I'm going to be 34 in October!

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South Asian Female.
pretty hot! 🔥

For a long time I didnt worry about age at all.
I'm from Kolkata where its not common to go abroad for studies. I studied at a premier college in India ane worked at a MNC for some years before I even knew going international was possible. Wasted about 2.5 years in the process.

When I came to usa for my studies I got a full scholarship and decided to pursue my Phd. Didn't have an awesome mentor and decided to leave Phd for Masters after 3 years. One extra year than rest of my peers.

I've been in the industry for 5 years now, but most of my peers with similar background is about 3.5 years younger than me.

Added to that I work at Microsoft now where most of my colleagues haven't gone to grad school. So another 3-4 years younger. Overall age gap of almost 7-8 years. New joinees are 10 years younger almost.

I'm good at my job, good at communicating, and overall look like I must be 28-29. My boyfriend is 4 years younger than me and everything is great. But eveytime I tell my age to someone I feel they are talking behind my back. In fact, more often people are praising me for looking so young etc.

When I was a child I couldn't wait to grow up and do all grown up stuff. But now that I am one it just makes me feel sad.

I was just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat and what do you do to get over this feeling? I didn't realize getting older can make you feel so sad even when everything else is going great in your life!

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  • Microsoft iambored
    Can’t figure out if this is a shit post or a brag post or a shitty brag post.
    Aug 16 8
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      May be you are a disgruntled guy whose heart was broken by a bong. Or you are a Bengali boy. Then you are right there are 0 🔥guys in Bengal. But plenty 🔥girls ❤️❤️
      Aug 16
    • Microsoft Tattle
      Dude, I am Indian and bengali girls are super hot.
      Aug 16
    • Microsoft Tattle
      Bengali girls are also very smart and dominating. If I wasn't married, I would've asked you out(hot guy from Northern India and I like being dominated) 😂😂😂.
      Aug 16
    • Microsoft
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      Thanks for that even though I'm old 🙏 Not sure if I'm dominanting. But I'm funny and witty for sure. 😊

      PS sorry I think I bragged here a little 😜
      Aug 16
    • Microsoft Tattle
      Look, I replied earlier too. 34 is not old at all. You should give yourself time to figure your life out. Being Indian I understand there is pressure and we are programmed a certain way but times are changing even in india. Plenty people get married late. Also, grass isn't greener on the other side. There are huge challenges to overcome after you get married.
      Aug 16
  • Verizon / Eng
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    RIP your inbox
    Aug 16 0
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    • Microsoft
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      Happens all the time! I'm not talking about an IIT or VIT or IIIT. Haven't heard about Jadavpur or Presidency or what?
      Aug 16
    • Microsoft
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      Also just because you work at Apple doesn't make you premium tier in life. Apple has pretty shitty work life balance and pretty shitty co-workers as well. Some of us value life more.
      Aug 16
    • Microsoft
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      I went to them. So thats why I said premier college in India. And people who go there not necessarily come for higher studies abroad. It's not very common in Kolkata.
      Aug 16
  • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
    I am quite disappointed that you identified yourself as “south Indian” and not “Indian”.
    Aug 16 6
    • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
      Behen hun bhai! Sorry galti ho gayi!
      Aug 16
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      Why does it matter? Yes. Because all South Indians come for grad studies after they graduate!
      Aug 16
    • F5 Networks bhai-log
      Verisk - 👏 for your spirit. Agree that this north south shit shouldn’t matter anymore.

      😄
      Aug 16
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      It doesn't. I agree. And that's why I didn't write it in the first place.
      Aug 16
    • Walmart 👸 queen
      This post hahaha
      Aug 16
  • Manulife Financial yumBlondes
    mid life crisis
    Aug 16 1
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      Is it mid already! Aren't people living longer now 😜😰
      Aug 16
  • Google / Eng hooli.xyz
    “South Asian Female.
    pretty hot! 🔥”

    Pics or GTFO.
    Aug 16 2
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      Why should anyone prove anything to you! Looks like your are neither hot nor young! And not even insecure about aging! Wait do I envy you? 🤔
      Aug 16
    • Google / Eng hooli.xyz
      😎
      Aug 16
  • New ja_rule
    Half the tubbies I see in yoga pants also think they are hot but that's besides the point.

    You should realize a simple fact that all of us get older. Staying young or always the same age would be fucking unbearable. What's the problem with your age exactly?

    I'm 37, I love being my age, just as I loved being 27 and 17 but there is no way that I would want to go back or relive those days.
    Aug 16 12
    • New ja_rule
      I'm thinking you are totally overreacting on something that is purely a figment of your imagination.

      You have an age related insecurity. You constantly think and obsess about it driving yourself crazy. Eventually this will rub off on your BF unless you address it.

      Why are you insecure?
      Aug 16
    • Microsoft
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      Because I'm old. It's a internal dilemma. Not really external and a topic I avoid generally. But something happened today and a lot of people came to know about age and that started this discussion
      Aug 16
    • Oracle pzd
      > Half the tubbies I see in yoga pants also think they are hot but that's besides the point.

      🤣🤣😂 Is it besides the point though? OP is probably short and fat, and trying to blame her insecurity on her age. 😆
      Aug 16
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      What are tubbies? I'm actually short 5'2" and frankly a bit chubby! But hey I thought guys found that 🔥
      Aug 16
    • New ja_rule
      Ultimately appearance is somewhat irrelevant. You have a BF and he likes what you've got. In any case, the only suggestion I can give you is to get over this shit because it's counterproductive to literally everything you'd ever want to do. Silence that voice in your head and invest in self confidence. That earns point on the attractiveness scale. Being a whiny Debby Downer about some shit you can't even control subtracts those points.
      Aug 16
  • F5 Networks bhai-log
    How hot? Prove it!
    Aug 16 9
    • Walmart 👸 queen
      Have you ever scene men crying about their age. Man be like I am 50 now let’s marry a girl in her teenage 😂😂😂 I hope I did the justice to the above comment.
      Aug 16
    • F5 Networks bhai-log
      Queen 👸- well men do care about age. Can tell from personal experience
      Aug 16
    • Walmart 👸 queen
      I know they do that’s what I commented it’s just that they do not cry they just go marry another young woman 😂😂😂🤪
      Aug 16
    • F5 Networks bhai-log
      Are young women so clueless you think?
      Aug 16
    • Walmart 👸 queen
      Thank god for that! And also women! Haha
      Aug 17
  • Zillow Group ATTENT!0N
    Aug 16 0
  • Oracle pzd
    Nobody's looking to meet a 34-yo delusional fatty on Blind. Sorry to break the news.
    Aug 16 1
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      Good god why!!! Can't you be a better person than thinkinh everything is about hook up!
      Aug 16
  • Looking young != Hot

    You stated that you’re hot and then in the entire post just talk about how young you look. 🙄
    Aug 16 1
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      May be both young and hot! 🔥🔥🔥
      Aug 16
  • Walmart BqcQ58
    Women talking about age in 21st century. Not hot at all 🙄🙈
    Aug 16 1
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      Women is a piece of info. I'm talking about aging. I added woman since I was planning to post it in women in tech initially. But wanted to gather perspectives from everyone so posted in Misc instead
      Aug 16
  • Intel imonlyhum
    Look at Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas ! At 37 she's 11 years older than Nick. Who cares !
    Aug 16 7
    • Intel imonlyhum
      Really ? Wow. I think Priyanka is super hot. Most people would agree. And at least in 2019 The JoBros are pretty much the opposite of obsolete.
      Aug 16
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      @imonlyhum you are 30 and you listen to JoBros music? Priyanka is hot but she's not really great at anything. She's not a good actress or a singer or anything. Yes she's smart and has a lot of celebrity and looks good,speaks well (albeit controversial with the recent Twitter fiasco) But anyways, besides the point. I can't really identify with her. Also frankly don't think I'm that hot.
      Aug 16
    • Walmart 👸 queen
      Priyanka is not good at anything haha have you seen bajirao.
      Lady you are living on your own island!
      Aug 16
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      I knew someone would say this. She was good in that. But name another movie (or for that matter anything) in the last 5 years in which she was good.
      Aug 16
    • Intel imonlyhum
      I'll leave this right here. If this doesn't get you dancing....
      https://youtu.be/kBNt8hYvn8A
      Aug 16
  • Monster unholy!
    Be confident no matter what. It gets you farther than you think.
    Aug 16 4
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      Pretty confident on the outside. How to build that on the inside?
      Aug 16
    • Monster unholy!
      For me, giving zero fucks really helps 😂
      Aug 16
    • VMware lasdwe
      This is a brag post. OP definitely does not lack confidence 🙄
      Aug 16
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      I'm OP. I lack it about age.
      Aug 16
  • VMware ddgqer
    Wow. OP really thinks no end of herself
    Aug 16 1
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      I do ❤️
      Aug 16
  • Groupon dojoh
    And you're telling all this to strangers on blind because...?
    Aug 16 1
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      Because it's easier to understand and talk about. Who do I talk about it to? My friends who are 3.5 years younger and will only say you don't look like you are 34??
      Aug 16
  • Google / Eng
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    In general, until a person is married and has kids, such kind of insecurities are natural as you age, since you dont know how your life is going to end up like.
    Aug 16 3
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      Thank you for a thoughtful first response 🙏❤️
      Aug 16
    • Google / Eng
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      To add on with some advice, have some long term plan for your personal life.
      If you care to get married and have kids, then time is not on your side.
      Dont just keep getting older without any action out of laziness or just because you like your life right now.
      Aug 16
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      I have some plans. And I know age is not on my side. Let's see.
      Aug 16
  • Zyzyxtech Xyzyz
    It’s a matter of perspective. You would be looking at yourself differently if your peers were a little older than you. Everyone goes through this phase where from being the youngest in your group, you are suddenly among the older ones. I went through it, and I’m in 30s myself.
    Aug 16 13
    • Zyzyxtech Xyzyz
      What’s stopping you from hanging out with folks of you age? Is it because that’s your way of hanging on to the 20s?
      Aug 16
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      How do I find people my age? I came to study 2.5 years later. So most of my my grad school buddies are 2.5 years younger approx. I came to work 1 year after so most of my work buddies are 2.5 + 1 years younger. I'm talking about people who started with me. I changed jobs and now my colleagues are mostly undergraduates who have been working for 3-5 years.
      Aug 16
    • Zyzyxtech Xyzyz
      There is life beyond work. You find people of your age in your neighborhood, gym, etc. The best way is to hang out with your undergrad friends.
      Aug 16
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      My undergrad friends are in India. Remind you we are from Kolkata and almost 90% people don't come abroad. Or come and then go back. I really wish I could hang with them but their life is different now. With kids and husband and sasuma and etc
      Aug 16
    • Zyzyxtech Xyzyz
      That’s tough luck if they’re not here. However, the part about marriage and kids is bound to happen. Even some of the folks you are hanging out with now are going to be married in a couple of years.
      Aug 16
  • Volvo CaHK02
    Room full of people who care
    Aug 16 2
    • IBM / IT IT 🎈
      Yeah.. 🐫 💅🏼
      Aug 16
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      Why you no care 😭
      Aug 16
  • Walmart / Data getpaid
    Asians don't age. You are 34 on ID but you look like 25 in person. Age is a number. I am sure you are a gorgeous woman.
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      ❤️❤️❤️ I wish. But 🙏
      Aug 16

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