I watched the movie Booksmart and came to wonder - have I wasted my life?

Amazon inluv
May 27 24 Comments

This weekend I watched Booksmart. It’s an absolutely amazing movie.

But it got me thinking, as someone who was focused throughout high school I never got the “rewards” the main characters got. I never got into an elite school.

I also focused on school in college. Did 4 internships and saved a bunch of money and did research and got into a FANG with multiple backup offers (albeit Amazon). But even at the age of 23 I feel like I haven’t “lived” as much as the elites in the movies. I’ve never been in love or gotten external validation for my accomplishments or been to a party like the ones in movies. All that, and I’m still considered mediocre compared to people like them (that do exist!) at local schools like Harvard and MIT and Yale and the rest of the HYPSM+Ivies

How can I make up for lost time? I feel like I’ve wasted my life.

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  • Amazon jEEg41
    Jeez man!!! It’s a friekin movie. Its super romanticized. Relax, and enjoy your life the way you like it, not how Hollywood wants you to enjoy it.
    May 27 3
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      It is but i liked the movie because it reminded me of a lot of people I know. It is romanticized but there’s a big kernel of truth to it that I can’t stop thinking about.
      May 27
    • Amazon jEEg41
      What’s the truth? I’m going to quote someone and that’ll pretty much sum of life for you, “Relax, none of us are getting out of here alive “. That’s essentially life!
      May 27
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      That a lot of people can both be irresponsible and be more successful than I can even dream of. But I still have to struggle for everything else
      May 27
  • New / Eng
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    Nice humble-bragging, bro.
    May 27 5
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      How is this humble bragging? The sorts of people that make me feel this way don’t find any of this impressive at all.

      Do you find it impressive?
      May 27
    • New / Eng
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      > Did 4 internships and saved a bunch of money and did research and got into a FANG with multiple backup offers (albeit Amazon).

      If that's not humble-bragging I don't know what is.
      May 27
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      Is it? It’s above average for my school but pretty normal for people at top schools and Waterloo etc.
      May 27
    • New / Eng
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      I'm so sad I'm not in the top 0.5% see I'm only in the top 1%.
      May 27
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      I’m closer to the top 20% at best. The top 1% is the MIT grads that work at Jane street
      May 28
  • Oscar 🐨koala
    Hi. I am not in FAANG, my TC sucks and my bank account doesn’t have 300k. And single as f.
    May 27 2
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      Mine doesn’t have 300k either ;(
      May 27
    • Oscar 🐨koala
      But a lot do at 27,28
      May 27
  • Cloudera ಠ╭╮ಠ
    First of all, you're only 23 relax.

    If you want to party, go party in Europe or Mexico or a beach in SE Asia. Or be a beach bum somewhere for a few weeks. Go to a yoga retreat in Bali.

    Money buys you freedom and opportunity to do things. Take your PTO. And spend some of your TC. You need to plan for the future, but you can't take it with you bud. Save for a vacation and go enjoy it. Then realize that you need to balance work and play in your daily life

    Signed,
    Someone older
    May 27 2
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      Alone? All of my friends are in similar boats as me. I don’t have any friends that went to elite schools or anything like that
      May 27
    • Cloudera ಠ╭╮ಠ
      Go alone or go with friends
      May 27
  • New ThEW57
    Nobody gaf about an elite school after your first couple jobs.
    May 27 3
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      If that were true people wouldn’t go
      May 28
    • Amazon dataplane
      Not true.
      May 28
    • New ThEW57
      Keep telling yourselves that. TC $480k hs dropout here
      Jun 12
  • Amazon / Eng DeepObsess
    Your life is the consequence of your choices, Amazon is one of them.
    May 27 1
    • Amazon inluv
      OP
      What’s that supposed to mean?
      May 27
  • Amazon / Eng it djda
    Why the fuck should it matter whether you went to an elite school or not? Stop comparing yourself to imaginary people from blind or movies ffs.

    Set your own goals and work towards them, rather than trying to live somebody else's life.

    We all die alone, the only thing that matters is how much you enjoyed your time here.
    May 28 0
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    bmy2012

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    I havent seen the movie, but here's my reco: when I was in my late 20s, I went to an international business school for an MBA. Best time of my life, lots of fun, learning, making friends, seeing the world and broadening your mind. Defo would recommend.
    May 27 0