The #1 reason keeping me from moving out West are the horror stories about the gender imbalance, and how it’s impossible to meet attractive women. I’m still on the fence on whether I should pursue high TC and move there. Any tips on how to meet hot (7-10) women there? Which geographies/cities are best?
- Microsoft 4655434b7 in LA is 10 in Seattle & 8.5 in SF... so, where on the West Coast r u heading to?
- Dude I’ve been to NYC enough... no thank you. Now there’s nothing inherently special about LA girls physically but something about the sun, the care free attitude, and that everyone has a slight wish to be an actor/instagram influencer that makes people try just a bit more. LA girls are where it’s at.
SF the personalities are totally flat, the girls demand uber rides to pick them up from dates, and they look exactly the same as Seattle girls.
Seattle girls are gorgeous but often no-nonsense. You just won’t get as much style or as much makeup. Then again that’s coachable over time.
If you go north or south outside of Seattle things improve a bit on that front but those gals generally aren’t working in tech so you’re supporting a girl working retail.Jan 73
- Here’s a counter argument though. If you’re reasonably good looking and not awkward like 90% of the geeks here, you actually have a much much better chance in a place like Seattle or SF. The competition in LA and NY is enormous.
But more competition is healthier for you as a male, so never mind. Go to LA. Just wanted to put that out there.
- Good point. Worth a try. But you’re right, in my experience when a person doesn’t feel like they have to compete for the attention of the opposite sex they usually let themselves go.
@plzhlp is that really true that SF women expect Uber’s to pick them up from dates?!
- Also in Seattle the really good looking guys always get kinda meh girls and the gorgeous girls always end up with kinda.... shlubs. Like I have a few friends who are 9s most of the time and they have really bleh fiancés. Sometimes I ask them what attracted them to their fiancés (in a nice way) and they always say something about the guy being sweet or whatever. The dudes don’t have money either so I just assume the gals have low self esteem. But whatever. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
- Maybe it’s that good looking guys get so much attention, they are able to get the cream of the crop at will. A few probably get tired of that phase and want a loyal partner, and so they start focusing on other qualities that excite them that have less to do with looks. This is especially true for marriage compared to short term flings so what you’re saying is not too surprising.
Also, women are more interested in really attractive men for short term flings compared to marriage (in general). From what I remember, it has been shown that many can feel insecure and be afraid of being cheated on when their male partner is really attractive.
- Yeah I read some OKC studies showing that the 80/20 rule applies to beauty standards as well — even more so for men, where top percentile men rack in way more than 6-8s. And yeah a large attractiveness imbalance is bound to make things awkward for either party, especially if there aren’t any other unusual attraction factors at play, like being a billionaire or something.
- Facebook pndubsI’m always struck by how different the relationship threads are between Blind and the women’s groups I’m part of.
Women: “Where can I find men who support my badass career ambitions and aren’t misogynistic aholes?”
Blind: “Where can I find hot ladies?”
Something to think about maybe.
- Sorry I might be a bit dense here, but I don’t understand. You’re saying being on the West coast is a turn-on for girls, so they would want to come see me there? Please correct me if you’re experience differs, but most hotties I know who don’t want to talk to me would probably want even less to do with me if I was on the West coast. Again, I might be wrong though! Do some think it’s exotic or something?
- Be Eurasian. Charisma, humor, interesting activities, and powerful/thoughtful personality is not good enough for some ethnicities.
- Apple / EngMarijuanaNYC or LA women >>> SF women on the 1-10 scale.
Moving to SF with your girl is the move.