I feel retarded for doing 5 years of grad school, instead of getting a job with 100k plus salary and the raises I'd have gotten.
I feel retarded for not buying crypto, even just $20 or whatever.
I feel retarded for moving in with my girlfriend prematurely and having the relationship turn into this weird roommate / intertwined living situation.
I feel retarded for sitting on cash instead of investing in stocks, or real estate.
I can't fucking ever make up for this fuck up.
It's all I can think of and it's consuming me and fucking my sleep and daily focus.
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Btw, if you're so angry at me, you should direct some of that anger to HillDawg. I used to argue with him nonstop about how Amazon is prestigious and he convinced me it wasn't. He took a semester off NC State to work here and joined but still called it the worst place to work. And it got to me.
It’s Andy Kaufman-esque level performance art!
Bravo!
But you’re also the solution to that particular problem. So...
Bollocks to you “non-prestigious-low-IQ-man” (your words)
Don’t put up more than you’re prepared to lose. And don’t gamble with your rent money.
Prepare yourself to interview for the job you want. Learn what questions they ask and whether they are mostly technical or behavioral. Tons of interview advice can be found on here. Just start a thread.
Starting to work and earn at 29 instead of 23 is completely fine. The last 5 years have been a pretty great economy in tech, but you can’t change any of those decisions. Honestly in a few years you will probably feel completely fine, you don’t have to compare yourself to younger people and feel inadequate. If this was 2011 and you were going to go into finance in 2006, you would’ve been a genius.
Unless you want to retire by 45 or something, starting 5 years later on a healthy salary will not hurt your retirement at all
Or he wants that rent payment not to make him physically sick when it comes out of his checking account, maybe he’s got a car payment or student loan.
You do feel more empowered when you have more disposable income.
You’ve missed out on so much. You will never be able to recover. You were so close to retiring. But now you won’t. For several decades.
Absorb that. Dwell on it.
Kubhler Ross the moment.
And when you get to “acceptance” you will realize you have a pulse and that means you have infinite possibilities ahead.
Or take a short-cut by doing some peyote.
Moving in with your GF is not retarded. Sorry it didn’t work out.
Not buying crypto was smart, you didn’t have any reason to believe it was gonna explode like this.
Of course there are legit reasons to go to grad school, writing taxi software isn’t one of them.
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You’re doing fine, just comparing yourself to unrealistic standards.
Every single other person who didn’t get into crypto feels the same. I read a stat that Millenials keep the most cash of all the generations, somewhere upwards of 50% cash. Just knowing about stock and investing now means you’re incredibly lucky and ahead of the curve. Investing in your 20s is still amazing when many live paycheck to paycheck and don’t have a big 401k to save them at 65.
Read some books about risk, decision making, human thinking and cognitive biases. Since 3/4 of your regrets appear to be financial, read some books about investing like a Random Walk Down Wall Street to get fundamentals, then always know that there are crazy things that don’t abide by the normal rules, set aside a small percent you feel OK gambling with and make risky investments.
The feeling retarded seems to come from a sense of inferiority at “bad” monetary decisions, which should not lead to feeling “retarded”, just less rich than some people. If it’s the realization that you care more about money than you thought you did that’s fine, just adjust for it but don’t get too greedy
Where you are now is probably ahead of 95% of Americans and 99% of the world. It’s only behind a tiny few percent of people who got ahead by a few years. And even so constantly comparing yourself is not healthy.
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself nothing holds a person back more than that. There are always opportunities to make huge dollars for smart motivated people.
There are always opportunities to make a bunch of $$. However they all require you to take risks!
You will not kill it financially unless you bet the farm. Unfortunately most people who bet the farm end up with nothing.
You need to all in something. That may be committing yourself 100% to your career and climbing the ladder, it may be dumping everything into speculative Realestate ventures, it may be getting into crypto.
Stop listening to all the bull shit spewed by people and instead look at the actual actions of those you want to copy.