I went through high school and college dating women and actually (I thought) I was a pretty standard hetero guy. Since I got hired in at Amazon 3.5 years ago it naturally has necessitated a continuous stream of trips to Seattle, and on the first trip I went to a restaurant and got hit on by a very feminine guy who was my bartender. He bought me a few drinks and I ended up in a super captivating conversation with him that lasted a long time, he got off his shift and we ended up going to another bar and drinking more, and actually ended up kissing before leaving the bar. I never saw him again. What I felt that night felt so good that I went on a few dates with guys from Tinder the next few times I was in Seattle. Nothing ever came of that. But now for about two years me and a childhood friend who’s 4 years younger than me have gotten extremely close, closer than I ever thought I’d be to a guy. We’ve vacationed together, literally spent every weekend together, gone to dinner and just stared into each other’s eyes for a half hour, even slept in the same bed together, but every time I try to make a physical advance I get denied and he claims he “isn’t gay and eventually wants to find a girlfriend”. And then 3 minutes later he’ll be critiquing the plants and paint color in front of my house and complementing my hair. Meanwhile I get continuous questions from my family about why I’ve stopped finding girlfriends (I blamed it on work which given Amazon’s reputation nobody questions), and my other friends keep trying to find me dates, but I’m finding I just don’t have an interest in dating a woman because I’m super attracted to this guy. I’ve thought about getting involved in a group like Glamazon but this basically seems like outing myself to my coworkers which I don’t know if I’m ready for yet. But on the other hand I can feel the situation with my attraction to my friend who claims he is straight throwing me into extremely deep depression and really destroying me mentally. Any advice on how to get through something like this? Anything I should stay away from, be careful of, explore more deeply, etc? Open to all suggestions
I might sound cliched here but, do what makes you happy. Don't try to conform to what the society deems as "normal". And don't worry about coming out to your colleagues about your sexuality. Gay couples are some of the nicest people I've ever met and I'm sure everyone will understand, good luck !
Congratulations on not being monosexual! It's more fun
You know what you want, you are not confused regarding that anymore. Now go get it, make your self fulfilled.
Sounds like you're bisexual. But contrary to popular belief, you don't have to 'come out' unless you want to. Tell a few friends that you feel comfortable sharing with to get it off the chest. Date or have fun with the guys or girls you like. Just do you.
This. One thing I would add. Don’t waste time on someone who isn’t there with you. Go have fun, find someone who can be who you need
Women are overrated. Go for the guy!
Shiiiiiiiiiiiit thats a damn lie. Women are the most gorgeous thing God has ever made
Dude - so awesome for you! Could you imagine trying to repress this til you’re 80? Whew. Have fun. Stay safe. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or your friend. Maybe your friend is not as in touch with himself as you are. Don’t get too close and get hurt - give him space. Don’t spend so much time with him. He might come around - or might not. That sucks, but there are lots of fish in the sea. Dolphins, too.
Being bi - always double chance for wining lottery
More like 1.2 chance probably since most people are straight - but it's still pretty sweet
Actually a 1x chance. Straight people have 0.8x chance. Bi = straight people of other gender + gay people of your gender Straight = straight people of other gender
You’re allowed to love whoever you want. You don’t need to give yourself a label.
What everyone else has said about sexuality in general. Do what makes you happy, don't get hung up on labels, and don't worry about having to be "out" (whatever that even means jn 2018) if you don't want to be That said, I'll also give the same advice I'd give someone in the same situation but with a member of the opposite sex: if you and he were going to hook up it would have happened by now, and waiting around for someone to be into you who isn't (even if they are friendly in an ambiguous way) is just keeping yourself from meeting someone who IS into you.
Why are you fixated on what you wanna call it? You can be whatever you want. You call be Hetero with a preference for men. You can fuck guys. You can do both. The idea that boxed in rules about sexuality exist is nonsense Again let me make this clear; call yourself whatever you want. And tbh sounds like that friend of your is in denial. In the long run he is gonna be unhappy