It all matters. Jeez, honestly, it's no different than job hunting & interview advice. Look presentable. Prepare beforehand. Answer questions thoughtfully. Respect the interviewer and their time. Apply to more than one job at a time. Don't take application rejections personally. Is it true for all interviews? No. But there are general principles that will serve you well in 98% of cases.
Which point exactly do you think is going to hurt you in dating? Do you really think anyone wants to date someone who is insecure, afraid to put themselves out there, who is unable to enjoy the moment, and who treats others like garbage? Really?
Nope, none of this shite works. 0 of it ever works. If you're not send to be in the top 10% of physical and facial attractiveness (including ethnicity), then it simply doesn't work. Doesn't matter what your TC is or how humorous you are or how much wit you have or your game. It doesn't work. Accept the hard truth.
You know, I've heard people make this argument before (and the variations on it involving subbing in wealth or status) but I put it next to flat Earth conspiracies in being bewilderingly, obviously bullshit. Clearly the vast majority of men manage to find relationships.
A person is essentially just a collection of emotions, goals, and motivations. Whenever I get lost in a convo, I fall back on that premise (try to figure those things out wrt the person and topic). Sometimes this can lead to over questioning tho - so try to keep it balanced.
In a universal sense, humans are just expressions of nature. If you relax and don't over think things you will usually find our neural circuits to be compatible by design. A lot of ppl in tech have a hard time getting out of their own heads. +too much leetcode and porn will kill your social IQ (FYI).
Actually i find you don’t have to say too much. People in general enjoy listening to themselves talk. If you just smiled and said hi. Strike up a conversation about anything. Like on Monday’s, did you have a good weekend? I almost couldn’t get to work etc ...then the other person will starting talking about their weekend and you listen very carefully and smile. You’ll start getting to know what they like and dislike. Maybe they’ll talk about hikes, shopping, feeding the poor, concerts. Hopefully, you’ll find some common interest and go from there. Good luck!!