Relationships

How to meet girls?

EA / Engthinkalot
Jan 9

Dating apps seem a bit too straightforward and end up in a hookup or not great experience. How do you meet ladies to interact with in a natural environment and if you like someone, you can ask them out?

I mean gyms, dancing clubs, language courses, tennis or whatever? Where do you girls hang out so that it’s not creepy to chat and learn about each other?

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  • IBM g-eazy
    You're already getting hookups so what's the problem? At the right age girls will get serious. This is the time to have fun.
    Jan 96
    • EA / Engthinkalot
      OP
      What’s that age?
      Jan 9
    • Right when they realize they need to pop out a kid soon.
      Jan 9
    • IBM g-eazy
      Girls get serious mid-late 20s. That's when the tables turn and it becomes a guy's market (Remember men and women are 50:50. Imbalances in "competitiveness" are temporary aberrations).

      If you're a guy doing well in the hookup "stage" then you don't need to worry at all. You'll be hot shit when it's serious time. Especially if you make good money, sensible and smart, kind etc. Normal men are rare.
      Jan 9
    • SAP fable
      > If you're a guy doing well in the hookup market then you don't need to worry at all. You'll be hot shit when it's serious time. Especially if you make good money, sensible and smart, kind etc. Normal men are rare.

      Sorry, no, that's not a given. Not all women will run after players, regardless of her age, how much 'hot shit' he is, or how much 'good money' he makes.
      Jan 9
    • IBM g-eazy
      ^ I think you misunderstood. The point is that the player will eventually get serious and settle down, and, if he did well in unfavorable winds he can do very well now that the winds favor him, so to speak.

      And yes, it's not just about money. It's super hard to find a guy who looks fuckable, has a decent and respectable career, and a good head on his shoulders. But most importantly, is ready to settle down and happens to be single.
      Jan 10
    • SAP fable
      I get that. But you must also realize that for some women, integrity of the spouse is very important. Such women might compromise (albeit not happily) on one or more of the other partner qualities you mentioned, but would not negotiate on a potential spouse's character.

      Such women, believe it or not, may ALSO be smart, well qualified, good looking AND have integrity. Such women are ALSO not found a dime a dozen. Think such women will go for such (purportedly ex-player) men? I think not.
      Jan 10
  • Pinterest wxgo37
    Run a BFS on your friend graph
    Jan 91
    • Lending Club ibWI74
      Breast first search?
      Jan 10
  • Male: Spend 4 to 5 years training to be physically and mentally perfect and then settle on that 5/10 SJW.

    Female: Go outside.
    Jan 92
    • New
      llluminati

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      I make stuff and I’m super into it.
      llluminatimore
      Speak for yourself. You clearly have no clue when it comes to women.
      Jan 10
    • Nah, I trained for 4 to 5 years. My SJW is 🔥 and I can leetcode mediums on whiteboard.
      Jan 10
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    • VMware BobbleHat
      Wow, She’s really desperate to close that role
      Jan 11
  • Google / Enghooli.xyz
    The best way is to expand your friends circle (men and women). If you are a good friend to a lot of people and they know you are single, chances are they will introduce girls to you.

    Just make sure you always follow the two rules:
    1. Be attractive.
    2. Don’t be unattractive.
    Jan 90
  • Bank of America blacKnight
    I will suggest avoid work places atleast.. make yourself great by - looks, smell, physique, style and grooming... go to social places..

    which places you meet a person talks a lot about them... my one of the female friend met her husband in charity services where both were participating in social charity services and fell in love as both had common interests... the guy is obviously good because of his intentions..

    so if you meet girls in late night clubs (again I am not saying all but mostly) then she might be in open relationship...

    better you know yourself first what kind of women you need... a lifetime partner or just a one night or for sex only... based on your requirements and intentions groom and choose your places...

    But one advise...never cross your intentions meaning having only sexual relations with women who is really seeing her future with you... or seeing future with women who is only interested in sex or money with you.. in either case you will fuck your self ....
    Jan 91
    • EA / Engthinkalot
      OP
      You are so right and I made some of these mistakes already. Thanks for the advise
      Jan 9
  • New / Eng
    Flatline

    NewEng

    BIO
    I’ve become really good at getting shit done. I’m not even joking. On top of this, people love working with me, which to me is the biggest prize.
    Flatlinemore
    Just go out man, there’s women everywhere. Go and be social and fun and open to new experiences. Just go and enjoy yourself. Don’t go to meet women, they will smell that a mile away. Go have fun and the women will come.
    Jan 91
  • Google / EngL4Grunt
    IRL Mr. Thinkalot
    Jan 91
    • EA / Engthinkalot
      OP
      Even if I didn’t go there on purpose, any suggestions? Like should I pick up new classes with social involvement? I do some sports, but there is not much interaction despite the social density
      Jan 9
  • Amazon / Eng
    popozao

    AmazonEng

    PRE
    Microsoft
    BIO
    I’m from Fresno
    popozaomore
    Dating apps make it obvious your intent. You know you’re both looking. If you hit it off, you’ll hook up or start a relationship. That’s up to you and her.

    Approaching random folks in public and chatting depends on the city culture you’re in. In Seattle, I don’t think it works at all.
    Jan 90
  • Oracle 🔴vs🔷
    Dude, I feel you, I don’t know where to meet guys either. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Online dating is a crap shoot. All the suitable guys I would date IRL are taken or already married.

    I’ve tried on blind too but all I get are Indians and I don’t want to date Indians lol 😂
    Jan 101
    • EA / Engthinkalot
      OP
      lol I’m not Indian, but yeah I get it :)) I think option is just being more social and enjoying life until it works out by itself as advised above
      Jan 11
  • Oracle iOFR21
    Dont think a lot, just talk to girls you meet
    Jan 92
    • EA / Engthinkalot
      OP
      Appreciate the advise. Makes sense
      Jan 9
    • SAP fable
      Indeed. Good *advice : )
      Jan 9
  • You can find a lot of them in Slovakia. Men are so rare that even shitfaces like you can bag a hottie.
    Jan 102
    • Uber / Eng
      meowimacat

      UberEng

      BIO
      Im a cat! 🐈 Meowww... Fancy feast is my favorite kind of kibbles 🐱
      meowimacatmore
      Don't you have to marry them tho
      Jan 10
    • Technically, first you have to put them in the bag. Then you ask parents permission.
      Jan 10
  • New
    llluminati

    New

    BIO
    I make stuff and I’m super into it.
    llluminatimore
    Tinder is like shooting fish in a barrell if you know what youre doing / arent an engineer
    Jan 100
  • Facebook public2
    Have fun, women will come to you.
    Jan 90
  • Indeed cyhy46
    Leave the bay area.
    Yesterday0
  • EA / Engthinkalot
    OP
    There are so many valuable advises here. Thanks folks!
    Jan 90
  • Symantec O (1)
    Where do girls hangout? Pretty much everywhere.
    Jan 90
  • EA / Eng
    YJMJ04

    EAEng

    PRE
    Oracle
    YJMJ04more
    Bay Area is not a great place to find relationship. Ask your manager if you can transfer to a different location from EARS
    4d0
  • Cisco / Enghello12346
    Raves
    Jan 100
  • Cisco Infensus
    Do milk.
    Jan 90

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