How to make new friends?

eBay rfJq65
Jun 8 21 Comments

Recently moved to bay area. Tried to reconnect with old classmates, but no more contact after dinner or coffee. Met a lot of new people at my company or social events like Meetup, but unable to make deep and lasting connection. Does anyone have similar experience and how do you get over it?

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  • Microsoft uGtd78
    Need to nail one connection with someone who is well connected in terms of peers. Then offer to host something, and actually do it, for that ring of people to show you have something to offer in return. Then you should be set.
    Jun 8 3
  • Amazon hot 🍞
    Welcome to adulthood
    Jun 8 0
  • HP / Other
    dudarino

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    dudarinomore
    It’s normal unfortunately. Usually I get to meet other parents through my daughter’s school, and end up hanging out with some of them. But few of them have same interests, intellectual needs, and political beliefs. It’s weird. Trying to meet people after 30yo is a nightmare.
    Jun 8 0
  • Amazon fhsj 838
    Welcome to adult life after school.
    Jun 8 0
  • Google / Eng gAJs47
    Similar situation ... Waiting for any one old friend to move here ... If not will return to my home country ...
    Jun 8 5
    • LinkedIn testusera
      Why? Which country?
      Jun 8
    • Google / Eng gAJs47
      India. Just got so busy working and traveling with wife, didn't spend time to build social network, unfortunately no school or college friend came to bay area, and recently wlb at Google is gone. Miss old life when I use to be the most funny guy who ever one want to hangout with. Now so busy trying to meet high bar of Google.
      Jun 8
    • eBay rfJq65
      OP
      Which team has that bad wlb? Cloud?
      Jun 8
    • LinkedIn testusera
      Come to LinkedIn. It has a great WLB AND no need to maintain high bar. At some point happiness is more IMP
      Jun 8
    • Microsoft no-sql
      I would like to try again for LinkedIn. I failed onsite last time due to system design probably. Lc rounds went well
      Jun 9
  • Meetup QTjl21
    I met some people at Meetups that later became some of my closest friends. I think there's a higher chance of that happening if you attend a Meetup with a group that schedules them consistently (at least once a month) and ideally about a cause or hobby you're passionate about. I no longer work at Meetup; I have no ulterior motive for posting this.
    Jun 8 2
    • LinkedIn testusera
      What kind of meetups?
      Jun 8
    • Meetup QTjl21
      One for volunteering and several for coding. NYC Python is really active and some other groups meet every weekend to code. I signed up for some running and illustration Meetups but haven't had a chance to go yet.

      Even if you're not into coding in your free time, there might be a group aligned with your interests that meets regularly.
      Jun 8
  • Verizon Media sxSG85
    I used to volunteer and used to hang out with people from there but it fizzled out as soon as I left the volunteering gig after a year. Long lasting is a tough one. Keep your old friends close for emotional support and hangout with aquaintances without any assumptions/expectations
    Jun 8 0
  • PayPal theniceguy
    Yup that’s how it is and you just deal with it anyway.
    Jun 8 0
  • Microsoft no-sql
    Similar situation.. things are lonely
    Jun 8 0
  • PayPal pp-dan
    +1
    Jun 8 0
  • SAP mDmE28
    Following
    Jun 8 0