How is the dating scene in Seattle for a straight guy? May be moving there soon.

Qualcomm / Eng sashimi30
Sep 13 56 Comments

I'm looking to eventually find someone I like and get married at some point, and may be moving to the Seattle area soon in my return to FAANG (offer in hand and everything). I've read/heard the dating scene is bad in Seattle for straight males due to an overabundance of males from the tech industry. Is that true?
I currently live in San Diego and haven't had too much difficulty for what it's worth.

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  • Microsoft / Eng GatesNotes
    Seattle is BYOW - bring your own woman
    Sep 13 7
    • Bloomberg DINE<GO>
      Can confirm and was part of the reason for moving to NYC
      Sep 13
    • Microsoft / Eng GatesNotes
      Is Bloomberg hiring?
      Sep 13
    • Bloomberg DINE<GO>
      Not actively but there are still open positions
      Sep 13
    • Okta / Eng
      Ezpr07

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      Ezpr07more
      Totally agree
      Sep 13
    • Apple ds36sdf753
      Coming from Southern California myself, it is. We had a saying for (ex)-“couples” who moved to Southern California when I was younger, “don’t bring your girlfriend to disneyland and expect her not to go on all the rides.” It’s that in reverse, and worse, in Seattle. There’s no good rides here and no chicks to ride them if there were.

      It’s basically like trying to pick up chicks at a fair that was abandoned 50 years ago. There are no chicks but if you bring one, it’s a great place to get laid.
      Sep 14
  • Facebook public2
    Dating in Seattle is illegal under the freeze act of 1985.
    Sep 13 0
  • Lending Club coding123
    Slightly better than Man Jose
    Sep 13 1
    • Verizon Media sxSG85
      I recently moved to Man Jose and man the place is an eye sore. Seattle is atleast beautiful.
      Dating wise both places are bad
      Sep 15
  • Roku cruella
    So long as u follow rule 1 and 2 you will be good.

    Rule 1: be attractive
    Rule 2: don't be unattractive
    Sep 13 0
  • Microsoft softFag
    Does Indian males stand a chance? I always hate when Indian females are robbed by white/black American dudes. No offence though.
    Sep 13 8
    • SAP PXkM70
      Is there any hope for a 6’2” 240 lb buff Indian dude? I’m in NYC rn and dating is sooooo easy. Will be in Seattle working full time and am scared about the number of forever alone blinders
      Sep 13
    • Microsoft I h8 PNW
      😂😂😂
      Sep 15
    • Amazon newAz
      240lbs and buff. What do you do at SAP actually? Full time body builder? 🤔
      Sep 15
    • SAP PXkM70
      There is no job at SAP that is actually stressful - excluding senior management. I travel every week for work and have picked up the guitar, part time masters in CS and get as big and strong as possible
      Sep 15
    • Microsoft / Eng GatesNotes
      Where are you joining here?
      Sep 17
  • Not gonna lie to you, the dating scene in Seattle is a bit tough. It's not like shooting fish in a barrel. You have to work at it. Put in the time and I'm sure you'll find some great ladies, but if you sit back and wait to casually run into your dream date you're gonna have a bad time.

    Maybe I'm biased but Seattle has the highest concentration of educated, confident women I've found anywhere. The (very) few single women I know always tell me that they can't seem to find guys who aren't intimidated by them
    Sep 13 1
    • Oracle DukeofEarl
      Lol. Intimated by them is code for 'she has a nice personality.'
      Sep 13
  • Salesforce
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    sowokemore
    If you’re in shape, into the outdoors, have some cultural interests, and are generally a pleasant person, you’ll be fine. More than fine, really.
    Sep 13 3
    • Qualcomm / Eng sashimi30
      OP
      I guess I better invest in a good rain jacket then if I'm going to continue being an outdoorsman haha.

      What sort of cultural interests do you mean? Music events, theater, etc?
      Sep 13
    • Amazon / Field Ops 206
      Fun fact: Seattle has one of the highest per-capita clothing expenditures of anywhere in the US, and we sure as hell don't dress to impress. It all goes to technical outdoor wear.
      Sep 13
    • Salesforce
      sowoke

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      Culture: art, art walks, symphony, theater, opera. Develop a genuine interest in some of this stuff and have an opinion beyond what the critics write about. Can go a long way.
      Sep 15
  • Hulu EVN829
    SD is much better...find someone from SD and take her with you or find people there from California
    Sep 13 6
    • Microsoft / Eng GatesNotes
      People in Seattle discriminate against people from Seattle
      Sep 13
    • Neato Robotics / R&D fahl54
      Just like Desies hate Desies
      Sep 13
    • Microsoft / Eng GatesNotes
      Desis think every desi is out to steal from them
      Sep 13
    • Microsoft I h8 PNW
      People from Seattle discriminate against everyone, they're always angry about the influx of transplants moving to the state for tech jobs, which comes with this arrogant sense of entitlement
      Sep 15
    • Snapchat / Eng Romantico
      SD?
      Sep 20
  • PwC oFgg42
    I’m sure you read/heard that here. So you’re posting a question here, what do you expect the answer is gonna be?
    Sep 13 1
  • eBay / Other Devinn
    TC
    Sep 13 0
  • Google NSvj37
    Lifelong Seattleite. You'll have to mostly rely on online dating and apps and/or get yourself into various local scenes (cycling, skiing, climbing, sailing, etc.). Outside the hardcore Leftist scene (which I'm guessing isn't your thing), life is very structured here as described, so meeting viable/single/available women randomly is quite rare. Beyond that, take care of yourself (esp. physically), be interesting, and don't be afraid to act like a man. You'll be fine.
    Sep 15 0
  • New / Mktg INLSMLIFWJ
    Omfg you’re a STRAIGHT GUY. The whole world is your dating scene 🙄🙄
    Sep 13 0
  • Microsoft Mary
    If you can get past the Seattle freeze, it’s lush green pastures!
    Sep 13 0
  • Neato Robotics / R&D fahl54
    Peanuts
    Sep 13 0
  • Amazon newAz
    Depends on what race you are. It’s pretty hard for me
    Sep 13 7
    • Amazon newAz
      Try facebook dating.
      Sep 13
    • Hulu iAMmeNOTu
      Christian mingle
      Sep 13
    • Hulu iAMmeNOTu
      Go to church on Sundays
      Sep 13
    • Amazon newAz
      I thought white guys automatically win here
      Sep 13
    • Hulu iAMmeNOTu
      You don't have to be religious
      Sep 13
  • Okta / Eng
    Ezpr07

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    I found my wife here, but I know a lot of guys that moved to Seattle after college and later took a sabbatical to go back home and find their wife there. Demand and Supply is definitely not in your favor here.
    Sep 13 3
    • Qualcomm / Eng sashimi30
      OP
      Sabbatical to go back home? What is a few months in their hometown going to do? Do you mean like arranged marriages?
      Sep 13
    • Okta / Eng
      Ezpr07

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      Seattle male/female ratio is off, you are middle class if you make a few 100k a year. In other places of the world those numbers are way more impressive.
      Didn’t ask how romantic the process was, but it worked for many. Some also didn’t come back
      Sep 13
    • Okta / Eng
      Ezpr07

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      Actually, while for some I am talking about money/status might have been a factor this is a bad example. I met a lot of great ladies and the love of my life here, it’s just that there are even more good guys and if you are very particular about your dream woman or introverted or insecure your chances are just better other places. It’s also a common theme that the dating scene here is a lot less vibrant than for example NY.
      Sep 13
  • QuoteWizard / Data
    boops

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    boopsmore
    It’s tough if you’re not cute and/or a dick which is the case everywhere unfortunately
    If you’re fine in SD you will be fine here
    Sep 15 0
  • Microsoft Blind.ppt
    In addition to all the other things I hate about this place, Seattle is also a terrible city for dating, turn away while you still can
    Sep 13 0
  • Oracle DukeofEarl
    Poorly dressed hipsters. Basement dwellers w poor complexion
    Sep 13 0