How to make friends
Ever since I came to SF and switch to an engineering career, my friend circle has been dwindling, and now it's almost to a single digit. I'm also getting older, am becoming more introverted due to my profession. What's a good way out of this downward spiral?
friending is hard when you are adulting
Why do you assume that there's a way out of this downward spiral? How many adults with families do you know that have real meaningful friends? Just accept it. That's just how the world works.
I never accept a state in which i am not content with, so I must find a way out of this
Lots, my parents and their friends and their friends. My parents aren’t exactly extroverts either but they understand and appreciate the value of friends Join community organizations get involved. Become someone worth knowing in your circle- whatever that may be
That username in SF and he wonders why he's friendless 🤔
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 so true .
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Here’s the problem as I see it — to make good, meaningful friendships, you need to spend time cultivating them. As kids, it’s so much easier. You’re literally forced (in most cases, anyway) together with your friends, people who could be your friends, or both. Friendships when you’re younger tend to just happen naturally. As we get older, we’re no longer forced into these social interactions anymore. Sure, people make friends at work. That’s a social situation a lot of us are forced into (like school). We’re used to friendships materializing with little to no effort, so when they don’t we wonder what’s wrong. What’s changed? Have we? Most times, the answer is no, and that’s the crux of the problem. People often have to change their approach to make friends as an adult. Joining meet up groups, chat groups based on mutual interests, and any number of other tactics help a lot. Any way you can force yourself to regularly interact (whether in person or digitally) with other people will increase the likelihood of those interactions developing into friendships.
These are wise words. Thanks
great advice!
Very hard to make new and meaningful friends once you go above 30.
Idk man, just got to get out there and talk to strangers. I'm similar but through meetups and alcohol, I have made some solid friends
Try grindr
Don’t support Trump. Be like the libs instead. Go to BLM rallies to show solidarity, but don’t forget to call the cops on your ‘ratchet ghetto neighbors’ that night from your 6k/mo apartment in the neighborhood you’re pricing them out of.
Start a company. Accept who you are for the time being and make a difference.