How much influence does your spouse have?

Rackspace racklife
Jun 8 230 Comments

Curious as to how much influence does your spouse have on your career decisions like accepting promotion, changing companies, etc.

Edit: removed relo as we all agree that is different.

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  • Amazon new_ew
    None of these. I keep my spouse informed but make the decisions myself.
    Jun 8 20
    • Snapchat fud2much
      @instacart- or is that what you’ve been made to believe. Sure thing buddy - you do make your own decisions lol
      Jun 9
    • Amazon rathercool
      Like A Boss
      Jun 10
    • Amazon inode
      “Disagree and commit” by the spouse.. lol
      Jun 10
    • @ 36832- What I understood from your statement, as poorly articulated as it was, is one of two things is happening here:

      1) You and your spouse are lucky in that you’re already in lock step agreement on almost all of your major career decisions before you’ve even talked about it. Kudos, that’s awesome you’ve found your match, and that you two are so compatible. I applaud you, but I also caution against confusing natural alignment with independent decision making. When you say things like “The difference is that we don't have to come to consensus in this particular case, unlikely as that may be.”, you lose an opportunity to open a dialogue which celebrates that natural alignment with your spouse,and I worry you’ll eventually take that natural alignment for granted. It’s not an easy thing!

      Or 2 ) Your spouse doesn’t give a shit what you do. I find this highly unlikely because the way you speak of them communicates a modicum of respect (my sample was small no negative intent meant).

      That said, when you say things like “Unless there's an aspect that affects both of us (like less money, more time at work), it's not really a joint decision. It's my career.” you sound ignorant. What kind of decisions would one make in their career which don’t have an impact to all that on a long enough time frame? You’re thinking too small, metrics for marriages are measured across decades when you’re doing things right.

      The decisions you are making now will impact all those things you mentioned in an increasing order of magnitude the farther out you go.

      Unless you’re trolling by taking the question far too literally thinking OP was asking if they should run when to bio-break by their spouse (they weren’t), in that case, lol.
      Jun 10
    • Fitbit 36832
      Dude, I don't have any idea what you've read into my post, but I'd encourage you to read my words and turn of your filters. I was just trying to point out an important nuance that I felt the voting categories didn't cover. That's all.

      I can also guarantee that you are no position to give me marriage advice.
      Jun 10
    • 🙄
      Jun 10
    • Amazon inode
      @36832

      Quickly, wife works at Uber?
      Jun 10
    • Amazon Bill.
      I don't get what the underlying objections are to 36832's comment. What are people interpreting this to mean that is upsetting?
      Jun 10
    • Amazon epicuriou
      Bill: I think almost nobody objects to what 36832 said. The "you're a POS" comment and others were directed at the new_ew poster at the top of the page.
      Jun 10
    • Amazon vGrateful
      Lol. I’m sure it’s exactly the opposite. Do you have to ask her to spend $100? :)
      Jun 10
  • New / Eng SharmaG
    Spouse is more of a sounding board. Don't give too much info. And know that spouses have their own agenda. Mine wanted me to join a FANG so that her social status would rise.
    Jun 8 45
    • LinkedIn boringdude
      Idiot, we’re talking of marriages!
      Jun 9
    • New / Eng SharmaG
      No idiot, he was talking about race in the context of marriage. How dense are you?

      So expecting dowry is bad and expecting money in your future husband or wife is not? Fantastic logic!
      Jun 9
    • LinkedIn boringdude
      And this moron Sharma also thinks honor killings aren’t bad because we all die anyway!
      Jun 10
    • New / Eng SharmaG
      No point explaining anything to you rapists! You don't understand that you are racists.
      Jun 10
    • LinkedIn boringdude
      Haha The worlds most racist
      Race complaining of racism
      Jun 10
    • New / Eng SharmaG
      And you double down on your racism.
      Jun 10
    • Booking.com
      D.J. Trump

      Booking.com

      BIO
      🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜
      D.J. Trumpmore
      Let's skip this argument of who is racist.

      Let's say you get into a FANG, and assuming that increases your social status. What's the next thing you and your wife want? Up to what point will you both say that is good enough and both of you have satisfaction?

      And after you retire and not working for any company, does that mean you will have no social status?
      Jun 10
    • Booking.com XqBM21
      get me some popcorn!!!!
      Jun 10
    • Google EjKS88
      FANG is no big deal. I work for G, and my spouse works for N. His income is almost 4 times of mine though.
      Jun 11
    • Isn't saying where you live (a true signal of wealth) more important that so-called prestige from working at a certain company?
      Jun 11
  • Google / Eng
    actim

    Google Eng

    PRE
    Nvidia
    actimmore
    Make her feel like a part of the decision, allow her to influence smaller things, respect her vetoes but usually manipulate my way to end up on top? :P
    Jun 8 13
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      Now let your partner say exactly the same thing and it's going to be fun.
      Jun 9
    • New NidI04
      When you give options, subtly bias the choices.
      If you don't want to study for FANG :
      I'm thinking between
      1. Those FANG where you're one of a 100,000 people doing boring work after struggling so much for interviews
      2. Or a startup where you can actually have an impact.

      Or if you want to join FANG

      1. Joining a sought after company like FANG where the stocks have been growing astronomically
      2. Or a no-name startup where chances are your company won't make it big, and you'll end up overworked and underpaid. And no glamorous name in your resume :/

      And the naiver your wife is, she will be more influenced by the polling options and vote the way you want her to.
      Jun 9
    • Clover Health sses
      Nit: more naive.
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      I'm sorry but if you feel someones so naive and incapable of being objective for your life choices, you shouldn't marry her. I'd feel insulted if a hypothetical husband spoke about me this way.
      Yes if she's a housewife she's going to want you to FAANG. So she can hire a house cleaner and get some respite and not feel guilty over it.
      If you want her to not care, then ensure that she has her own lucrative career!
      Jun 9
    • Capital One
      thickmama1

      Capital One

      BIO
      Woman struggling to pass interviews
      thickmama1more
      GuacamoLay - you’re exactly right. That’s the type of people I’ve attempted to date but we all know how terrible dating apps are and the people who don’t put in any effort. There are times where you end up with people who don’t care to improve themselves or their careers but want to have influence over your life. If my partner showed effort or determination (even without succeeding) I’d find that a hell of a lot more attractive than marrying someone to manipulate. Again, I tend to date people who push me and I debate with late at night (1am) to the point where we need to get up and go a late night diner because the conversation won’t end. Perhaps that’s why I’ve been single and away from dating for 6 months but you’re spot on.

      Also, if Salesforce is hiring and/or you want a subordinate who won’t BS...DM me. 🤓
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      Lol. What makes you think I'm at a higher level than you?
      Well it's hard to find people like yourself. In my dating experience when push comes to shove, most men resort to traditional gender expectations. They'll date me and come to me for career advice and go marry someone else. I'm cool with it because I figured that's how the world rolls and I won't let it get to me 😇
      Jun 9
    • Capital One
      thickmama1

      Capital One

      BIO
      Woman struggling to pass interviews
      thickmama1more
      My secretary has been made aware of my superior ranking as chief executive of the patio chair and dropped you a private chat.
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      Ha!
      Jun 9
    • New AsYK38
      Honestly I would only marry someone who's option I trust more than my owns
      Jun 10
    • Blackbaud / Other azrj51
      This is not how a marriage should be - you should find a partner who you can work through things with. It’s not a game where someone “wins” or “ends up on top”. How toxic of a relationship would it be if she was saying the same sort of things about you to her friends?
      Jun 10
  • Facebook / Eng cico
    My wife decided all the small matters: where to live, when to have kids, how to raise them, where to go for vacations... I am in charge of big decisions: who should be president, whether US should invade Iraq, does UFO exist, us-china trade war...
    Jun 9 7
    • Intuit ifuiu
      Hilarious!
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft / Eng MarvelVsDc
      This.
      Jun 9
    • Facebook / Strategy miikescott
      Copied, but hilarious.
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      Ha. This is the perfect man.
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft / IT booboochu
      You must have seen that interview of Ashish Nehra in breakfast with champions. He gave the same response when asked who make decisions in house
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce myna
      Ashish Nehra
      Jun 10
    • Facebook / Eng cico
      I have no idea who that guy is. Heard this joke in china 15y ago, must be one of those old lame jokes :))
      Jun 11
  • Activision Blizzard 86753on
    Relocation is a totally different type of thing from accepting promotion.
    Jun 8 4
    • Rackspace racklife
      OP
      This is probably true.
      Jun 8
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

      Microsoft Product

      PRE
      Bain & Company
      Brazukamore
      Exactly. Any local job change that doesn't change much WLB, my decision (and hers for her job). Relo is a team decision
      Jun 9
    • Intuit Indiv. #1
      A big promo could potentially impact WLB
      Jun 9
    • Kaspersky Lab aye dais
      I'm asking my spouse to brainstorm with me on potential pitfalls of promotion. It's not about wlb, she is invested in my career, I'm invested in hers, so we look into promotions from long-term career goals as well.
      Jun 9
  • CVS Health zzwJ42
    Spouse ~ Wife?
    Jun 8 8
    • Rackspace racklife
      OP
      Wife, husband, partner, whatever your preference.
      Jun 8
    • New tapR56
      fwb?
      Jun 8
    • Rackspace racklife
      OP
      If you gave your FWB decision making access you are doing it wrong.
      Jun 9
    • Intuit Indiv. #1
      Or doing it right if you want to delay marriage
      Jun 9
    • New / Other
      DuQvV7y

      New Other

      BIO
      Did stuff. Hustled hard. Retired
      DuQvV7ymore
      For some people the “benefit” is being the decision-maker
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft missyelli
      CVS Health - really???
      Jun 9
    • Google EjKS88
      My spouse and I were fwb. 😂
      Jun 11
    • Yahoo VftD25
      sexist ~ you?
      Jun 12
  • Amazon
    COE1

    Amazon

    PRE
    IBM, Oracle
    COE1more
    It’s my spouse who made my career and wealth. She is the main inspiration on every decision I make. She told me join the company I’m currently in than I was going to join 10 years ago. Without her financial management. I wouldn’t be able to have 1.5MM (1MM vested and 500K unvested ) in my account. She didn’t allow me sell the RSUs. She always told that, Your company has big potential. All these is other than 1 house in USA (250k up from the date I bought) 3 fully paid houses in India (1.5 crors).
    Jun 9 11
    • LinkedIn boringdude
      Why didn’t your spouse join the valuable company herself? Just curious
      Jun 9
    • PayPal .Me
      Same here, only my right hand is my wife lel
      Jun 9
    • Google Hjkjgz
      That’s cool but you should diversify some of those RSUs. #rememberenron
      Jun 9
    • Amazon
      MrTrader

      Amazon

      PRE
      IBM, Oracle
      MrTradermore
      It’s work pressure . She’s happy to work in a company where work pressure is less. We have 2 kids and someone need to be there to take care of them
      Jun 9
    • Salesforce Zed12
      Agreed on diversification. Put them in an index fund like VTSAX and some bonds just in case your company drops. Diversification is the safest thing to do to keep from potentially losing a lot of it.
      Jun 9
    • LinkedIn boringdude
      At this point amzn stock has gone up so much that even if it falls it would be at least about the same returns if he had diversified. So given the margin of safety you have, it’s not that dangerous either, but good to diversify a bit.
      Jun 9
    • Infoblox / Eng lKsU38
      Past performance is irrelevant in this decision, other than psychologically. Diversify now to lock in the better-than-average gains of the last few years.
      Jun 9
    • Verizon kurious1
      There could have been others in family/friends who may have given same advice had one asked them. But most likely, one may not have listened. But when it is wife, one follows through and if things work out, sycophant husbands give all the credit for their destiny to their wives. Most likely low esteem or due to the environment they grew up.
      Jun 9
    • Tableau vvvvvvvvvl
      You didn’t get married, you have been adopted!
      Jun 9
    • Amazon / Data
      dangpom

      Amazon Data

      PRE
      Deloitte Digital
      dangpommore
      👆🏽damn! That’s spot on!
      Jun 10
  • Google yellowshit
    My decisions actually depend on my neighbors spouse.
    Jun 9 4
  • Amazon ChivalryAF
    This is blind, nobody is married here in man jose 🤣
    Jun 9 0
  • Oracle RangMaa
    Before answering let me check with her.

    She told me me to choose, I make my own decisions
    Jun 9 0
  • Microsoft Spankher
    Fired her. Got a sugar baby. Life is easier now.
    Jun 9 10
    • Cisco cbd
      Looking for another ;)?
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft Spankher
      Only own weekends. Too busy maxing Tc during the week
      Jun 9
    • Databricks / Data
      data4u

      Databricks Data

      PRE
      500 Startups
      data4umore
      What’s your TC?
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft Spankher
      450k
      Jun 9
    • Databricks / Data
      data4u

      Databricks Data

      PRE
      500 Startups
      data4umore
      How
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft Spankher
      Level 65.
      Jun 9
    • Cisco meoww
      If you’re in the bay pm me
      Jun 9
    • Lyft / Eng
      deezenuts

      Lyft Eng

      PRE
      Google
      deezenutsmore
      My tc 700k I’m available for group work
      Jun 9
    • Mine is 7000k .. I am into orgies as well 😂
      Jun 10
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Remember when u r at orgies ur spouse is at home taking care of kids! Wow you are awesome!
      Jun 10
  • Sprout Social 3eha8
    This thread is one of the sadder things I’ve seen on Blind - and there has been a lot of sad shit.
    Jun 9 4
    • Pegasystems happyjalap
      Yeah, seems like everyone in tech is in marriages completely based on an arrangement. Men get guaranteed sex in exchange for providing luxury lifestyle.
      Jun 9
    • Indian arranged marriages are particularly 😞. It just for making babies 👶 👶.
      Jun 10
    • PayPal ho!h9
      It’s sad for you morons who dominate at home and talk as if you are clean outside! Just don’t understand what marriage is all about it’s really sad ...let your family RIP!
      Jun 10
    • Sprout Social 3eha8
      what
      Jun 10
  • New Fungi
    Marriage is an outdated social custom that has adapted poorly to the modern world.
    Jun 9 10
    • Cisco cbd
      It’s nice to go through life with a partner.
      Jun 9
    • Facebook / Eng
      deepanalys

      Facebook Eng

      PRE
      Facebook
      deepanalysmore
      You can have multiple partners (or multiple lives)
      Jun 9
    • Cisco meoww
      Sure but the memories build with one person over time. It’s like having a best friend for many years. It’s nice to look back, they understand your past because they were part of it
      Jun 10
    • Awww 🥰 Truth - Less than 5% of couples live in this blissful state. 😂
      Jun 10
    • Intel pakajdj88
      Made up statistic
      Jun 10
    • True - it’s < 5% .. I rounded it up 😂
      Jun 10
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Y don’t u divorce?
      Jun 11
    • Facebook / Eng
      deepanalys

      Facebook Eng

      PRE
      Facebook
      deepanalysmore
      Why divorce when you can have fun with statistics
      Jun 11
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Why shouldn’t you and spare ur spouse atleast that way both can be happy and if kids are involved then it gets a bit complicated but hey atleast both of u can be happy.
      Jun 11
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Being in a relationship where no one is happy is not meaningful
      Jun 11
  • Google singl4ever
    single forever
    Jun 9 2
    • Databricks / Data
      data4u

      Databricks Data

      PRE
      500 Startups
      data4umore
      U get laid?
      Jun 9
    • Databricks / Data
      data4u

      Databricks Data

      PRE
      500 Startups
      data4umore
      Sitting on ur left hand till it’s numb and jerking off doesn’t count
      Jun 9
  • Lyft / Eng
    deezenuts

    Lyft Eng

    PRE
    Google
    deezenutsmore
    Divorced and gtfo best tc ever
    Jun 9 1
    • Lyft / Eng
      deezenuts

      Lyft Eng

      PRE
      Google
      deezenutsmore
      My hand my best companion
      Jun 9
  • Amazon tzchar0
    Lol at angry SJWs commenting on this thread. Sorry soyboys, normal people don’t need their spouse to hold their dick for them while they pee.
    Jun 9 3
    • Activision Blizzard / Eng newrandom
      That's okay, I don't think you'll have to worry about anyone holding your dick anytime soon.
      Jun 9
    • Amazon tzchar0
      And clearly you think you will if you keep posting angrily about it on the internet! Get those internet points to show to girls buddy.
      Jun 9
    • Activision Blizzard / Eng newrandom
      As a married, demisexual Apache Helicopter I don't have to worry about having puny human genitals to be touched. But I'm sure your strategy of "fuck the libtards" is crushing it.
      Jun 9
  • Cloudflare ahCQ01
    Lemme get my balls from her purse
    Jun 9 0
  • Facebook / Eng alexandra
    I don’t think these votes are very objective, or at least base on all the comments, most of people who vote are straight man with a housewife at home, and they are not financially equal even tho the man will listen to the woman somehow. It’s pathetic... me and my bf we respect each other’s opinions and always tell each other what is bothering us at work even a small bug in code, we listen to each other, we give ‘if I were you’ advice, and we make decision by ourselves.
    Jun 9 4
    • Lyft / Eng
      deezenuts

      Lyft Eng

      PRE
      Google
      deezenutsmore
      Tc?
      Jun 9
    • Facebook / Eng alexandra
      Why it even matters? My TC used to be higher than his and now he changed job we are close
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft qkdmqk
      I know right!? Couldn't agree more with this.
      Jun 9
    • Lyft / Eng
      deezenuts

      Lyft Eng

      PRE
      Google
      deezenutsmore
      :( no tc?
      Jun 9
  • Activision Blizzard / Eng newrandom
    Fucking Christ this thread is a train wreck. Sexism, racism, terrible relationships... Ffs
    Jun 9 0
  • I buy 90$ MU calls with my GFs 401k if that’s what you’re asking
    Jun 9 0
  • NYC Department of Social Service hFHt04
    To all the ones who said "Team Decision" I really hope there is no divorce in their future. Anytime you let someone affect or tailor a decision about your future it is compounded once you can no longer be with them. Do what's best for you, if they benefit great if you benefit that's what it's all about. And just so you know, I'm married with two kids, but if an opportunity comes up I'm taking it. I know at the end of the day during a breakup, especially as a man you are simply a number on a spreadsheet. I get an opportunity to make more money, I'm taking it cause that means I can stash more money away in my "rainy day" fund.
    Jun 9 5
    • Microsoft ynoa48
      Yeah bro, you really got to max out that TC at the New York department of social services.....
      Jun 9
    • NYC Department of Social Service hFHt04
      Yup Microsoft. Remember it's called "Blind" dont take shit literally all the time.
      Jun 9
    • PayPal x ploy ted
      Because it is a team decision divorce is much less likely. I think the opposite: if its not a team decision, I hope you don’t stay together - the other has to live with your selfish decisions.

      Just don’t understand why people get married if its not a partnership. Are you men so insecure you’re scared you won’t get laid so you marry the first woman to come along? Jeez, no wonder you’re so unhappy.
      Jun 9
    • NYC Department of Social Service hFHt04
      1st Marriage - 50% chance of Divorce
      2nd Marriage - 65% Chance of Divorce
      3rd Marriage - 75% chance of Divorce

      Much like being a Tenured teacher people can start out great but then fade after you say "I do" the laws favor women now let the laws favor men and we'll see how much water your "partnership" theory holds...
      Jun 9
    • PayPal x ploy ted
      Thanks for proving my point.
      Jun 9
  • Microsoft biubiubiu0
    My wife doesn’t care about my career, she is only interested to luxury brand, so I’m looking to find somebody else to replace her
    Jun 9 3
    • Cisco cbd
      U in the bay?
      Jun 9
    • Microsoft biubiubiu0
      How do you know
      Jun 9
    • Facebook / Eng
      deepanalys

      Facebook Eng

      PRE
      Facebook
      deepanalysmore
      Is your wife single?
      Jun 9
  • My career and networth took of after I divorced. We fought about financial issues all the time, as I favor investments v.s. spending. The problem is that it's hard to find a lady who is aligned savings, esp I would say after 35. They see my old car or comments about eating out cost, and run away, even though I am doing very well.
    Jun 11 8
    • It’s also very hard to find a lady who isn’t risk averse when it comes to aggressive investing
      Jun 11
    • Facebook nogroup
      perhaps it’s because they want to live now rather than be comfortable in old age?
      Jun 11
    • Could be anything
      My gf is already trying to control my finances even tho I make more returns than her shitty savings brokerage account. She’s also trying to make me get a masters because she wants to get a top 10 MBA and doesn’t want her “elite peers” to look down on me
      Jun 11
    • Yep, famiar developments. My relationship was the best when we keept finances separate. It is hard to do it with house ownership and child, but if I am to do it again, esp at this stage, I will keep finances separate as much as I can.

      Make a a choice of long term benefit of a degree.
      Jun 11
    • Veritas qGcX07
      If we have aggressive financial goals, it is better to delay marriage.
      Jun 11
    • Yeah but drop 80k for an online degree that may or may not add any value? Nope.
      Jun 12
    • Facebook nogroup
      Sounds like your gf is more concerned about status than being a good partner.
      Jun 12
    • Veritas qGcX07
      Bad idea doing online degree. No one even cares about it to claim for status;)
      Jun 12
  • Facebook nogroup
    My spouse is brilliant and cunning otherwise I wouldn’t have married them. We both know all career decisions are our own, but we always ask the other for advice because otherwise why be in a partnership?
    Jun 10 3
    • Because we get laid?
      Jun 11
    • Facebook / Eng
      deepanalys

      Facebook Eng

      PRE
      Facebook
      deepanalysmore
      Brilliant compared to you, maybe
      Jun 11
    • Facebook nogroup
      @deep s/you,\ maybe/everyone/
      Jun 11
  • Intel pakajdj88
    I let the little things slide and hold my ground on the big things.
    Jun 9 0
  • Amazon / Product
    l77t4Life

    Amazon Product

    PRE
    Microsoft
    l77t4Lifemore
    My wife care about how I'm doing at work but doesn't try to manage my career.
    Jun 9 1
  • SAP / Mgmt
    ImposterX

    SAP Mgmt

    PRE
    SAP
    ImposterXmore
    With multiple kids, there’s always the need to align due to potential changes in lifestyle
    Jun 9 0
  • Amazon 10022004
    I tell my wife everything and get her opinion. I would never let her make a decision on my career moves though, unless it involves moving. I’m the one that has to go to work and do this shit all day.
    Jun 9 0
  • Snapchat fud2much
    Happy wife Happy life! This mantra governs the life of a married man!
    Jun 9 0
  • Facebook / Eng
    deepanalys

    Facebook Eng

    PRE
    Facebook
    deepanalysmore
    None of these. My friend's spouse makes my decisions.
    Jun 9 0
  • Salesforce LtXU73
    Definitely much more than she realize.
    Jun 9 0
  • LinkedIn jhYu01
    Don't have a spouse yet, but my decisions are already affected by future spouse . Should I buy home furniture? .., what if she doesn't like it.
    Jun 9 3
    • Microsoft biubiubiu0
      Ask your future spouse to get a fucking job to amortize your mortgage
      Jun 9
    • She will not like it . I guarantee it. It’s not because the furniture is bad .. it’s because you chose it.
      Jun 10
    • PayPal ho!h9
      you are sick at your thoughts!
      Jun 11
  • It depends on how mature your arranged marriage wife turns out to be 😆. Situations like this are ideal for emotional intellect assessment. Mine turned out to be completely juvenile. Two things really bothered her - you are getting ahead of me and you will most likely have an affair in the new company (which is something they are constantly worried about 😆). Enjoy 😉 🥂
    Jun 10 2
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Is that your assumption? Looks like you have a problem. Do you guys discuss? Respect each other should be mutual..and moreover if u r so sick of arranged marriages y did u go for it? You could have made it big!!hahah
      Jun 10
    • PayPal ho!h9
      Just reading this thread again you seem to be so pissed of with arranged marriages y the hell did u go for one?
      Jun 10
  • Amazon
    x-y=0

    Amazon

    PRE
    Amazon, Salesforce, Google, Microsoft, Apple
    x-y=0more
    Wife's happiness is above all. All decisions made together.
    Jun 11 1
    • Facebook / Eng
      deepanalys

      Facebook Eng

      PRE
      Facebook
      deepanalysmore
      And her pleasure?
      Jun 11
  • Amazon vGrateful
    This thread is 🔥🔥. And I haven’t even read a single comment. I for one have more than 1 friend whose wife completely dominates them in every aspect of their lives’.

    Who got triggered? Lol
    Jun 10 1
    • Veritas qGcX07
      Without respecting one another things cannot go for long time. I wouldn’t just go with outward look. Ya everyone have their own fun. No one can get smile on their face without others around him/her are normal.
      Jun 10
  • New NidI04
    From another comment, I realized how subtle biases in survey questions bring about different results.
    So why not use the same to ask your spouse for her choice but bias the polls to get the result you want!!

    If you don't want to study for FANG :
    Hey wife, I'm thinking between
    1. Those FANG where you're one of a 100,000 people doing boring work after struggling so much for interviews
    2. Or a startup where you can actually have an impact.
    What's your take?

    Or if you want to join FANG

    1. Joining a sought after company like FANG where the stocks have been growing astronomically and my TC may go up by at least twice:
    2. Or a no-name startup where chances are your company won't make it big, and you'll end up overworked and underpaid. And no glamorous name in your resume :/
    What's your take?

    And the naiver your wife is, she will be more influenced by the polling options and vote the way you want her to.
    Jun 9 1
    • Salesforce guacamoLay
      Your not really giving her a choice unless you give her the name of the startup, your role in it, your equity and tell her to figure out crunchbase.
      Jun 9
  • Sprinklr Elemenope
    Good question, let me go ask her....
    Jun 10 0
  • Seagate toti420
    What if your spouse is your manager?
    Jun 9 0
  • NIO bottom
    I tell all the options to my wife . But whatever I want to choose , I ll add more pros to it. Obviously she will agree to that option. But because of that option, if things are not working good, put a blame on her 😂
    Jun 9 0
  • ZocDoc hnsR26
    Ed nnvg rf
    Jun 9 0
  • GSK / Eng
    chotaBheem

    GSK Eng

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    chotaBheemmore
    Wait let me get my 🍿
    Being Single is more fun
    Jun 10 2
    • Facebook / Eng
      deepanalys

      Facebook Eng

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      deepanalysmore
      You have an arranged marriage coming up.
      Jun 11
    • GSK / Eng
      chotaBheem

      GSK Eng

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      chotaBheemmore
      Hehehe
      Jun 11
  • HERE KfLB61
    Spouse. Excuse me? There are only men using this?
    Jun 10 2
    • Adobe 209Teen
      Huh?
      Jun 10
    • Booking.com
      D.J. Trump

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      D.J. Trumpmore
      I hope you know the meaning of spouse, and that the word has no gender implications?
      Jun 10
  • Sephora Symj32
    I would definitely consult her if we needed to relocate or it was going to effect her in a - way. However, if I was going to get a raise or improve our financial situation then I don’t need to consult her. We both would say the same thing, Please improve our situation.
    Jun 9 1
    • LinkedIn boringdude
      In that case, your wife should have asked you why aren’t you working for fang
      Jun 10
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    • Google helllooooo
      what kind of job does she have? just curious
      Jun 9
  • Facebook Huawei37
    Depends on how well your spouse is managing his/her own life.
    2d 0
  • Amazon FezJezos
    Odd question. It’s a partnership! We each make our own decisions but seek each other’s advice
    Jun 12 0
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    inf8loop

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    Why is there no option for 'my spouse is 100% supportive of my career decisions' ???
    Jun 12 0
  • Veritas qGcX07
    Spouse definitely decides where should go for vacation, what should we buy, and if needed directly or indirectly bug for it. Well she does also carry news from neighbors that sometimes help me deciding in career or investment path. In short she is not just deciding my dreams but also running all non-work related life. And also give me her opinion that I am not good fit for her. But she is great 👍. She or any other cannot decide my career, however.
    Jun 10 0
  • Adobe 209Teen
    None of these. I discuss career decisions with my spouse, but the decision is always mine. Same for my spouse, we discuss and the decision is always theirs.

    The exception would be if a change significantly negatively changes our finances or lifestyle. An example would be if I started my own company (potential negative due to risk, pay, etc.) or a change required a lot more travel or a severe pay cut, etc.
    Jun 10 0
  • New AsYK38
    Honestly I would only marry someone whose option I trust more than my owns
    Jun 10 0

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