How long before boyfriend/girlfriend question?

MGM Resorts Jeff702
Nov 10, 2017 31 Comments

So I’ve been dating this woman for like 3 weeks. I was gonna ask her at the end of our last date after she came over to my house. However, she was going out of the country for a business trip so I figured it might be best to wait for her to come back to ask her and to make sure the feeling is still there.

So how long do you think should wait to ask the let’s be boyfriend/girlfriend question? Also, who do you think should ask: the guy or the girl or does it matter?

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TOP 31 Comments
  • Microsoft / Design Geno Smith
    Just ask right away. Another way to phrase the question is "are we exclusively dating? And what's your expectations?" you're an adult. It's okay to ask questions and be frank.
    Nov 10, 2017 1
    • Microsoft / Eng deadpan
      This is the only reasonable approach.
      Nov 12, 2017
  • Cisco / Mgmt Конечно!
    For me as a girl it is important to know we are exclusive before we have sex. So it depends on how soon do you want to get laid, lol. If we kissed and I still want to see you the next day and don't show the sign of "let's just stay friends" it is the time to move forward. You can carefully start the conversation with explaining your status quo (i.e. not seeing other people) and then ask about her and her preferences (open relationship or exclusive).
    Nov 10, 2017 2
    • Airbnb HunkyDorya
      ^^not the norm
      Nov 10, 2017
    • WRKSHP / Eng
      ^ depends. I'd say this is true of quite a few. Probably up to half or more
      Nov 11, 2017
  • Oracle YoungBlood
    Without further detail, imho 3 weeks is too fast to be official (unless you are on that age to get married). Whether she has shown interest or not, allow 1-2 months to get to know each other better before being more serious.

    Let the distance be a good measure whether both of you can keep contact regularly until she come back. From my and friends experience, the faster we define the relationship, the worse quality of relationships we will get
    Nov 10, 2017 0
  • WRKSHP / Eng
    According to data, most people become official at around 5-6 dates and at around 24 hours spent together.
    Nov 11, 2017 0
  • Adobe sushiLife
    If you know you like her just ask. My bf asked me after 3 weeks and I thought it was soon but was delighted that he was sincere and not interested in games. I said yes and it's been two years.
    Nov 11, 2017 6
    • eBay yEbw82
      I dont think the dating pool really shrinks. Probably shrinks for women but men should be fine.
      Nov 13, 2017
    • Adobe sushiLife
      Lol we broke up yesterday
      Nov 15, 2017
    • Apple Bnhjk56
      Sorry to hear that. Hope you find someone else soon
      Nov 15, 2017
    • WRKSHP / Eng
      I'm sorry to hear 😥
      Nov 16, 2017
    • Google Miss
      Sorry to hear that 💧
      Nov 16, 2017
  • Microsoft hug
    You will know. Youy won't have to ask
    Nov 11, 2017 3
    • Salesforce SYQT75
      ^this
      Nov 11, 2017
    • Microsoft / Eng deadpan
      This is terrible advice. Talk about your expectations. It's the only way to have a healthy relationship.
      Nov 12, 2017
    • Microsoft hug
      ^this before you decide to spend your life together but not to see each other
      Nov 12, 2017
  • Facebook liSf43
    Why is this tripe on blind?
    Nov 10, 2017 0
  • Three fiddy
    Nov 10, 2017 0
  • Google Miss
    I think it’s very attractive and masculine for a guy to take a lead on asking the exclusive question. Be confident, straight forward and show sincerity. Women appreciate the boldness and it makes us feel safe.
    Nov 15, 2017 0
  • Workday aflack
    3 weeks is too soon, unless you are in highschool lol. Wait at least 2 months or until you know that you both are compatible. Just focus on getting to know eachother... why rush the label?
    Nov 10, 2017 0
  • Amazon Snapcrackl
    Some people are uncomfortable with labels in general, but not necessarily the monogamy part. You could just say like “hey, so, I’m not seeing anyone else anymore... Are you?”
    Nov 10, 2017 0
  • Airbnb HunkyDorya
    Let the woman move things to be more committed or at least broach the subject first. Just tends to work out better that way.
    Nov 10, 2017 0
  • Amazon / Eng ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ
    “Business trip”. Yeah, right.
    Nov 10, 2017 0
  • Amazon VaderGator
    Has it become physical yet ?
    Nov 11, 2017 1
    • MGM Resorts Jeff702
      OP
      Yes
      Nov 22, 2017
  • Microsoft / Eng
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    Nov 11, 2017 0
  • Yahoo jzcy26
    why do you need to ask? seems you'd know without having to resort to that
    Nov 11, 2017 1
    • WRKSHP / Eng
      It's good to make sure both people are on the same page.

      Also to be able to use the bf/gf label freely.
      Nov 11, 2017
  • Cisco Honest_tea
    Not too soon!! Gender doesn't matter. Go for it
    Nov 10, 2017 0