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How to land a 7-10 out West?

Capital One / DesignETF189
Jan 7

The #1 reason keeping me from moving out West are the horror stories about the gender imbalance, and how it’s impossible to meet attractive women. I’m still on the fence on whether I should pursue high TC and move there. Any tips on how to meet hot (7-10) women there? Which geographies/cities are best?

TC: $130k

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  • Microsoft 4655434b
    7 in LA is 10 in Seattle & 8.5 in SF... so, where on the West Coast r u heading to?
    Jan 712
    • Amazon Plzhlp
      Dude I’ve been to NYC enough... no thank you. Now there’s nothing inherently special about LA girls physically but something about the sun, the care free attitude, and that everyone has a slight wish to be an actor/instagram influencer that makes people try just a bit more. LA girls are where it’s at.

      SF the personalities are totally flat, the girls demand uber rides to pick them up from dates, and they look exactly the same as Seattle girls.

      Seattle girls are gorgeous but often no-nonsense. You just won’t get as much style or as much makeup. Then again that’s coachable over time.

      If you go north or south outside of Seattle things improve a bit on that front but those gals generally aren’t working in tech so you’re supporting a girl working retail.
      Jan 7
    • Facebook / Eng
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      Wrong. They’re a 15 in SF. Seattle still has more attractive women than SF physically (women just wear tons more makeup in SF).
      Jan 7
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Thanks for the candid feedback. Sounds like sticking in NYC or going south around LA is the way to go.
      Jan 7
    • Facebook / Eng
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      Here’s a counter argument though. If you’re reasonably good looking and not awkward like 90% of the geeks here, you actually have a much much better chance in a place like Seattle or SF. The competition in LA and NY is enormous.

      But more competition is healthier for you as a male, so never mind. Go to LA. Just wanted to put that out there.
      Jan 7
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Good point. Worth a try. But you’re right, in my experience when a person doesn’t feel like they have to compete for the attention of the opposite sex they usually let themselves go.

      @plzhlp is that really true that SF women expect Uber’s to pick them up from dates?!
      Jan 7
    • Amazon Plzhlp
      Also in Seattle the really good looking guys always get kinda meh girls and the gorgeous girls always end up with kinda.... shlubs. Like I have a few friends who are 9s most of the time and they have really bleh fiancés. Sometimes I ask them what attracted them to their fiancés (in a nice way) and they always say something about the guy being sweet or whatever. The dudes don’t have money either so I just assume the gals have low self esteem. But whatever. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
      Jan 7
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      I hear Seattle is tricky too because there are some cultural/educational/financial barriers to overcome as well. Whereas in a place like NY most people went to similar schools, have similar backgrounds, expectations, and income. I might be wrong though
      Jan 7
    • Facebook / Eng
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      Maybe it’s that good looking guys get so much attention, they are able to get the cream of the crop at will. A few probably get tired of that phase and want a loyal partner, and so they start focusing on other qualities that excite them that have less to do with looks. This is especially true for marriage compared to short term flings so what you’re saying is not too surprising.

      Also, women are more interested in really attractive men for short term flings compared to marriage (in general). From what I remember, it has been shown that many can feel insecure and be afraid of being cheated on when their male partner is really attractive.
      Jan 7
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Yeah I read some OKC studies showing that the 80/20 rule applies to beauty standards as well — even more so for men, where top percentile men rack in way more than 6-8s. And yeah a large attractiveness imbalance is bound to make things awkward for either party, especially if there aren’t any other unusual attraction factors at play, like being a billionaire or something.
      Jan 7
    • Don’t move buddy, nothing good left to move hear
      Jan 9
  • Symantec O (1)
    All west coast guys on blind have enabled notification for this post
    Jan 73
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Hope it can be of help to everyone
      Jan 7
    • Symantec O (1)
      Yeah. Only problem is, nobody knows where to find one!
      Jan 7
    • Amazon Plzhlp
      Only turned them on to laugh at the trolls.
      Jan 7
  • RingCentral / Eng
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    Sorry buddy! But with this TC you are not going anywhere!
    Jan 73
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Right which is why I need to move out there :)
      Jan 7
    • Cruise Automation / EngDanAmman
      If you work at capital one, best u get is a 4, but u’d have to get her pretty drunk
      Jan 7
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Hopefully not! Maybe if I can make it to cruise I can climb up to a 6 ;)
      Jan 7
  • Facebook pndubs
    I’m always struck by how different the relationship threads are between Blind and the women’s groups I’m part of.

    Women: “Where can I find men who support my badass career ambitions and aren’t misogynistic aholes?”

    Blind: “Where can I find hot ladies?”

    Something to think about maybe.
    Jan 83
    • Intel goodnight!
      Wish I can like it 100 times
      Jan 8
    • Microsoft 4655434b
      Gotta remember, this is the ‘great piece of ass’ crowd... baby steps
      Jan 8
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      The girls in the bay aren't anything to write home about either
      Jan 8
  • Soothe hahawtf
    Move to LA/SD/OC
    Jan 71
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Thank you. Doing research as we speak to see what high TC companies are around there
      Jan 7
  • OpenTable Meliodas
    If you need to ask how, you won’t.
    Jan 71
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Hope you’re wrong! But you might be right
      Jan 7
  • Amazon Mary2018
    Get the money. Fly them in from the midwest or Latin america.
    Jan 75
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Lol would probably need more than FANG money to do that. Though I’m open to do it. How do you get to know them?
      Jan 7
    • Amazon Mary2018
      The hot girls who wouldnt talk to you in your home city...they'll fly west
      Jan 7
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Sorry I might be a bit dense here, but I don’t understand. You’re saying being on the West coast is a turn-on for girls, so they would want to come see me there? Please correct me if you’re experience differs, but most hotties I know who don’t want to talk to me would probably want even less to do with me if I was on the West coast. Again, I might be wrong though! Do some think it’s exotic or something?
      Jan 7
    • Amazon Mary2018
      You move to a LA or SFO or some cool city. You were friendly but they never let you smash. She wants to have a vacay with free lodging. She'll come see you. She knows to pay the rent with some tickets on the Express to pound town
      Jan 7
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Haha now I see. Indeed that all makes perfect sense 🧐. Thank you for the explanation
      Jan 7
  • Vertivco / Eng
    FastPapuan

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    Be Eurasian. Charisma, humor, interesting activities, and powerful/thoughtful personality is not good enough for some ethnicities.
    Jan 73
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Eurasian as in Eastern European/Russian? That I’m not I’m afraid, but not too shabby looking either. Agreed, thanks for the tips. Def working on all the above!
      Jan 7
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      Are you from that huge landmass?

      You are? Then of course you fit the bill. You have dating extremely easy, where having charisma actually matters. I'm tired of living life.
      Jan 7
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Touché. In that case, I fit the bill
      Jan 7
  • If your TC is $130. I hope your still 22 and happy being a BNT guy.
    Jan 71
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Unfortunately quite a bit older than that by now. Had to Google BNT, but no. Thankfully that I’m not
      Jan 7
  • Facebook wknhuakw
    If you enjoy NYC, I’d just try to increase your TC there
    Jan 70
  • New meeepy4
    Russian bride from online?
    Jan 71
    • Amazon Mary2018
      Or thai, or pinay, or south America...
      Jan 8
  • Apple / EngMarijuana
    NYC or LA women >>> SF women on the 1-10 scale.

    Moving to SF with your girl is the move.
    Jan 71
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      Thanks! Moving with your SO sounds like a common strategy, which is great if you want to settle early, but sucks if you want to play the field into your 30s. Gotta figure that one out too..
      Jan 7
  • Amazon adc963
    1. Be good looking
    2. Don't be ugly
    Jan 151
    • Capital One / Product253dhd
      Seems like even being good looking is not enough given the gender imbalance 😂
      Jan 15
  • Intel UrMomma
    If you are 66”. Grow.

    Or be 7-10 yourself.
    Jan 71
    • Capital One / DesignETF189
      OP
      I believe I pass on both accounts. I’m 7-10 in VA but probably not in Sweden or something
      Jan 7
  • Apple vErx86
    I don’t think there is anything to worry about, there are plenty of hot women on the west coast. It’s just that a lot of the incels here haven’t figured out that they also need to be on the same level of attractiveness to find them.
    Jan 90
  • AMD
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    Your best bet on the west coast is LA. Many hot girls have low self esteem there for some reason.
    Jan 80

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