So I'm interested in a serious relationship. I tried Tinder, Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel. I only got less than 20 matches. I tried to start good conversations but it didn't go well. I never got a date from these matches. Apparently I'm not handsome, not tall (5'4", please don't laugh at me 5'6" Indian if you're out there somewhere), not rich. I work out in the gym a lot though, and in relatively good shape, and I do lots of outdoor activities. So I would say I'm not that boring? I really need some good advices. PhD, YOE ~5 years, TC 300k, straight male, age 36, in NYC. I'm a regular poor Asian. Sorry I can't give out too much information, don't want to be laughed at in person.
Ethnicity ?
If you can’t get a date in NYC, there is more to the story than being short or non-white. Maybe those conversations you had were worse than you thought? Share a transcript and we can help.
Maybe I don't know good topics that girls like.
Maybe stop thinking about it as what girls like and think about what people like, you know, because they are people, not something special and different. Just people. Talk about what you're into and ask and then talk about what they are into. We all have hobbies, you've listened yours, why not listen to theirs?
If you’re not rich, then the world is poor buddy.
Working at google, how are you poor ? Are you living in a van ?
I'm from a poor family. If one is NOT rich, by definition he's poor. I live in a decent 1b1b apartment.
He’s poor by the standard of “Crazy Rich Asians”. Wait, as per Hollywood Asians can be filthy rich as fuck, no?
Dude. blind is full of awkward people like you. This is a horrible place to come for advice.
I guess it's a common problem that worth a good discussion. Most of us are well educated, has good job, we can do better in terms of dating?
I guess my point is that the group you describe might have bad advice. I've been married for over 10 years. I certainly don't have anything valuable to give
I met my boyfriend on Tinder and he is Indian. It’s really important to be open minded, sincere and funny, and VERY IMPORTANT not to show off your engineer skills in front of your date please please please.
I am in NYC as we speak and there is no way you have less than 20 matches and 0 dates. I was here only for a weekend and I got more matches in 48 hours than I did in 2 weeks in the Bay Area! Heck, I might even consider moving here in the future because dating in the Bay Area is like trying to compete in the summer Olympics with your hands and legs tied and your eyes blindfolded!
I get immediately turned off when the guy starts to blah about his work or money and even educate me what is a good engineer. 🙄🙄🙄 A lot of guys do that. Dunno why. Many Silicon Valley guys feel really good about themselves. But I’m not your coworker please leave that bs to yourself.
But if he blurts out a solution to a LeetCode Hard problem on a date, he’s a keeper.
Yea I like nerds too, but there is a difference between knowing stuff and showing off at inappropriate times. Most of the time I just want to be silly and have fun on a date.
I re-wrote your current predicament into 2 simple facts: Fact 1: Can’t compete in the looks department Fact 2: Chooses exclusively dating avenues where looks are literally the only way to judge a potential date.