How much influence does your spouse have?

Rackspace racklife
Jun 8 233 Comments

Curious as to how much influence does your spouse have on your career decisions like accepting promotion, changing companies, etc.

Edit: removed relo as we all agree that is different.

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  • Amazon new_ew
    None of these. I keep my spouse informed but make the decisions myself.
    Jun 8 20
    • 🙄
      Jun 10
    • Amazon inode
      @36832

      Quickly, wife works at Uber?
      Jun 10
    • Amazon Bill.
      I don't get what the underlying objections are to 36832's comment. What are people interpreting this to mean that is upsetting?
      Jun 10
    • Amazon epicuriou
      Bill: I think almost nobody objects to what 36832 said. The "you're a POS" comment and others were directed at the new_ew poster at the top of the page.
      Jun 10
    • Amazon vGrateful
      Lol. I’m sure it’s exactly the opposite. Do you have to ask her to spend $100? :)
      Jun 10
  • New / Eng SharmaG
    Spouse is more of a sounding board. Don't give too much info. And know that spouses have their own agenda. Mine wanted me to join a FANG so that her social status would rise.
    Jun 8 44
    • LinkedIn boringdude
      Haha The worlds most racist
      Race complaining of racism
      Jun 10
    • New / Eng SharmaG
      And you double down on your racism.
      Jun 10
    • Booking.com
      D.J. Trump

      Booking.com

      BIO
      🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜
      D.J. Trumpmore
      Let's skip this argument of who is racist.

      Let's say you get into a FANG, and assuming that increases your social status. What's the next thing you and your wife want? Up to what point will you both say that is good enough and both of you have satisfaction?

      And after you retire and not working for any company, does that mean you will have no social status?
      Jun 10
    • Booking.com XqBM21
      get me some popcorn!!!!
      Jun 10
    • Google EjKS88
      FANG is no big deal. I work for G, and my spouse works for N. His income is almost 4 times of mine though.
      Jun 11
  • Google / Eng
    actim

    Google Eng

    PRE
    Nvidia
    actimmore
    Make her feel like a part of the decision, allow her to influence smaller things, respect her vetoes but usually manipulate my way to end up on top? :P
    Jun 8 13
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      Lol. What makes you think I'm at a higher level than you?
      Well it's hard to find people like yourself. In my dating experience when push comes to shove, most men resort to traditional gender expectations. They'll date me and come to me for career advice and go marry someone else. I'm cool with it because I figured that's how the world rolls and I won't let it get to me 😇
      Jun 9
    • Capital One
      thickmama1

      Capital One

      BIO
      Woman struggling to pass interviews
      thickmama1more
      My secretary has been made aware of my superior ranking as chief executive of the patio chair and dropped you a private chat.
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      Ha!
      Jun 9
    • New AsYK38
      Honestly I would only marry someone who's option I trust more than my owns
      Jun 10
    • Blackbaud / Other azrj51
      This is not how a marriage should be - you should find a partner who you can work through things with. It’s not a game where someone “wins” or “ends up on top”. How toxic of a relationship would it be if she was saying the same sort of things about you to her friends?
      Jun 10
  • Facebook / Eng cico
    My wife decided all the small matters: where to live, when to have kids, how to raise them, where to go for vacations... I am in charge of big decisions: who should be president, whether US should invade Iraq, does UFO exist, us-china trade war...
    Jun 9 7
    • Facebook / Strategy miikescott
      Copied, but hilarious.
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      Ha. This is the perfect man.
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft / IT booboochu
      You must have seen that interview of Ashish Nehra in breakfast with champions. He gave the same response when asked who make decisions in house
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce myna
      Ashish Nehra
      Jun 10
    • Facebook / Eng cico
      I have no idea who that guy is. Heard this joke in china 15y ago, must be one of those old lame jokes :))
      Jun 11
  • Activision Blizzard 86753on
    Relocation is a totally different type of thing from accepting promotion.
    Jun 8 4
    • Rackspace racklife
      OP
      This is probably true.
      Jun 8
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

      Microsoft Product

      PRE
      Bain & Company
      Brazukamore
      Exactly. Any local job change that doesn't change much WLB, my decision (and hers for her job). Relo is a team decision
      Jun 9
    • Intuit Indiv. #1
      A big promo could potentially impact WLB
      Jun 9
    • Kaspersky Lab / HR aye dais
      I'm asking my spouse to brainstorm with me on potential pitfalls of promotion. It's not about wlb, she is invested in my career, I'm invested in hers, so we look into promotions from long-term career goals as well.
      Jun 9
  • CVS Health zzwJ42
    Spouse ~ Wife?
    Jun 8 8
    • Intuit Indiv. #1
      Or doing it right if you want to delay marriage
      Jun 9
    • New / Other
      DuQvV7y

      New Other

      BIO
      Did stuff. Hustled hard. Retired
      DuQvV7ymore
      For some people the “benefit” is being the decision-maker
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft missyelli
      CVS Health - really???
      Jun 9
    • Google EjKS88
      My spouse and I were fwb. 😂
      Jun 11
    • Yahoo VftD25
      sexist ~ you?
      Jun 12
  • Amazon
    COE1

    Amazon

    PRE
    IBM, Oracle
    COE1more
    It’s my spouse who made my career and wealth. She is the main inspiration on every decision I make. She told me join the company I’m currently in than I was going to join 10 years ago. Without her financial management. I wouldn’t be able to have 1.5MM (1MM vested and 500K unvested ) in my account. She didn’t allow me sell the RSUs. She always told that, Your company has big potential. All these is other than 1 house in USA (250k up from the date I bought) 3 fully paid houses in India (1.5 crors).
    Jun 9 11
    • LinkedIn boringdude
      At this point amzn stock has gone up so much that even if it falls it would be at least about the same returns if he had diversified. So given the margin of safety you have, it’s not that dangerous either, but good to diversify a bit.
      Jun 9
    • Infoblox / Eng lKsU38
      Past performance is irrelevant in this decision, other than psychologically. Diversify now to lock in the better-than-average gains of the last few years.
      Jun 9
    • Verizon kurious1
      There could have been others in family/friends who may have given same advice had one asked them. But most likely, one may not have listened. But when it is wife, one follows through and if things work out, sycophant husbands give all the credit for their destiny to their wives. Most likely low esteem or due to the environment they grew up.
      Jun 9
    • Tableau / Eng vvvvvvvvvl
      You didn’t get married, you have been adopted!
      Jun 9
    • Amazon / Data
      dangpom

      Amazon Data

      PRE
      Deloitte Digital
      dangpommore
      👆🏽damn! That’s spot on!
      Jun 10
  • Google yellowshit
    My decisions actually depend on my neighbors spouse.
    Jun 9 4
  • Amazon ChivalryAF
    This is blind, nobody is married here in man jose 🤣
    Jun 9 0
  • Oracle RangMaa
    Before answering let me check with her.

    She told me me to choose, I make my own decisions
    Jun 9 0
  • Microsoft Spankher
    Fired her. Got a sugar baby. Life is easier now.
    Jun 9 10
    • Microsoft Spankher
      Level 65.
      Jun 9
    • Cisco meoww
      If you’re in the bay pm me
      Jun 9
    • Lyft / Eng
      deezenuts

      Lyft Eng

      PRE
      Google
      deezenutsmore
      My tc 700k I’m available for group work
      Jun 9
    • Mine is 7000k .. I am into orgies as well 😂
      Jun 10
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Remember when u r at orgies ur spouse is at home taking care of kids! Wow you are awesome!
      Jun 10
  • Sprout Social 3eha8
    This thread is one of the sadder things I’ve seen on Blind - and there has been a lot of sad shit.
    Jun 9 4
    • Pegasystems happyjalap
      Yeah, seems like everyone in tech is in marriages completely based on an arrangement. Men get guaranteed sex in exchange for providing luxury lifestyle.
      Jun 9
    • Indian arranged marriages are particularly 😞. It just for making babies 👶 👶.
      Jun 10
    • PayPal ho!h9
      It’s sad for you morons who dominate at home and talk as if you are clean outside! Just don’t understand what marriage is all about it’s really sad ...let your family RIP!
      Jun 10
    • Sprout Social 3eha8
      what
      Jun 10
  • Google singl4ever
    single forever
    Jun 9 2
    • Databricks / Data
      data4u

      Databricks Data

      PRE
      500 Startups
      data4umore
      U get laid?
      Jun 9
    • Databricks / Data
      data4u

      Databricks Data

      PRE
      500 Startups
      data4umore
      Sitting on ur left hand till it’s numb and jerking off doesn’t count
      Jun 9
  • New Fungi
    Marriage is an outdated social custom that has adapted poorly to the modern world.
    Jun 9 10
    • True - it’s < 5% .. I rounded it up 😂
      Jun 10
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Y don’t u divorce?
      Jun 11
    • Facebook / Eng
      deepanalys

      Facebook Eng

      PRE
      Facebook
      deepanalysmore
      Why divorce when you can have fun with statistics
      Jun 11
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Why shouldn’t you and spare ur spouse atleast that way both can be happy and if kids are involved then it gets a bit complicated but hey atleast both of u can be happy.
      Jun 11
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Being in a relationship where no one is happy is not meaningful
      Jun 11
  • Lyft / Eng
    deezenuts

    Lyft Eng

    PRE
    Google
    deezenutsmore
    Divorced and gtfo best tc ever
    Jun 9 1
    • Lyft / Eng
      deezenuts

      Lyft Eng

      PRE
      Google
      deezenutsmore
      My hand my best companion
      Jun 9
  • Amazon tzchar0
    Lol at angry SJWs commenting on this thread. Sorry soyboys, normal people don’t need their spouse to hold their dick for them while they pee.
    Jun 9 3
    • Activision Blizzard / Eng newrandom
      That's okay, I don't think you'll have to worry about anyone holding your dick anytime soon.
      Jun 9
    • Amazon tzchar0
      And clearly you think you will if you keep posting angrily about it on the internet! Get those internet points to show to girls buddy.
      Jun 9
    • Activision Blizzard / Eng newrandom
      As a married, demisexual Apache Helicopter I don't have to worry about having puny human genitals to be touched. But I'm sure your strategy of "fuck the libtards" is crushing it.
      Jun 9
  • Cloudflare ahCQ01
    Lemme get my balls from her purse
    Jun 9 0
  • Facebook / Eng alexandra
    I don’t think these votes are very objective, or at least base on all the comments, most of people who vote are straight man with a housewife at home, and they are not financially equal even tho the man will listen to the woman somehow. It’s pathetic... me and my bf we respect each other’s opinions and always tell each other what is bothering us at work even a small bug in code, we listen to each other, we give ‘if I were you’ advice, and we make decision by ourselves.
    Jun 9 4
    • Lyft / Eng
      deezenuts

      Lyft Eng

      PRE
      Google
      deezenutsmore
      Tc?
      Jun 9
    • Facebook / Eng alexandra
      Why it even matters? My TC used to be higher than his and now he changed job we are close
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft qkdmqk
      I know right!? Couldn't agree more with this.
      Jun 9
    • Lyft / Eng
      deezenuts

      Lyft Eng

      PRE
      Google
      deezenutsmore
      :( no tc?
      Jun 9
  • Activision Blizzard / Eng newrandom
    Fucking Christ this thread is a train wreck. Sexism, racism, terrible relationships... Ffs
    Jun 9 0
  • I buy 90$ MU calls with my GFs 401k if that’s what you’re asking
    Jun 9 0