> EDIT: Thank you guys for all the support, especially those who could empathize. it helped cheer me up and warm my heart. I couldn't ever confide this to anyone in real life because this is a friend I regard highly and truly want my actions and words to be positive in his context, especially since he's starting a new chapter in his life. However I'm human and I do feel sad and cry even if I don't want to. I needed all the virtual hugs. And could have some more :)
I would seriously recommend you talk with a therapist, it would do most people a lot of good, but I think you would benefit from help working through this from people who don't want your TC on every post.
I purposely didn't put down my TC because it would out me. I just don't want to continue anymore :(
Definitely, definitely get help. I know that it’s the hardest to get help when we need it most, but even just telling a friend or family member that you need help will get the ball rolling. Nothing is worth not continuing.
After the obligatory Blind reply above. You just need to move on as you would move on to another job if you didnt like this current job or the current job fired you. The only way to move on isn Treat Yo Self!
Flagged. Have SOME empathy!!
You started other relationships and intentionally made sure they're long distance so you could bail because for someone else who has their own life? No, everyone does not go through that. In fact, it's a the kind of thing that makes people call you a bad person. Do better by other people. Maybe then you'll make an actual match with someone.
Well none of them worked. It wasn't like we communicated super regularly. And I never made statements of love to anybody. So stop making judgements of me for dating someone a couple of months that I wasn't super into because all of us have done that.
That's not what you said.
Dont worry, you just need time
Yah I know. Empirically this kind of stuff takes me from 0.5 to 1 times the time units I was emotionally invested in the person, consciously or subconsciously. Upper limit of 2021 it is. I however feel I'm just losing strength. I need a hug and a shoulder to cry on 😰
Literally, tonight, get dressed up, go out on the town with a bestie. Have a few drinks, get picked up and make an emotional connection with someone and perhaps... get laid. This is like a death in the family so you need to keep your mind busy and off of this.
I'm not able to trust emotional connections anymore :( Except with animals :(
Keep yourself busy. Pursue your hobbies. Gym is your best bet.
I used to be sad, believing people around me are responsible for my emotional health and blaming things not going my way. I felt I am unlucky. Eventually led to a lot of suffering, anxiety. I think many times I just gave too much meaning to emotions caused by something else and explained them wrongly, was afraid of them and fooling myself that I need something to become happy and thinking internal world is more rational than it really is ( I need good things happening to me to be happy). I later realized that my well being is more independent than I really believed. You will be alright and I dont believe there is anything like the one, true love. Maybe try meditation or counseling.
Great reply 👍🏼 seems like you walked her shoes . I have but my approach was different.
I'm not blaming anybody. Just on a crying spree :) Thanks for sharing your experience, it's empowering to take responsibility for your well-being because then you can control it.
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I've been through the same emotion, I was in love with him for about 4 yrs. I didn't allow my self to move on, because I was so in love with my crush aka best-friend. It had been 3 yrs since I've met him, but continuously rejected any other guy's serious feelings for me, as I felt he was the one. Until one day, I told him how I felt, and to which he responded that he never had such strong feelings for me. And it is the same your case. He doesn't have those feelings for you and has for some one else. It breaks your heart. But, accept it and cry your heart out. Understand he's only a phase, and think in terms of a bigger picture, in the long run, in the life that is yet to come. Your prince(/princess) is waiting for you to be rescued. Jk. Have hope, you are already amazing with your career. Dm me, if you want to talk :)
Thanks. :) I guess very similar experience... I don't know if I'm awesome with my career, I hope I am :(
Yes, you are. Well, I think working at Salesforce is amazing. You've some genuine feelings and commitment to a person. I think its beautiful. Trust me, great guys are just waiting for you, pick one of them. TIP : Start by letting go, few things that you might have of him. Helps :)
😢 i didn’t come here to feel
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