How to make girl friends in the Bay Area?

Abbott viscerally
Jun 4 37 Comments

Don’t wanna download bumble. Tried Vina, but no responses :( I don’t want to be weird and scare genuinely cool people away. I have work buddies, but I really want a social life outside of work buddies. Any casual ideas (based on experience)?

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  • Abbott viscerally
    OP
    I think I want to clarify - I’m a girl, who wants to make friends who are girls
    Jun 4 7
    • Abbott viscerally
      OP
      @stevenjobs it’s people like you that makes me wary to try to find friends via meetup
      Jun 4
    • Yo... I wary more actually, Abbott
      Jun 4
    • Datto, Inc. Klokov_v2
      Install Bumble, go on Bumble BFF and select the option for your profile to be only shown to other women. That should work.
      Jun 4
    • Cisco cbd
      I’m in sf! Let’s hangout
      Jun 4
    • Amazon qlRV03
      There are girls only meetup groups which you can try.
      Jun 15
  • Increase your tc by 10x and tell the girl that
    Jun 4 2
    • Abbott viscerally
      OP
      Hey gurl, I make 1mil pa - let’s go for brunch ??
      Jun 4
    • Facebook / Strategy miikescott
      Hey! You’re a quick learner.
      Jun 4
  • Amazon / Eng Fitnesz
    I think after school and college it gets harder to make friends.
    Jun 4 4
    • Abbott viscerally
      OP
      So hard! My work buddy throws bumble parties...at least that’s one safe space to meet people
      Jun 4
    • New / Eng |l|l||l|l|
      What the heck is a bumble party?
      Jun 4
    • Facebook / Strategy miikescott
      @Fitnesz - So true, smh.
      Jun 4
    • Verizon Media sxSG85
      It does. Have you thought of volunteer groups catering to women? Usually, you have a high rate of collision with like-minded people there and that too organically.
      I used to volunteer/teach at a school in Brooklyn and I ended up making friends with fellow volunteers. We regularly hung out outside of our sessions and went on hikes and such. I wouldn't call them my best friends but hey it was something
      Jun 4
  • New / Eng
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    Use the term 'female friends' to avoid confusion.
    Jun 4 0
  • EA / Eng
    YJMJ04

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    YJMJ04more
    Good luck!

    I’m looking for a boyfriend still haven’t found one despite lots of people calling me cute or handsome.. maybe they were lying

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    Jun 10 2
    • Google putin!
      People call a girl handsome? Sure you aren’t a guy?
      Jun 10
    • EA / Eng
      YJMJ04

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      I never said I’m a girl. Do not make things up about people. I said I’m looking for a boyfriend. You made the assumption that I am a girl
      Jun 13
  • Google Gentrified
    Yup. In the US, a woman can be handsome. It may be weird to someone who didn’t grow up here or to even some who did. Welcome to 2019, where there are 5 gender identities and 20+ sexual orientations
    Jun 10 3
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      YJMJ04

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      Where did I say I’m a girl/woman? Did you just make that up? Didn’t Google teach you about not making assumption about people’s gender? Also, do not make assumption I’m transgender. I identify as cissexual not transgender
      Jun 13
    • Google Gentrified
      I couldn’t care less what you are. I am not here to make this a safe space for you. I was responding to another person who was wondering if a girl can be handsome. How did you insert yourself into that?
      Jun 13
    • EA / Eng
      YJMJ04

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      And I was responding to the google person who made the assumption about calling a girl handsome
      Jun 14
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    • New
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      +1 for this. People you’ll meet while volunteering are there for the common cause, so the experience would be much different than those you’ll meet at bumble parties.
      Jun 4
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    • Microsoft 4’20Indian
      Stay away from shit like that.
      Most such groups are no fun
      Jun 4
  • Dropbox fixer17
    Start hunting for your hobbies. Utilize your company wellness benefits. Get groupon group events. Attend workshops. Goto a variety of meetups. Join nearby facebook events. Soon as you find a place you like. Start inviting likeminded people. Build your tribe, find a passion, and just take it easy. Its life after all, coast while you can :).
    Jun 4 0
  • Google Gentrified
    Join a workshop or a class. Connecting with likeminded people on shares interests is the most organic way to meet people outside of work or school
    Jun 4 0
  • Tesla x87zjk
    What part of the bay are you in? We can host a ladies of blind meet up
    Jun 4 0
  • New / Eng
    Badcoder

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    1. Download meet up
    2. Go to one of those women in tech meetups
    3. Profit
    Jun 5 2
    • Don’t you look odd going to women meetups?
      Jun 6
    • New / Eng
      Badcoder

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      Yes. I got banned for staring at them too long
      Jun 6
  • Amazon ofbsyckeba
    You in finance?
    Jun 4 1
  • Google helllooooo
    messaged you!
    Jun 5 0
  • New / Eng JexD77
    Go to a climbing gym, best place to make new friends.
    Jun 4 0
  • Arthrex quarks
    It is really hard to make good friends after school. The only way worked for me is girls only meetup group and coworkers at work. Sometimes your own company is much better than dealing with negative people.
    Jun 4 0