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How to talk to girls?

New / Engfgg
Feb 9

Don't know what to say....

@girls

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  • Apple Snut Ella
    Rule number #1 Treat women with respect. #2 be happy with who you are #3 have no expectations #4 recognize that rejection is common and doesn’t hurt you.
    Feb 916
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      These are rules that would be useful in an ideal world. Generally, none of this matters at all
      7d
    • New dluz61
      Pretty sure that most everyone has an idea of what they want for themselves
      7d
    • New dluz61
      It all matters. Jeez, honestly, it's no different than job hunting & interview advice. Look presentable. Prepare beforehand. Answer questions thoughtfully. Respect the interviewer and their time. Apply to more than one job at a time. Don't take application rejections personally. Is it true for all interviews? No. But there are general principles that will serve you well in 98% of cases.
      7d
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      The data would suggest otherwise
      7d
    • New dluz61
      The data being... What? Your personal anecdotes?
      6d
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      Every published paper on this topic? Data studies from online dating companies? Google is your friend. It's interesting stuff (if not a bit depressing)
      6d
    • New dluz61
      There are studies that say that you should take rejection personally? Really?
      6d
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      Sigh are you intentionally missing my point? The point is that all these principles don't make you more successful with women in the dating space.

      What you said is good advice for job interviewing, though
      6d
    • New dluz61
      Which point exactly do you think is going to hurt you in dating? Do you really think anyone wants to date someone who is insecure, afraid to put themselves out there, who is unable to enjoy the moment, and who treats others like garbage? Really?
      5d
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      They matter, but their impact is nothing compared to just being more physically attractive
      4d
  • Facebook
    xenophile

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    People, projects, pay, then place. In that order.
    xenophilemore
    “FORD” (family, occupation, recreation, dreams). Ask about these and listen actively with follow ups.
    Feb 92
    • Microsoft
      ujkfz

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      ujkfzmore
      Wow decent advice here
      Feb 9
    • Quanergy Systems sj5uq
      and avoid FARTS (Favorite position, Age, Rent or own, TC, Size) don't ask about these!
      Feb 9
  • Zillow Group Sr. Troll
    Feb 91
  • Google tkfb
    Just keep saying “wow really that’s cool, impressive “
    Feb 90
  • Vertivco / Eng
    FastPapuan

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    Youtube, American Bureau of Shipping, Facebook
    FastPapuanmore
    Nope, none of this shite works. 0 of it ever works. If you're not send to be in the top 10% of physical and facial attractiveness (including ethnicity), then it simply doesn't work. Doesn't matter what your TC is or how humorous you are or how much wit you have or your game. It doesn't work. Accept the hard truth.
    Feb 95
    • Microsoft Prkdhe
      What about Bezos? Is he considered in top 10% of attractiveness?
      Feb 9
    • Microsoft naaam
      I agree with FastPapuan except for money part. TC kind of money won't help but if you have big money like Papa Bezos, you can get them.
      Feb 9
    • New dluz61
      You know, I've heard people make this argument before (and the variations on it involving subbing in wealth or status) but I put it next to flat Earth conspiracies in being bewilderingly, obviously bullshit. Clearly the vast majority of men manage to find relationships.
      Feb 10
    • Google danbb
      Fastpapuan is slowly becoming my favorite blind troll
      Feb 10
    • Snapchat Timstammy
      Except what he said is 100% true. "Game" is irrelevant, attractiveness is key.
      7d
  • Quanergy Systems sj5uq
    hi usually works
    Feb 90
  • New / R&Dzorkan
    A person is essentially just a collection of emotions, goals, and motivations. Whenever I get lost in a convo, I fall back on that premise (try to figure those things out wrt the person and topic). Sometimes this can lead to over questioning tho - so try to keep it balanced.

    In a universal sense, humans are just expressions of nature. If you relax and don't over think things you will usually find our neural circuits to be compatible by design. A lot of ppl in tech have a hard time getting out of their own heads. +too much leetcode and porn will kill your social IQ (FYI).
    Feb 92
    • New / Engfgg
      OP
      true, thanks
      Feb 10
    • New / Engfgg
      OP
      so, another question: how to get rid of porn?....
      Feb 10
  • New / DataTBjF30
    Open mouth and do the word things
    Feb 90
  • New Stuvy
    Simple rule - EXACTLY how you talk to guys. With some cockiness and some more decency
    Feb 90
  • Square / EngxYz!
    Don’t be a pedophile. Talk to women.
    Feb 90
  • IBM / ITPnCu03
    Simple rule -face
    Girls will talk to you
    Feb 90
  • Yelp fheinsjx
    coming from a girl.. have some confidence. a guy with a huge amount of confidence beats looks or tc, anyday.

    go up to her and spark convo. ask lots of questions. break the ice. smile
    Feb 90
  • Centene Kvasir
    Stop thinking about the fact that they’re a woman and treat them like you would anyone else.
    Feb 100
  • Google / EngBluths
    The only way is to try and fail. I went on many first dates before I had it almost down to a science.

    Haven’t been single in a while, but that’s where I would start if I was doing it again. Nothing beats practice.
    Feb 100
  • New / Engfgg
    OP
    I am not alone.... yeah.
    Feb 90
  • Microsoft / EngLager
    Overcompensate by increasing your TC and try impressing her. 😀
    7d1
    • Facebook
      xenophile

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      People, projects, pay, then place. In that order.
      xenophilemore
      I wonder if that’s worth negotiating for in a job offer, “...I need another x% because I need to get laid.”
      7d
  • New / Eng
    kr580

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    kr580more
    nice shoes! wanna fuck?
    2d0
  • Cadence Efx1
    Actually i find you don’t have to say too much. People in general enjoy listening to themselves talk. If you just smiled and said hi. Strike up a conversation about anything. Like on Monday’s, did you have a good weekend? I almost couldn’t get to work etc ...then the other person will starting talking about their weekend and you listen very carefully and smile. You’ll start getting to know what they like and dislike. Maybe they’ll talk about hikes, shopping, feeding the poor, concerts. Hopefully, you’ll find some common interest and go from there. Good luck!!
    6d0
  • Snapchat Timstammy
    Follow rules 1 and 2.
    7d0

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