My husband is going to basic training in January. He's non-tech, we're both in our mid 20s, married over a year, and living and working in NYC right now. He'll be stationed in Monterey, California after basic training where I'll be joining him.
Has anyone here ever had any experience with a partner or spouse going to the military? If so, any advice? I anticipate moving around every couple of years. I'm determined to make things work with... my work (Product).
How does one get started with a remote job when you don't have the remote work experience? Monterey is ~1.5 hours away from SF/San Jose so I could drive up, do on-site and remote. Any companies that offer flexibility of this kind?
- New TYjc83That’s a rough road. Try a company in Santa Cruz. They have a smallish tech footprint
- Shape Security / OtherqAkK63moreI was at the DLI in Monterey for language training. Is that what your husband is doing? I didn’t get into tech until after leaving the military so I can’t really advise there, but I wish you luck. It’s a hell of a ride for both soldier and spouse, as my wife can attest.
- Intel MovinOnI was in the army and married the whole time... My wife worked in SWE, and had to put up with our moves.
You will find there is a super strong support infrastructure for military spouses. I am not saying it will be easy... But many spouses who are technical are able to find remote work options.
- My husband is in the army.
Depending on your husband's MOS he could either be moving every few years or not at all. Some careers there is only one location they can work, and they're there until they either leave the military or change to another MOS. He should be able to find that out. Deployments also depend on his MOS so find out the expected schedule and you can plan based on that. For example if he's deploying for a year you could take a temporary/contract job in another city while he's gone.
Telling prospective employers you're a military spouse can be hit or miss. Some will appreciate it and be willing to work with you, while others will assume it means you're going to be PCSing in 1-2 years and not hire you. I personally don't mention it, if asked why I am relocating I keep it vague and say I want to be closer to family.
Honestly it's not an easy life being a career-oriented military spouse. The military (and the military community) assume you don't work and consider you a dependent of him rather than an independent adult with your own life and career. You will probably need to make sacrifices since his job will always come before yours (given that he can't refuse a PCS, a deployment, or other work trip). That said it's possible to make it work and the benefits can be good.
- Hey spacehorse! Thank you! This is all great advice.
He is a CTI in the Navy (Interpretive Cryptologic Technician). So we know he'll have his "A School" for ~2 years in Monterey CA at DLI. "C School" is more dependent on his language, like if he gets an Asian Language he'll be in Hawaii about 1.5 years. CTI's don't do the typical deployment, normally not on a ship or in the air, nor in combat, but usually have a deployment outside the US and in Continental US.
I also think it is probably best to not say I'm a military spouse. I'm just unsure where to apply and when. Relocating... and I would need to get my driver's license and a car. Definitely not going to be an easy start to the new year haha.
I'm prepared to be making some sacrifices. Luckily, I can find an opportunity to continue what I do where we're going. And there are many benefits for us and we can start a small family before his 6 year contract ends, too. But yes, I didn't think I'd be a military spouse when I married and thought we'd be in NYC for a long time. I'm looking forward to this new adventure and what the military community is like.
Was it a difficult transition or is there a lot of support the military provides?
- Rosetta Stone DRUQ06Don’t try to drive north from Monterey to San Jose. People are coming in on 101 that direction from all parts South and traffic is a nightmare. So it’s not 1.5 hours during commute times. There are some consulting type firms around that do military contracts in that area. In general, pay around Monterey area is relatively poor compared to Bay Area.