I've been dating this guy for half a year now. Things go normal so far: we meet almost every day, we plan our future together, he also recently asked me to move in with him. But it bothers me he never said he loves me. Whether it's a first kiss or a hug, I was always the one who made the first move. Somehow we just don't talk about this. It's like I'm ready to take bigger steps and move in, but I can't really as it's important for me to hear that from him. Is it too much too ask or I'm just being weird? I feel awkward asking that directly from a guy. I don't have an issue starting this conversation, but really wish he'd start it, because I've always been first and now I'm confused and wonder if he needs this relationship at all. How hard is it for a guy to tell that to a girl? TC 230 Yoe 6
Your sentences are really long. I would work my way up!
He was first to ask you move in right?
He is just a 🐔 most likely... I think you should have had earlier checkpoints where you tell him that you’re falling for him and vice versa. Now it’s weird to ask “hey, are you even in love with me?”, so start with general questions and get his thoughts on romantic love. Does he believe in it? Is it important to him? How many times has he been in love, etc. it’s important that during these conversations you remain composed and maintain good self-control. In general if somebody is in love with you, you kind of know, but that’s not enough for sure. I’m not sure if he is from the US, but note that here there is a big difference between loving somebody and being in love with somebody. Might want to look that up. Also, did you ever define the relationship (DTR)? My want to look that up too. Did you discuss exclusivity? Things have to be clearly outlined. You can’t assume things....... That’s how innocent hearts get broken, my friend. 💔
He has a different love language than yours. He may express his love by planning things around you, you may express it in other ways. If it's minor, don't ask him to change. If it bothers you much, tell him what you need.
Yeah right. Women telling their men in clear language what they want. The sun will go super nova before then.
Sometimes people don't know what they want, they only know something ain't right, so that's a different case. But in case they are sure about it, why not have a discussion around it like mature adults?
Ask him if he loves you ;)
Did you tell you love him?
I did not. I think, Im afraid of some of the possible scenarios. For example, if I say, and he doesn't reply anything, so that things stay where they were or become more awkward. I do love this person, but it really makes me worried that there is so little initiative from him.
What’s his TC?
Would it be better for you to learn he doesn’t and that’s why he hasn’t said it or that he does and he’s just too shy to tell it? PS: Race & cultural background might be key factors here.
He doesn't love you.
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lol blind. TC/YOE will get you a proper response