How would you react to this? ~Sexist comment from manager, haven’t even started yet~
I interviewed for a new role, and have already accepted the offer (consulting). I am no longer w/ Oracle, taking some time off, I start in a couple of weeks. The fact that I am engaged came up during the interview process, that’s about it.
New boss and team are in town and invite me to join dinner to meet them. New boss says halfway through dinner, “I understand we have your fiancé to thank for you accepting the job” *I’m sure I look confused AF* “I mean, that he conviced you to make the change to something stable” etc something along those lines I can’t even remember the exact words b/c I was stunned. I think my response was something like, “Oh, I’m not sure about that, but I’ll pass that along” feeling absolutely taken aback and stunned.
I’m actually older than my fiancé, make more money than him, and we work in completely different industries. Of course I told him I was inferviewing, but I need ZERO help navigating my career from him, thank you very much.
How would you have reacted? It felt like blatant sexism to me, as no one would ever say something like that to a man! Am I doomed in this new position? Haven’t even stepped foot in the door yet. Any advice appreciated.
Not that it matters, but I am a white female in my 30’s, boss is Indian male in his 40’s (I’m guessing.) I’m pointing this out to ask about the cultural difference - is this important to consider? (reference: https://us.teamblind.com/s/SGVHSuUO)