Been married for 7 years now and I feel it's not working for us. We are not emotionally connected or really care for each other. she's 5 years younger to me No kids Indian arranged marriage Not sure what will be my options if I divorce. I want to have kids, and I know it's already late which depresses me every single minute š
Give me a referral to Microsoft and Iāll help you On a more serious note, this is exactly why I tell my folks that arranged marriage is a horrible idea
What is emotional connection?
Not sure how to explain it.. for example we never miss each other when I or her stay apart when traveling for work.. doesn't feel close enough when we spend time together, don't share lots of feelings apart from the mandatory household stuff...
Is there a age gap?
You are in delusion. Indian here, I am in love marriage. Frustrations generally arise after 4-5 years of marriage.
Do u guys connect in bed ??
Just OK
Don't give OK fakk just bang her whole nite. 2 minutes might be reason for your OK performance. Be the guy she wants and things might change.
Why do you think itās too late for you to have kids?
Youāre in a state where youāll regret no matter what youāll do. I suggest going for marriage counseling. If you arenāt having sex, itās a big issue.
Why you guys dont ask if she is happy marrying you before marriage? This kind of situation arise when she connects to other guy emotionally and marry MICROSOFT guy on family pressure. Arrange marriage sucks
Have you spoken to your wife about your situation & does she feel same?
Whenever we tried to have a conversation it always ends up in an argument situation. I think she doesn't want to get a divorce and at the same time don't wanna improve relationship
Isn't that a good thing. You both have the intent to stay married. Improving status-quo is always tough. I would say start doing things together which you both like, include a variable which takes away the unease between you for that moment. You both love Japanese food or like Nashville chicken or wine tasting? Go find those odd restaurants, places & eat out often.
Dude, if it's not working move on. I get the feeling you're worried about what people will say (ex: friends, family). Forget about that shit and do what you need to do so you can be happy. Life's too short for compromises of this sort.
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