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I feel dead on the inside

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.... seriously. Dont know how to stop feeling this way.

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  • Oracle redmug
    Help someone else.
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  • IBM ooei73
    Increase TC you’ll feel feel better
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    • OP
      To be honest... That would actually make me feel better... But I'd probably still be feeling empty.
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    • IBM ooei73
      With higher TC you can fill the void with stuff!
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    • OP
      I don't really like shopping or having "stuff" in general.....wish it would work.
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  • Aurora bystander!
    The same advise.

    Sex. Lots of it.
    And then some more.
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    • OP
      I hate meaningless sex...that just makes me feel more shit.
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    • Aurora bystander!
      Very well .. Mr. Picky.. throw some love in there.
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    • OP
      I'm a woman. And if I had someone to love, I would not of responded about "meaningless sex"... Anyways your solution is not an option for me either way. But thanks.
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    • Aurora bystander!
      Humor doesn’t touch you no more.
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    • OP
      Yea feeling pretty numb
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    • Tableau hellish
      Find someone to love, who loves you. The oldest and most difficult thing in the world. Based on my experience as a parent, it's hard even from your kids.
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    • Autodesk / EngVjvcjko
      This is bad advice, love yourself before wanting others love, no one truly loves you better than you can yourself, be kind to yourself, be honest to yourself, be vulnerable with yourself, understand your inner most emptiness, its usually coming from expectations, if it is try letting go of those expectations and create news ones, that are short term, that will make you feel alive again to want to achieve them
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  • Microsoft / Eng
    MP3

    MicrosoftEng

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    Troll living under the I-5 overpass
    MP3more
    Watch “Fight Club”. Join martial arts. Go bungee jump.

    Put yourself in a situation that makes you scared, uneasy, makes you anxious. Something that is dead cannot feel such a richness of emotions.
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    • OP
      Why would watching flight club help?
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    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

      MicrosoftEng

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      Troll living under the I-5 overpass
      MP3more
      Because what you wrote reminded me of the main character in the beginning of the movie and then he undergoes transformation throughout the movie to find his masculinity and calling in life.

      It’s also a great movie.

      In Russia they have real fight clubs because it does offer a way to transcend whatever it is that troubles you in life through brute force raw masculinity.
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    • OP
      Interesting, alright I'll check it out. Thanks for the recommendation.
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  • Amazon HBkS82
    You’re not alone
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  • Deloitte / Consultant
    weirdflex

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    Stop feeling that way?
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    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

      MicrosoftEng

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      Troll living under the I-5 overpass
      MP3more
      Sensation! A consultant on an anonymous app Blind discovers the secret to feeling good about yourself! His revolutionary method that has never before been thought of by any living conscious being is to simply stop being that way! Stay turned for his Nobel prize nomination at 7et.

      In other news, stocks of major pharmaceutical companies are collapsing as there is a sharp decrease in the need of antidepressants, mood stabilizers, SSRI’s, as more people are stopping to feel the depression, sucking soulless inner void, and are becoming enlightened in an instant.

      Now we switch to Jessica Lamers who is reporting from NYC where about 2,000 therapists are protesting in Central Park. “hello, Bob! yes it is pretty crazy down here. Apparently psychologists, psychotherapists, psychiatrists are out of work overnight as people are choosing to simply not be the way they used to be and they no longer have any need for therapy!” (Voices in the background “Hang @weirdflex! He doesn’t have a therapy degree so he can’t know nothing!”)

      And there you have it folks. We are truly approaching the age of singularity where one man’s idea can change the world overnight. Perhaps, it is in our moral duty as society to offer a social cushion for people displaced from work as a result of technological, scientific, breakthroughs.
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    • OP
      Haha this made me laugh, thanks I needed that.
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    • Deloitte / Consultant
      weirdflex

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      @MP3 this really was funny. I was being grumpy and unhelpful but it seems you may have helped OP smile, even for a minute. Nice job bro.

      That being said, asking the autists of Blind for help with mental health is about as effective as asking them for help getting laid. It’s useless at best, counterproductive at worst.

      OP, hope you feel better regardless of what it takes to get there.
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  • Microsoft nekozam
    Get help, mental growth or mental support... Friends, support groups, psychologists/therapists. Determine if it's a real mental issue such as depression or otherwise that may require treatment or longer term efforts, or something you can work on with support or/and a change of some form. Life's too short not to help yourself.
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    • OP
      You are right... I should really go to a therapist. I did try earlier but I didn't click with her... I've been meaning to find another one.
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    • Microsoft nekozam
      You should feel find to try a few different ones until you find one that you are comfortable with.. And may be helpful to understand what makes it not quite who you want to talk to. And read up a bit between coach, therapists and psychologists... Different speeds and different needs. I coach.
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    • OP
      You coach what exactly?
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    • Microsoft nekozam
      Irrelevant for this thread, 😊. Do what *you* need.
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    • Intel UGeJ58
      I highly recommend a therapist specializing in CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). It aims to reshape your thoughts for positivity and recognize a negative thought for what it is - an intrusive and false assertion about yourself. With time, your negative thoughts will dwindle as you stop taking them seriously and learn better techniques to promote internal happiness.

      Don't skimp out on yourself, your brain, and your life. Go every 2 weeks (preferably every week). If you are lackadaisical and go less than once per month or never, I guarantee that your pain will continue for months if not years. It can always get worse no matter what you think is rock bottom.

      If you are really so depressed that you have trouble sleeping, eating, motivating, or are consumed by negative thoughts then you need to visit a psychiatrist/psychologist. Nobody wants to imagine that they need a medication, but even short-term usage is the fastest/most effective route to recovery (with the correct medication). In tandem with a short-term medication, you should always have therapy.
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    • Amazon Fetch
      UGeJ58 - that’s excellent advice.
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  • New / HR
    andrewsauc

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    Talk to a person or over the phone or live. Someone outside your circle, maybe even a stranger. But someone who’s willing to listen.
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    • Oracle ypoint
      This definitely helps. That's all one takes. Someone to hang out with.
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    • New / HR
      andrewsauc

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      Thanks, I’ve been there before so you’re not alone. Usually with this first step, you’ll find that all you needed to do was say what you feel out loud without fear of judgment or impact (thus, I highly recommend someone outside of your usual circles). Next if you feel that you’re still in pain or despair, at least now you’ve talked through some of your issues, you can now address and make a plan for them moving forward. Yes you can do this alone in your head, it’s not impossible, however, a lot of the times for me, I’d spend hours on end stuck in thought circles; Eventually fall asleep and start the process all over again the following day.

      DM me if you’d like to give it a try. No strings, just paying it forward.
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  • Oracle ypoint
    Welcome to the club! Too many people doing meaningless things and miss the real world of people. I go to work and have no one to talk to. It's exhausting to stay motivated. Vacation and indulging in harmless things helps reset. Music, meditation, and chatting or long walks too.
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    • OP
      Yes exactly
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    • Oracle ypoint
      Don't expect satisfaction from your career. Maybe chasing happiness is exactly what causes frustration. Let it come on its own. I'm learning... 🙂
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  • Facebook fPxr57
    You wouldn’t ask a therapist for help with engineering, so don’t ask a bunch of immature engineers for help with your wellness. See a professional, it’s not a big deal. It can be very helpful to have the ‘mirror’ of a counselor rather than a friend because they help you to navigate your thoughts and environment rather than try to immediately jump in with an easy but unhelpful answer. Reflect is a pretty good startup for that and they’re cheap too.
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    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

      MicrosoftEng

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      Troll living under the I-5 overpass
      MP3more
      Apparently you have to get a professional degree to know how to life?
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    • Facebook fPxr57
      Whoosh. You just proved my point.
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    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

      MicrosoftEng

      BIO
      Troll living under the I-5 overpass
      MP3more
      Simple logic. Before therapists and psychologists existed, did people just suffer endlessly as there was no solution? Or did they have other ways like finding God, or meditating?

      My grandma went through horrible atrocities and war, my grandfather lost his parents at age 7. And yet they are bubbly happy people. When I ask them about depression, trauma, etc, they look at me weird and tell me they had no time to be depressed. They only trauma they have as far is I can tell is my grandma will feed you to death and knows no limit. But that’s understandable as she had 4 of her siblings and her parents die of starvation.
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    • Facebook fPxr57
      I know examples of what you mean but I know a greater number of older people that simply hide their mental illnesses. Either way, how you approach the situation can help to define how you see it later and that in turn can be facilitated by talk therapy. Avoid Freudian stuff like you saw in Fraser, that’s all BS. Just simple counseling and/or CBT work wonders if the patient wants to improve.

      I just hope that anyone reading this including you have the humility to seek help when you need it. It’s easy to think you’re self sufficient when you’re not in a time of difficulty, but retaining that mentality when you’re going through a tough time can be dangerous.
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    • Intel UGeJ58
      ^Agreed, America is just at the beginning of a movement where mental illness doesn't have stigma. People ignored the problem because in the history of mental illness you were taken away indefinitely, electroshocked, and/or eventually saw a 12 inch spike driven through your nostrils to your brain. It happened to my grandmother. Nobody in their wildest imagination would sign up for that kind of fate.

      Instead of therapy and wellness, America has looked for solutions like alcohol, opioids, cocaine, marijuana, and ecstasy.

      Current statistics put 1/25 experience and live continuously with serious mental illness. 1/5 will experience a period of mental illness in their lifetime
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  • Microsoft rana
    Travel to another country. Go to a movie theatre and observe people's reactions. Visit a mall and eat snacks there. Watch forensic files and dateline mystery if that excites. Go to a church and listen to a sermon. Observe a choir practice....Find the reason of depression and fight hard against it. Don't get pulled down by self-pity!
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    • OP
      I travel alot already actually.... Even now as we speak I'm in another country away from home... But I'm in a co-working space... Not in the mood to do my work... And just feeling shit.
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  • Lyft aWBv38
    You need friends. Not therapist. Therapist bill you by the hour and nod head and put your innermost secrets on some s3 bucket probably.
    I'll do better for a beer.
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  • Verizon / ProductSnoopDoge
    I understand that people here are stating advice that would have worked for them. But a greater majority of them feel like nothing but a list of new hobbies you should try out. Sometimes, things and experiences aren’t the solution. Proper human connection or even a metaphysical connection is what’s required.

    If you need a friend to confide upon then you should seek that out. If there isn’t anyone, drop me a message we can talk it out.

    If doesn’t work then goto a therapist. The brain is yet another organ, and like every other organ it too could get sick. Chemical/hormonal changes occur and medicinal attention is the only way around it. Navigating emotion is literally the worst. Hope you feel better.
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  • Fentanyl
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  • Hookers and blow
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  • Salesforce
    lozere

    Salesforce

    BIO
    I am blind to something and you are too.
    lozeremore
    Travel. Just got back from a trip and I feel so much better. Thinking I need to leave the country every 3 months and go to a radically new place.
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  • Microsoft Kumam
    Leave IBM
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  • Microsoft / EngnzQR23
    Therapist should help. I try to spend more time in bettering my lifestyle and health when I feel empty or alone. You can workout. That makes you feel better. Join some group classes, seeing people around can make you feel better. Start making new friends, talk to people, go out. Socialize.
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  • Capital One
    Drake

    Capital One

    BIO
    Nothing was the same.
    Drakemore
    You may be developing depression
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  • Microsoft zzzddd
    Find a good physiologist and work with them
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  • New
    TinyGirl

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    TinyGirlmore
    What do you mean with dead? Does it hurt? Is it just a void? Do you ever cry? What do you think about when you’re alone and the lights are off?

    You need to narrow down “being dead” before you can start looking for solutions. A therapist would help you with that but you could find it yourself too.
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  • Amazon ekrU31
    Are you depressed? Is it a regular thing? I used to get depressed regularly. I've developed few habits to avoid it. The frequency has decreased from per week to per month but situation has improved.
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  • Microsoft rana
    You are in another country. Try mingling with locals. Ask a colleague of any nearby eateries and try their cuisine. Watch something on television. Watch a movie with subtitles. If you have had this feeling already, see a therapist. Else, try to identify the reason of depression. Fight against it. Listen to a sermon by Joel Osteen. It helps!!!
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  • Seriously see a therapist. You can find a list of local therapists on the Psychology Today website and sort by certifications/insurance/disciplines.
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