How to get a gf in Bay area?

Facebook / Other clueless12
Aug 1, 2018 130 Comments

Serious question. Not a troll post.

Lets get a few things out of the way . TC: 160k
Yes, I am Indian.

I go out at least 2-3 days in a week. I am extroverted, have no problems carrying on a conversation. I have a personality, I take dance lessons, pursue new activities, keep myself busy. But the ratio is so bad here in Bay Area. It's like there are 10 guys for every 1 girl here. Now, I am no Brad Pitt by any means but I am not very bad looking either. I would consider myself above average by Indian standards (judging by the number of Tinder matches I used to get in India), but how do you compete with a 10:1 ratio?

Just wondering do you guys struggle in Bay Area too? Or is it just me?

And what's up with Tinder here? Why do girls here left swipe all the Indian dudes? Can't change my skin color yo!

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  • Amazon / Eng
    BexHug

    Amazon Eng

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    Doomed. Need a career reboot. Uber rescinded my offer. Previously wasted a lot of time and effort at Alexa voice shopping.
    BexHugmore
    Breadth first search.
    Aug 1, 2018 4
    • eBay oldgrads
      Legit
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      So get to know a girl and then all her friends and then all the friends of the first girl and so on? The problem is that currently I am sitting on a null tree
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Lyft pl8hc7
      He means it literally, start with the fattest chicks and work your way up.
      Aug 1, 2018
    • The Home Depot IndexOutOf
      Find the girl closest In your friend circle .. and then go further off.
      Aug 1, 2018
  • Google / Eng
    🐉⚡

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    Read Attraction Isn't a Choice. Talk to women, now that you have basic cocky funny game.

    Read The Game. Talk to women now that you will have more precision.

    Hit the gym. Now you will talk to women with confidence.

    Read The Blueprint and get hobbies. Now you will talk to women with earnest interest, confidence, and precision.

    Go to reddit.com/r/theredpill . Now you will have abundance and clear understanding of the interactions around you.

    Get a voice coach. Now you won't sound like an Indian.
    Aug 1, 2018 15
    • Uber / Eng
      meowimacat

      Uber Eng

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      Im a cat 🐈! Meowww...
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      Red pill is stupid...
      Aug 2, 2018
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      Curious. Why not to red pill in Bay area? Trying to understand your perspective of Bay Area audience
      Aug 2, 2018
    • MZ mht6fh
      There are few women to begin with. The pool of self-loathing anti-feminist women is much too small. Try that shit in Arizona. Women in the bay have self respect and know better than to fall for some insecure fuckery. If you don’t respect and adore them they won’t come near your worthless ass
      Aug 2, 2018
    • PeerStreet / Other
      Ju63vNQa

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      Ju63vNQamore
      Lmao “if you don’t respect and adore them they won’t come near your worthless ass” - most blue pill shit I’ve ever seen.

      Are you telling me some random woman off the street deserves to be adored just because she has T&A? Respect and adoration is earned, not given.

      The whole point of redpill is to help men create an abundance mindset & remove the blue pill conditioning that turned them into soy boys in the first place
      Aug 2, 2018
    • Cisco Hashkey
      LOL found the red piller idiot ^
      Aug 2, 2018
  • Booking.com B.Static
    Is Grindr still a thing?
    Aug 1, 2018 1
    • New / Other WNJC85
      Hey straight guys stay on your own app, this is ours.
      Aug 1, 2018
  • Google / Eng
    098765

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    098765more
    Online dating and play the numbers game. Good luck!
    Aug 1, 2018 17
    • Intel / Eng pleb
      Nothing to do with TC when you're just introducing yourself to the girl. Being friends with whites shows he is acultured to the US and that it's likely to get along.
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Microsoft mstomania
      Why white? There are tons of Americans who are black, Latino, Asian and biracial. American != White
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Intel / Eng pleb
      No doubts you're right but let's not pretend that stereotypes don't exist.
      Here are some:
      - black = thug, ghetto, drugs
      - latino = illegal, poor education
      - asian = emasculated, nerd
      Want examples ? Black guys kicked out of Starbucks, Asian girls yelled at to leave Starbucks. Both in the last year around the Bay Area.

      White privilege does exist. Don't underestimate the ignorance of the average American. I'm not saying that's the only way to go but I'm trying to give him ideas to maximize his chances. He has a hard time already.

      Otherwise, if he targets a specific ethnicity, going with someone from that demographic could be even better.
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Microsoft mstomania
      Not all girls dig for white guys. Here are some alternative stereotypes:

      - black = muscular, good at sports, good in bed
      - latino = muscular sexy body, sexy accent
      - Asian = smart, rich model minority

      Every race has its own privilege. So just be yourself.
      Aug 2, 2018
    • Intel / Eng pleb
      No one said "all". It's just in terms of likelyhood. Don't forget that you live in a country that elected a blatant sexist xenophobe as president.

      Do yourself a favor and read this article. Maybe you'll get your head out of the sand:
      https://theblog.okcupid.com/race-and-attraction-2009-2014-107dcbb4f060
      Aug 2, 2018
  • Intel / Eng pleb
    I thought Indians have the easiest time with arranged marriages.

    Try looking for older or foreign women if you like. Basically women that have lived outside the US and/or have a broader life experience. They have less prejudice and can see behind skin color and stereotypes.

    Under 30 white Americans are too brainwashed by what they see on tv. Whether she is 100 or 300lbs she feels she deserves no less than a Brad Pitt with a 10 inch black cock and Zuckerberg's bank account.
    Aug 1, 2018 0
  • Uber / Eng
    @w@

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    @w@more
    160k TC is the reason why you can't get a GF! Too low. Double it and try again.
    Aug 1, 2018 0
  • eBay ottoman
    The ratio in the Bay Area is roughly 50:50 male to female. It’s probably just where you’re going that is predominately male.
    Aug 1, 2018 5
    • Comcast HraNPs5647
      Nope. Within the under 30s single segment it’s clearly not 50:50
      Aug 1, 2018
    • eBay ottoman
      Hmm, probably true for under 30s and single. A quick search seems to suggest that the ratio is roughly 1.5 men to 1 woman, though
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Lyft pl8hc7
      Did you get this number from some eBay analytics dashboard? it's not even close to reality.
      Aug 1, 2018
    • eBay ottoman
      @pl8hc7 What number do you think is accurate?
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Axtria 💗69
      Does 1.5 men mean 1bf and 1fwb? 😀
      Aug 1, 2018
  • Microsoft mstomania
    Join a pickup artist bootcamp
    Aug 1, 2018 2
    • Booking.com xgME34
      Do not do that
      Aug 1, 2018
    • PeerStreet / Other
      Ju63vNQa

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      Yes! Honesty I feel like every man should go though at least a beginners pick up artist boot camp, honestly so many men are hopeless around social dynamics when it comes to women - it’s honestly pathetic.
      Aug 2, 2018
  • Microsoft / Product @zzz
    Dance lessons is a problem
    Aug 1, 2018 1
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      Elaborate?
      Aug 1, 2018
  • MZ mht6fh
    Cooler hair cut. Better wardrobe. Get a tattoo or trendy glasses. Don’t pose with cars in your photos. Adopt a rescue dog. Join a Saturday morning activity group. Throw more parties. Learn about wine. Get a moma membership and go to every cocktail hour. Read books that great women love.
    Aug 1, 2018 3
  • Microsoft mstomania
    Also have you frequently received messages from attractive female recruiters trying to pouch you? You can ask them out for coffee and then make a move on them.
    Aug 1, 2018 2
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      This is a joke right?
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Facebook / Product Imgur
      It’s sort of a joke, it’s also referring to a real thing where some women use dating apps to source SWE job candidates
      Aug 1, 2018
  • Uber / Eng
    meowimacat

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    I feel you OP. I am an Indian guy also, many people do not want to admit it but if you are in the Bay especially, Indian men and other Asians have it much harder. I would say definitely work out and add some muscle to your frame, and also consider NYC, it helps a lot I hear. Make sure your style is on point. I see a lot of Indian guys in the Bay who are out of shape and have crappy style, so I think if we do these things we can (hopefully) set ourselves apart and be seen as a prospective partner. Also don't listen to guys who say "just get more TC", truth be told you don't wanna go out with the women who care too much about TC, it won't end well for you, and don't read red pill garbage, it'll just make you a misogynist which is certainly not attractive. Also, consider traveling, you may get some interesting stories to tell 🙂

    It's gonna be a hard path for Indian guys like us OP, but we have to keep improving ourselves and try, cause love and having a great gal to share our lives with is worth it in the end. There is a Japanese proverb ""Nana korobi ya oki", which roughly translates to "if you fall down 7 times, stand up eight". Basically it means to not give up, and we have to apply that. I'm sure it must have taken you a lot of determination to get a job at FB, and you can channel that quality to improve your dating life too.
    Aug 2, 2018 14
    • Intel / Eng pleb
      Tweedler, don't limit yourself believing that. I know a White woman who married an Indian. My gf who is Asian has had Indian boyfriends in the past. Both of them highly educated and quality women. Also both immigrants here. The Indians also immigrants, educated, well groomed, professional jobs.

      I'd say that as long as you look after yourself and come across as well groomed, well educated, well adjusted to the American culture, respectful to women you definitely have chances of meeting quality women.

      What I observe is that many Indians don't seem to be putting any effort into making themselves desirable. If you think that just your TC and pride will bring you women, good luck dreaming.

      I can't remember the last well built Indian I saw. I rarely see any at the gym or at a concert in town or in a bar. But I do see plenty of Asians and Latinos. They are making efforts to stand out and meet people !

      Where do I see Indians ? In the shopping mall. Whole family. In Indian restaurants. Whole family. In touristic spots. Whole family. At lunch. All Indian table. Get the point ?

      Now call me rasist and keep whining on Blind.
      Aug 2, 2018
    • Wells Fargo tweedler
      Pleb thanks for proving how clueless you are. The White woman married the Indian guy as he was a beta bucks provider and she was probably done riding the cock carousel. Plus I bet you are White, we all know Asian women have a sense of extreme self hate which they compensate for by dating White men. So it doesn't count for shit. Indians don't go to bars and concerts as they aren't the ones people expect to be meeting there. Maybe they should hit the gyms harder, that's the only point I agree with you upon here.

      Also it's spelled racist not rasist
      Aug 2, 2018
    • Intel / Eng pleb
      She's providing him with a green card and making probably comparable money. Do you really think Indians are the only people who make money ? And do you think you're entitled to women just because of your TC ? There's more to life than that. I just told you that some Asian women have relationships with Indians but you refuse to acknowledge.

      Keep complaining without changing a thing. Maybe the world will bow to your demands.
      Aug 2, 2018
    • Wells Fargo tweedler
      Pleb I never said Indians are the only people that are making money, however the vast majority of White women that go for Indian men are only in it for the money and nothing else. You don't know the racist experiences I encountered (all from White women btw, no one else) to know what I have faced, so don't preach here without walking a mile in my shoes dude.
      Aug 2, 2018
    • Uber / Eng
      meowimacat

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      I know a white woman who dated a Pakistani guy for a few years, they both had good jobs and she wasn't init for money. And if a white woman wanted money she wouldn't even have to go for an Indian guy anyway.
      Aug 2, 2018
  • LinkedIn duggarjosh
    Try Bumble
    Aug 1, 2018 3
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      After my break up, I tried everything to get over her. Bumble, tinder , Dil mil, coffee meets bagle. Fucking crickets.
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Yelp alex88
      I don't think you should be fucking crickets
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      Why? They make nice noises. Turns me on
      Aug 2, 2018
  • Amazon fjvhjvvhg
    Not better in Seattle.. trust me on this
    Aug 1, 2018 2
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      Seattle =Bay Area -Good weather - Exorbitant rent
      Aug 2, 2018
    • Microsoft / Eng Tier 1
      + good weather
      Sep 23, 2018
  • Comcast HraNPs5647
    Find a segment in which you’re competitive. Hippy SJWs is one, but they’re going to write you off since you asked “get a gf” instead of “find a gf”.

    More serious suggestion - get out of Bay. Males of all ethnicities date below their league here.
    Aug 1, 2018 1
    • New / Product
      nicebot

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      Smash that Private Message button
      nicebotmore
      How to stop getting matches only from hippie SJWs? Seems like this is really my forte but most, if not all, of them are really messy and aimless to the extent that it's a turn off. Do you have any experience in pivoting out of this expertise?
      Aug 1, 2018
  • Bloomberg nerd007
    Come to NYC
    Aug 1, 2018 6
    • Bloomberg nerd007
      The ratio is way better and not that hard to get dates
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Amazon fjvhjvvhg
      how do you get dates? apps?
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      Don't have any friends in NYC. Have a lot of friends in Bay Area. The thought of moving into a town with no friends is a little scary to be honest
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Chase FKVv38
      NYC has a ratio like 1.5:1 single women under 30 to single men under 30
      Aug 1, 2018
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      fcvP36

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      What the ratio for those who are over 30?
      Aug 1, 2018
  • Facebook / Eng ghSh43
    There's a 35 Facebook guy has 3 GF rotating, he should answer this.
    Aug 1, 2018 2
    • Google / Eng flaxx
      That guy fucks.
      Aug 1, 2018
    • Facebook / Other clueless12
      OP
      What?
      Aug 1, 2018
  • Wells Fargo tweedler
    The simple answer is, you won't. Coz you are Indian. You are welcome
    Aug 2, 2018 1
    • Amazon pfjw7ra
      Even if he focuses on Indian chicks?
      Aug 2, 2018
  • Cisco Hashkey
    Post a pic
    Aug 1, 2018 1
  • Microsoft / Eng Tier 1
    Your TC is too low.
    Aug 1, 2018 0

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