cities because of a partner’s job is very common these days.
    Dec 50
  • Microsoft hotsteppa
    I've been at the MSFT Boston office. There are some ok projects there and you can help their new college grads. Explore it. Also, why would she not move here for you?
    Dec 55
    • Microsoft Yakob
      OP
      She is doing her MBA in Boston
      Dec 5
    • Microsoft Heyooo
      I think I know uou
      Dec 5
    • Microsoft Yakob
      OP
      Good for you :)
      Dec 5
    • Microsoft hotsteppa
      Yes you do. I'm one of 1000's of Redmond folks visiting that office
      Dec 5
    • Amazon / Opssaladbar
      MBA in Boston? If that is HBS or MIT you should definitely move.
      Dec 5
  • Square SSSJ
    I thought this post was going to be about a real struggle, like your spouse became paralyzed, or was diagnosed with a rare disease that requires immense sacrifice on your part. But nope, just another dumbass career post.
    Dec 51
    • Asurion / Finance
      Glamour

      AsurionFinance

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      Misfit mama. Wife. Trying to nagivate this thing we call life.
      Glamourmore
      Lol lol
      Dec 5
  • Amazon W12
    Until google sets us apart
    Dec 50
  • Salesforce
    Bhoot

    Salesforce

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    I am blind to something and you are too.
    Bhootmore
    I would do something less drastic. Like find a position in NYC and commute to Boston. Also are you married?
    Dec 50
  • Microsoft TonyM
    Love > Job
    Dec 50
  • Netflix Djejdicjsk
    If you believe in the relationship, you should give it a try. If it doesn’t work out, you did it as a team and she in return will be understanding of your needs and you both can work on a timeline to get back.
    Dec 50

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