I will never be as successful as my parents

Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
May 12 55 Comments

Kinda a rant I guess. Just coming to the realization that I probably will never make as much as my parents. I was lucky/fortunate enough to have a great upbringing and we never had to worry about money. Hopefully, I will be able to build a successful career so my future children won’t have to every worry about these things growing up :/

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  • Amazon lamardavis
    How many yoe do you have? Did you recently start your career?

    When I started my career I didn't expect to be making as much as I do.
    May 1211
    • Intel babubhatt
      Give it time, OP. Way too early in your career to know how much you’ll end up earning.
      May 12
    • Cisco ynersaq
      How are you whining and you aren’t even done school yet? You have like 50 years to do something
      May 12
    • Google GCPCE
      This. I stated my career in a completely different field (accounting) making <$50K in TC.

      My career goal was to make $100K/yr, which I’ve more than doubled now (and still am underpaid according to some of the TC’s on here).

      The big thing to realize is this—money can prevent unhappiness, like you said your kids will never have to worry about finances, coming from a family that DID have to worry about those things, it’s definitely reducing a stress for them and you—but money alone won’t make you happy, particularly if you’re comparing yourself to anyone but yourself.

      For example, someone making $500K TC who compares themselves to a VP making 1.5M+ will feel inadequate, the same VP who compares themselves to an entrepreneur making 10M+ will feel inadequate, the same entrepreneur who compares themselves to the Walton heirs aren’t even scratching the surface of what they own for just being alive.

      Point is, don’t worry about what other people think of you—truth is, they’re probably thinking of you far less than you imagine.
      May 12
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Thanks intel. Not necessarily whining Cisco, just a realization. Of course I plan to work hard. You are right though. Still got a lot of time :)
      May 12
    • Google tdhfcb
      +1 GCPCE, made the same exact switch. Man we lucked out.
      May 12
    • Well said, @gcpce. It's interesting to know how far people have come in their lives when compared to where they started, while learning and enjoying during their journey.

      @gcpce and tdhfcb, Tell us more about how you achieved it? What motivated you? What are the challenges you faced along the journey? Did you have moments when you wanted to give up?

      If that's too personal to share here, allow me to pm you?
      May 12
    • Google tdhfcb
      Sure pm me
      May 12
    • Google GCPCE
      That’s awesome @tdhfcb, always glad to hear of people who have made the leap! And agreed, we’re fortunate to have made the switch!

      @fuckzuck The biggest key for me was always being passionate about learning and doing more, and looking for side-projects that weren’t technically part of my core job that could help improve my team/orgs.

      That brought me from accounting into tech, which brought me into a startup, which led to aggressive promotions and leadership opportunities, which ultimately has landed me at Google.

      I can’t take credit for all of it, a decent portion of it has been being in the right place at the right time, but doing the things above along with trying to be a good person seems to have led to more of those opportunities than I would have imagined.

      If you’re interested in more specifics PM me as well.
      May 12
    • Oracle chloe5
      well said. GCPCE.
      OP Son - You have a long way to go. You are giving up too soon. You never know. You will do well, maybe better than your parents. Also remember money won't bring you happiness. Don't compare yourself with others.
      May 12
    • Amazon lamardavis
      I never once thought about how well my parents did. To this day I still don't know how much they made. I am pretty sure I am making more than them but never thought of it. I got into tech because I liked it not because of the pay check...never dreamed of earning a 6 figure salary.
      May 12
  • New / Other
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    Did stuff. Hustled hard. Retired
    DuQvV7ymore
    Can’t all be winners...
    May 122
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Exactly. Just got to focus on the road ahead and build a solid career so I can provide :)
      May 12
    • New zon2b
      Why not
      May 12
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Very interesting article tbh. I think this stands for a lot of kids. However I wasn’t necessarily raised like this. My parents are immigrants so I was told if you want anything you have to work your ass off
      May 12
    • Indeed *NDEED
      I blame Mr. Rogers
      May 12
  • We don’t judge success based on the size of your bank account. We judge success based on the positive impact you have on people.
    May 121
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Love this comment. Hopefully I have brought some shine to the people I have met on this earth :)
      May 12
  • Cisco SFXH32
    Children should have to worry and struggle. That’s something your parents did right if you are. We make our own way through life.
    May 121
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Agreed. I struggled through my own battles. Parents shouldn’t be hovering over their children. I am saying that I never want my own child to worry about struggles that relate to me. Aka money, job security, etc. I feel like children shouldn’t have to worry about that ? Maybe that’s to naive?
      May 12
  • Lol OP. Your parents should be the last people on this planet you should be competing with. You both are on the same side of the river, not opposite sides. You are a team 😊
    May 123
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Thanks zuck! Yea defiantly not trying to compete. Just kinda a thought that crossed my mind this morning. In HS I worked a couple low end jobs and I would see people that didn’t have a lot of things. I just want to work hard to make sure my future family will be supported I guess :)
      May 12
    • You will be fine, OP. We all have our journeys and we learn along the way. I am sure you'll do great.

      Allow me to tell you a short story. When I would fail an exam or lose something, I would cry and go to my mom. I would feel really bad and felt helpless. Seeing me cry so much, everytime my mom would ask me - if I give you a $1000, would you give me your arm? I would nod in denial. Then she would continue - what about $10k. I said no. What about a million $? I would say no again. And she would say - "well, do you realize that every body part of you is a gift that you aren't ready to give me for whatever money I quote. You should value these gifts, it's your ability to work. As long as you have the ability to work, don't cry. So what if you failed? Try again. Give your best shot. Success takes time. As long as you have a willpower to succeed and a willingness to work, you will be fine in this world. But if someday you lose your ability to work itself, that day I'll give you the freedom to cry as much as you want to."

      I hope you got the gist 😊
      May 12
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      I love it. Thank you so much for the comments zuck. A beautiful quote from your mother too 😊 let’s all find our own success. Cheers!
      May 12
  • Nvidia showeridea
    If you're working in tech and you're not making 2x TC of what your parents made on avg, you must not have came from a middle class household OR your parents were super successful which is fine.
    May 123
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      I realized around the age of 16 that we are not middle class.. I don’t think it will be possible to make what my parents make
      May 12
    • Nvidia showeridea
      That's fine, really. Be happy that your family is doing well and not struggling, it's not the case for everyone.
      May 12
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Will do Nvidia. I appreciate you taking the time to comment on the thread. Take care 😊
      May 12
  • Google wdyt
    why does it matter who is more successful.. idk to me this doesn’t matter at all and I give absolutely 0 fucks whether my parents reach more prestige or $ or whatever or if I do
    May 123
    • Oracle chloe5
      This..
      May 12
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      I guess using the word “success” wasn’t the best term. It’s mostly about hoping that I can be financially secure when I have my own kids and that they will hopefully never have to see me go through hard financial times
      May 12
    • Oracle chloe5
      OP you are so young. Unnecessary anxiety.
      May 12
  • Netflix nflxos
    My dad used to be a published scientist with his works translated and published abroad (high deal of you were in USSR). Around my age had to leave the science and manage construction projects and car repairs shop. He had no savings, economics was devastated, crime was everywhere. Now he is semi-retired and is doing PHP for pennies... I am horrified when I think of all he had to go through. So far my career had been growing far above any expectations and I feel pretty confident in my next 10 years.
    May 121
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Sorry to hear about your dad Netflix. Hopefully he finds some joy in what he is doing now. Glad to hear you have found success in your own path tho. Grow and reach for the stars but always keep family in mind :)
      May 12
  • New QTdN03
    I cannot relate. My parents were successful, but the economy is stronger than it has ever been during their lifetime, and I feel positioned to make a fortune in the coming years.
    May 120
  • Microsoft FFSake
    Slap. Shut the f##k up and stop being a p###y. You did nothing to achieve something and already trying to quit.

    Now that though of fear being a failure is real for a lot of people (you are not alone). Success is not what others define - it’s how you see yourself reaching your goals. Now to reach your goals, you have to be real with yourself and not overstretch. Have 1-2 long term goals without a deadline, a bunch of 3-4 year goals, a lot of yearly goals and couple goals for each month. Every time you finish your goal - buy yourself a candy (they say achievement works well on motivating millennials).

    Consider this 60% of German residents (wealthiest EU country) will never have a home of their own and will rent out through their life. And trust me - those people are happy with what they have.
    May 127
    • Salesforce hypeforce
      Germany is not the wealthiest EU country.
      May 12
    • Microsoft FFSake
      My bad. One of the wealthiest - is that good enough?
      May 12
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      No!! Microsoft I am not quitting. I guess I should have worded the original post better. I have been successful in my own right so far (I think) I have taken time off of school to work different internships and was able to become financially independent since basically since like 20. It’s just this “realization” I don’t know how to describe it. I want to be able to have a future family in which I can be able to support them no matter what. I just don’t know if I will be able to do it to the point in which my parents did it
      May 12
    • Microsoft FFSake
      Well that thought isn’t new. My parents are absolutely successful in their life. And for me they are titans who could raise me in a really tough time and grow above and beyond. I am nowhere near having that kind of hard time as they had. I had my doubts as to how on fucking earth should I be able to do the same (not in compete sense, but in sense that my kids would look up to me). Needless to say, those thoughts came to me pre my financial independence and pre family of my own. It works out by getting a task before you start completing it successfully.

      Don’t bother yourself with buying house. You literally don’t need it yet. Same goes for fancy car, etc.

      You have potential to succeed in a great way, since you have the most important thing in your hands - time. Don’t spend your time thinking about succeeding. Spend your time on ideas and their implementation.

      Wish you luck on building your future.
      May 12
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Thanks for the well written post Microsoft. I will definitely take it to heart. Time to get to work 😊 cheers!
      May 12
    • Salesforce hypeforce
      Germans prefer to rent than own. They have government policies favoring tenants. It is not the affordability angle. See https://www.herald-union.com/a-primer-on-german-landlord-tenant-law/
      May 12
    • Microsoft FFSake
      They prefer to rent due to affordability of mortgages. The law is the consequence reflecting real situation not vice versa in this case
      May 13
  • Oracle chloe5
    It's ok to feel the need to become better than your parents. Getting out of your comfortable zone propels you to do better.
    But don't surround yourself with negative people. Be positive.
    May 123
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Thanks oracle :) I agree that surrounding yourself around positive people is probably one of the best things you can do
      May 12
    • Oracle chloe5
      OP it's a valid thing to worry about but don't let it eat you. sounds like u r a young kid. Gosh! this should be the least of things you need to worry about. Be happy, get a gf or bf.
      May 12
    • Ericsson / Engrawr🙈🙉
      OP
      Will do oracle! thanks for the comments. I really do appreciate it 😊
      May 12
  • LinkedIn nommy
    My parents are immigrants, did not have a college degree, and I STILL don’t think I’ll do better than them. That is one of my worry points as well. My parents did very well for themselves: started off with a nice childhood and were upper middle class, then gave up everything to move to US. They started at the bottom since their English was just OK, and then were catapulted to success due to being in the right place at the right time for their careers.

    With my spouse, we should do better overall in the future, but definitely not for at least 5 years.
    May 122
    • Dropbox puts&calls
      Growing up upper middle class and then starting somewhere new is not starting from the bottom lol. Unless they moved when they were like five years old.
      May 12
    • LinkedIn nommy
      Worse. They moved here when my mom was 28 and my dad 33. They gave up their careers and knew almost nobody here. Their parents lost a lot moving here too. When you move to America as an adult with no college degree, very few people give you a chance.
      6d
  • eBay costume
    I think you are using a very weak definition of success. By your definition Bezos, Jordan or any successful person has pretty much set their children for 100% failure in their life.
    For me success is not WHAT you want to do but HOW you do it and more importantly WHY you do it. If you manage how and why well, there will be enough money to do everything in life.
    May 120
  • Oracle alwzangry
    This post is why I have faith in the next generation! 👍
    May 120
  • Symantec nya_nya
    This is a given. Boomers had it best in terms of finance. I remember when family friends were given company cars. I still have family friends getting pensions even though they worked in a private company! It’s insane.
    May 120

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