How to control your anger when a coworker insults you?

Sep 27 26 Comments

I just came back home and my anger is through the roof as I type this. Today I took my team for a party as only last few days of my notice period are remaining and I will be joining the next gig soon.

I invited everyone as I wanted to end things on a good note. This stupid PM who is an IIM A (Ahmedabad) grad also came to the party. (In India IIM A grad == Son of Prime Minister)

We all were discussing how the time spent together was and this moron started inquiring where I was leaving for and how much I will be getting there and all. I didn't told him anything and just said it's a decent company (Though I will be joining Microsoft as SDE-2 :p)

Finally, he said "At least now we can hire better engineers". After hearing that I wanted to take the beer bottle and hit on his head. I controlled myself there and my face got red. Everyone started asking "What happened?" and I didn't said anything.

How dare he????????? and once I leave the company he will keep on speaking non-sense about me.

Our Contributions in last 6 months:

Him (PM from IIM A):
Played PUBG in office whole time
Bragged about how he banged this "chick" and that "chick"
Played dirty office politics and kept on blaming engineers for his incompetence
Kept on bragging he is from IIM A and never did anything for the company
Bragged about how he will be able to pay his education debt (loan) just by his 1 year salary (To showoff in front of everyone that how much he is making here)

Me (Senior Software Engineer):
Built the mobile app from scratch
Launched 31 features
Built 17 product integrations
Migrated the core microservices from Node.js to Golang
Handled frontend, backend, and mobile all by myself while leading a team of 3 engineers and upskilling them.

and this person INSULTED ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Spoiled my entire evening. How to deal with people like these?

How dare he? Even if he reads this on blind I don't give a shit. (If you are reading this. I am going to break your neck OK. Aukat me rehna!!)

TC: 16 lpa (India)
YOE: 3

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TOP 26 Comments
  • Amazon broke&dumb
    You're immature, first for getting mad at somebody's comment and then for bragging about your work here.
    Sep 27 0
  • New / Mktg
    SrZeroCool

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    SrZeroCoolmore
    Tell him you joined Albertsons at L9
    Sep 27 0
  • Accenture WYtx24
    You’re not on the playground anymore. Grow up.
    Sep 27 0
  • New Tn_216
    Don't let a spoiled brag get in your head.

    Next time you get comment like this respond with sarcasm like "oh yeah I know, I was paid for doing nothing all this time haha"
    Sarcasm will void their comment & take the power away from them...

    In meantime just let go, no one is worth the anger, you have better things to spend your time on like the exciting new opportunity, best of luck!
    Sep 27 0
  • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
    Sep 27 0
  • Adobe fngstained
    "I invited everyone as I wanted to end things on a good note." Have you learned your lesson now?
    Sep 27 0
  • New m349830
    You want to learn how to handle someone else when you cant even handle yourself? Good luck with that. If you respond to every insult by flying into a rage that's your own problem.
    Sep 27 2
    • Zillow Group peiWei
      But he did handle himself. He didn't say anything back to the guy. He's just venting on a anonymous forum now. Seems reasonable
      Sep 27
    • New m349830
      He didnt fly off the handle so I guess he's completed the first level of emotional maturity. But now he's stewing with rage about someone who doesnt matter. That's still failing in my mind. The other guy is living in his head when the words should have rolled off his back.

      Venting on the anonymous online forum is better than to the person in the moment but this shouldn't be a concern.
      Sep 28
  • Wells Fargo seeyeeyeo
    At that point when he said that, you should take your wallet out of your pocket and handed him a hundred rupee note saying can you give this to your girlfriend as I owe this since she bought the condom
    Sep 27 1
    • Riverbed Technology dagdaubab
      Naam bade aur darshan chhote. Such courage behind keyboard.
      Sep 27
  • Stop being a 👶 ... you could've lied and told him an impossibly high TC to see what his reaction would be.
    Sep 27 1
  • Cruise Automation hqudy651
    Obviously you should spend time and energy being upset over a comment made by someone you don't respect; that's definitely the best thing to do.
    Sep 27 0
  • Riverbed Technology dagdaubab
    You come across as a bigger loser tbh
    Sep 27 0
  • Its a joke at your expense dude, maybe it wasn't ill intended.

    "Be water my friend"
    Sep 27 0
  • Just take the high road. You’re on to bigger and better opportunities. Obviously there was a reason you were looking to leave your current company. No point getting angry about things you can’t control.

    Or just pee in his tea next week. Actually...that’s the better idea. Do that instead.
    Sep 27 0
  • You've got a ton of pride. The guy is obviously jealous and you will no longer be working with him so comparing your work at a company you're leaving is pointless.
    Sep 27 0
  • Akamai Technologies fLod41
    I have to side blinder this time. Go get TC higher than his will destroy hin
    Sep 27 0
  • You should have told I wish I atleast get to work with better manager in my next company 😂😂
    Sep 27 0
  • OpenTable Meliodas
    Why would you let an asshat’s words insult you?

    Junior people with no life experience say dumb things all the time.
    Sep 27 0
  • Cisco fqab23lv
    You’re onto bigger and better. He’s stuck trying to make himself feel better by mouthing off, and he just blew the chance of expanding his network into Microsoft.
    Maybe turn the anger into pitty
    Sep 27 0
  • Amazon bandwagon
    ...it was an obvious joke. MS hiring reees these days.
    Sep 27 0
  • AT&T
    random25

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    random25more
    I also get high after hearing such kind of humiliation but you should always reply to these kind of idiots. Best option is just smile and say anything in your mind. This works for me.
    Sep 27 0

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