I got late in taking my painkiller and wound up in a pool of painful cramps all day. I missed on an important meeting. I told my team that I am out sick and that's it. This happens to me every month. Sometimes I am able to manage it well sometime it's just a big fat mess. I wish I could just tell everyone what I am going through and have them be ok with it. How's the culture in your team? Do you feel comfortable either talking about it in person are emailing the team about it? What makes the emailing tricky is that it's going to happen every month and I dunno if ppl would be ok to be on the receiving end of it.
Just say you're sick, why do you need to get any more specific than that
Doctors excuses are required in Europe for sick leave 😭🤷
Because why should I use my sick days on something that I can’t control? Why is it that women don’t get more sick days in that case, so we can use those for periods too. My company has implemented a menstruation police after I openly spoke to them about what it does to me and this sparked a conversation with all women in the company resulting in HR understanding that this is beyond our control and that we can take a day off/remote (depending on how painful it is) every month. This mindset of “why would it” is a societal construction that tells us that periods are something to be ashamed of and to be suffered in silent. It’s a new era for women, and to think like that only delays our whole point of gender equality! I’m a 100% that if men had periods, it wouldn’t be shameful, and they would get all support. If we women can empathize and be understand with each other as well as them, we should expect the same treatment from them
What happens if the other gender sends a "sick, OOO" every month, about as regular as every 25 to 30 days?? I mean, gender discrepancies would arise or something?
You can’t wonder things like this - you will get publicly shamed. The thought police SJWs are on it.
But why though??? Every question is a genuine one. What if that's a Chemotherapy schedule and the Employee wouldn't want to discuss it openly with the young Supervisor?
I miss working with other women and being able to talk about these things. Right now I only work with men so I don’t bring it up
Working with other women is cool. When I had an all-men team, I felt left out.
That’s what I have now. It sucks
I give my manager more details about my medical problems, but my teammates don’t necessarily need to know everything.
Show no mercy as HR will use your disability to their advantage and you will be the first on the team to go. They will conceal it with a RIF #BadMicrosoft
Menstrual cramps are a disability? Have you talked to a woman before?
They will take a proactive strike as eventually it could lead to endometriosis. is not commonly thought of as a disability, endometriosis symptoms can severely impact a person's life. If you can no longer work or earn a living because of your endometriosis, you may be eligible to receive Social Security Disability benefits.
I do and I am male. I also let them know when I have explosive diarrhea so they can treat me accordingly.
Do you have explosive diarrhea every month?
Weekly
Don’t mention it to the team. Tell your boss.
Mention to whoever you want. What century are you living in? It’s one think to suggest but another to demand. You don’t tell me or any women to don’t do something.
Uh no thank you. I’m a woman but I’m not interested in hearing your cramps unless it was mentioned in the bathroom. Not a workplace subject matter.
Would you feel the same way if someone had a headache or stomach pain? My point is, we as woman are told our bodies natural monthly cycle is “gross” and we are shamed for discussing it but we should realize it’s normal
You can realize whatever you want. I think women who complain about menstrual cramp because they forgot to take ibuprofen today is TMI and an annoyance if it effects their productivity at work.
Before I even started at my company, I was honest and wrote them an email explaining that I have chronic pay during that time of the month and asked if I could work from home at least once a month, during the time when the pain is the most severe. Not only did this create a conversation between HR with all women in my company but also they have now started to look into creating a menstruation policy, in which allows women to take a day off/remote (depending on how bad it is). My work is very respectful about this and have no shame in talking about this, like some dude up there saying that he won’t talk about diarrhea (as if his diarrhea came every month, lasted a whole week and makes you truly disable to focus, and even walk in my case). I think that we as women should not be ashamed to talk about this, and I’m not saying it is necessarily to do so, but if you’re restraining yourself because you are afraid of other people’s (men’s) reaction then I’m sorry to tell you but you’re living in a sexist world and letting yourself believe that periods are shameful because of what sexist men have told you as you grew up. Don’t get me wrong, you do no need to say anything if you don’t want, but if you tell a female co-worker and feel comfortable with that, then you should feel that with men too. It’s because of dudes like this diarrhea dude above that we women are ashamed of what our body does naturally, not even realizing that this monthly bleeding is what bring these intolerant men to life. Never feel ashamed about your body!!! Don’t let anyone restrain you from doing what you exactly wanna do. Let men deal with their intolerant and exclusive ways, they will have women and daughters (well a lot of them) and then they will understand.
We had a teammate before that just said she was having cramps and is staying home. Happened frequently, monthly I guess. Nobody questioned. I think saying you’re sick is cool too; nobody should question the nature of your health issues in general.