How to stop thinking about getting old?

Facebook Chasing$$$
Dec 23, 2018 19 Comments

I’ve recently turned 26 and lately have been feeling uneasy about getting old, 30s do not seem so far away and the thought of wasting my youth being a corporate slave scares me. I really want to start my business/startup/try myself in a different industry but golden handcuffs keep me going, I keep telling myself “you’re lucky to be able to make this much, once you hit X in your account you can at least have the safety of buying a house/car/something else and then you can gtfo and be free”, but the thing is chasing this number may take few more years of my precious time and I will regret it in the future. How do I cope with this?

TC 220, 3 yoe, male

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  • New / Eng PollMan
    Uninstall blind
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • OnDeck / Eng TgAi28
    You go get a job at Goldman or Facebook. That way, you’ll be too busy working to have those thoughts.
    Dec 23, 2018 1
    • Facebook tGTv63
      Look at op's company 🤦
      Dec 23, 2018
  • Microsoft 505am
    The key is to stop worrying about things that are beyond your control (time, gravity, genes, etc) and instead use that time to focus on things you wish to happen. Enjoying the present is also part of the deal.
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • New b37
    At 220k TC you're so well-off that you can have total financial independence by 35 if you want. You will still be young then, believe me (age 42, 55k TC here). I'm only -starting- to feel old now. Unless your job is literally working you into an early grave, stick with it for now.
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • Amazon / Eng GHskann
    Hi I’m same yoe and TC. First off, are you a women? If so then your fear is founded. Better get your life together quick, and ruminate long enough to confidently know what you want and what you are.

    Otherwise you’re worry about nothing. I suggest reading some classic literature, especially in regards to coming of age. Your time ain’t that precious, and you have a lot of it. Be patient and put in your due diligence. Your personality and individuality will flourish forth from your insufferable solitude. In this way the solitude you endure is your greatest treasure. And in other words stop being such a b*tch about it.

    Unless you’re describing a lack of a creative outlet that’s driving your underlying anxiety. If that’s the case you’re doomed to pay the creativity tax for the rest of your waking life, so you best heed its call now before your organs wilt and your life ends up wrecking itself on the shoreline of destiny.
    Dec 23, 2018 3
    • Facebook Chasing$$$
      OP
      How old are you?
      Dec 23, 2018
    • Booking.com B.Bitten
      I recommend reading "life is short" by Paul Graham.
      Dec 23, 2018
    • Microsoft trthhhheee
      His age is similar to you or younger. I saw his comment mentioning he has 3 yoe or something like that. If he didn’t do masters, he might be 24-25.
      Dec 23, 2018
  • Microsoft trthhhheee
    Don’t listen to Blinders advice. Most are young folks like you but they give an advice like they are in their 40s. Most Blinders didn’t even live in this country hence lack the knowledge. People don’t even reveal their background so you don’t even know who is saying what. Find someone who is older and had similar background as you and ask them.

    I am 40 and an immigrant from East Asia. I can’t give a proper advice for your question since I know little about you and my experience may be different from yours but I will say there are two things that affected my life a lot more than I thought they would. Having kids changed my whole life. Perspective about life changed for example. I am not jealous of others or regret or any. Everyday is about how I can raise my kids well and I make job choices based on it. What kind of kids you would get is like a lotto. One can be bright and the other can be special need kids. My friends are the same. We don’t care who drives which car or what title he has etc. Life is so unpredictable and one can be a top guy at the company everyone wants to become but he can be out of job for the next 10 years or the next job gives him 100x less salary.

    Another thing is mental health started affecting physical health. I didn’t understand well about people who are affected by stress too much before. Now I completely understand. Some people claim their brain works as well as when they were 20s etc but those usually in denial and lack of self awareness. Almost everyone I know became a bit more stubborn, thinks slower and doesn’t listen to what others say much. They make up the job performance with experience etc but it is natural nervous system is not as good and it affects intelligence (self awareness is something that happens to highly intelligent creatures or people). Just about everything degrades. Good news is things are pretty much the same until you are 36. Then the change starts but most of people don’t adapt to the change and end up developing some bad things mentally and physically.
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • Medallia hFEH36
    Find hot girls and enjoy with them, they will make you feel young
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • Google SirMixAlot
    You fear is unfounded. Unless you are nearing 50 when true age discrimination may start, stop and smell the roses your late 30s self won’t regret it. There was an article I saw the other day that mentioned that on average, founders 40+ have higher probability of success
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • Enjoy life, you are young, worrying helps nothing. If you are serious about starting a company, do an MBA to get the mindset or network with simmilar people.
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • Cruise Automation TheDJT
    You should read Tim Urban’s the tail end. It will help give you perspective. https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/12/the-tail-end.html
    Dec 23, 2018 1
    • Cruise Automation TheDJT
      Dec 23, 2018
  • Credit Karma Ck_gogo
    A couple questions:

    1. Where do you live?
    2. Do you have a girlfriend?
    3. What are your hobbies?
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • Credit Karma Ck_gogo
    Move to a company in the city. Your problem is probably a young male in Menlo Park problem.
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • Microsoft Fapi489
    Find a gf older than you. Trust me, you'll stop feeling older
    Dec 23, 2018 0
  • Uber kisht
    You don't stop thinking. You think through it and then start doing other things.
    Dec 23, 2018 0

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