Female engineer here. I am having some miscommunications (I think) with my team lead at work. He’s being ambiguous with expectations/requirements with a project he assigned me but it’s basically making me feel incompetent (like damn I can’t even get requirements correctly) and I’m afraid come performance review time I’m going to get bad feedback.
I want to discuss it with my manager just to get a second opinion on how to avoid miscommunications in the future and also get his take on project expectations but this whole situation is stressing me out. I’m afraid I’ll get too emotional and cry during my 1:1 with my manager (can’t help it). I don’t want to cry in front of my manager because I assume it’s probably awkward and unprofessional.
Female engineers, have you ever had to deal with wanting to cry or have cried at work? How did it go in the end? Were your male coworkers understanding or did they end up seeing you as incompetent/weak (as reflected on some form of written feedback) because you’re too emotional?
RE crying in your 1:1 - we all have been there. It’s fine as long as it’s not a regular occurrence. Discuss your emotional response with your manager later saying you acknowledge that it wasn’t an appropriate thing to do and you’re sorry if you made him/her uncomfortable.