Not just talking about finding a female partner (although that's a big thing), but just having friends in general. I HAVE NO FRIENDS. HELP ME. Even 5yrs after moving to corporate life I'm still having problems adjusting socially. I can't have friends at work especially with #metoo these days. I go to meetups but there is no consistency/repetition of people I meet. So basically everyone you meet is new. The regular groups I hang out with are all fucking men. Why don't women do more nerdy shit? Fuck I'm so depressed. It's been a year since I moved to Seattle and I still have NO FRIENDS. FUCK THIS.
Why does it matter whether the groups you hang out with are men or not? You can have male friends, right? Also what about metoo has kept you from making friends?
You can't date women at work. You can't be friendly with them.
Dating is very different from being friendly. Also dating doesn't cause metoo. Being inappropriate, misusing position or power, lack of consent - that is what causes someone to come forward since your actions are wrong at that point
It’s ok .. how about going to some dating meet-ups
They're all guys.... Single events in Seattle are like 90% guys.
So... talk to the guys, make friends? Start a bowling league, develop friend networks, have a good bowling buddy introduce you to a girl they know who’s a good match? Life isn’t hard, but it does take effort. Make yourself as awesome as you can be, the loneliness thing will work itself out as a result. Also check your views on metoo... it’s only a barrier for inconsiderate sociopaths. Well adjusted humans will not have any trouble.
You’re really blaming me too for not having friends? Why are women being punished for coming forward ?
Yes because back in school I would be friends with other girls. Now I can't be friends with women at the workplace.
Me2 made it impossible to risk a mistake and recover from it. Next step is fired from job or singled out on your team as a creep. happened to a friend on my team. Can’t give details. Guy left the woman left. And 7/10 promos all women who aren’t that great compared to rest. Me2 is a good thing but it also gave freaks a platform to shout crazy bs next to important issues like representation. Like avoid using “you guys” or AC in summer is too low for women in mini skirts (short enough for clubbing) you’re screwed if you accidentally interrupt a woman speaking. this is daily thing. Now the guys avoid women out of caution for being assumed a creep until proven otherwise like the other post did so casually, or weren’t fit for title. Plenty of women good at their job, so most on team reach out to them and work closely.
I'd have asked you if you wanna hangout. But that statement about metoo. Not cool bro. Also you seem to be mixing dating and finding friends, yes both are a problem. Don't try to solve them together.
You just make him your bro. He ain’t looking for a sister. :)
You sound desperate. You aren’t looking for friends. You are looking for a chick to get laid with. If you are looking for buddies why does it matter if they are men. I am a guy and some of my coolest mates are men.
I'm not looking to just get laid. I just want to have a partner that I can be comfortable being myself. Preferably female. There are lots of stuff that doesn't involving sex that I would like to do, like traveling and shit.
They problem is you are “looking” for females. There are millions of people in Seattle. It isn’t hard to find someone like minded. Hang out with people who are like minded. Give them some space and yourself some time. Don’t let gender come along the way and you’ll find your “dream girl” eventually.
A few ideas are driving to east WA, Idaho, Montana or South WA or OR (non-tourist places). Use apps or bars to look for casual folks there. Prefer small towns, look for dates. If he/she is nice stick to it. To fit in your shoes, everything requires intense effort and coming out of comfort zone. 10 trips to same city will bring some outcome. Only you can help yourself. Join meetup and I may also invite you to house parties (you wont find any dates though because my circle is all married.) Look for ways to get along with a group and be a neutral or positive part of it.
I heard Bay Area is better for social life. Bay Area people please share your thoughts.
Boring as hell in Bay, SF is different story, hence moved to Seattle, enjoying life here.
So do you need friends or a girlfriend? For the first, you don't really need to worry about metoo thingy. You know, girls are people too, they also socialize and like to have friends. I'm friends with coworkers, and sometimes we go to parties together too. MS has board games groups, you might want to join them for starters.
Then during one of the parties you become too forthcoming and the next day HR calls you in and you get fired.
Well, don't be too forthcoming? It's not like you have to jump on every female once you guys are at the party zone. Learn some diplomacy 🙂
whats wrong with dinner movie and a 🍆💦 on your own
I feel you. But " I can't have friends at work especially with #metoo these days" completely changed my opinion. Not cool bro. People don't start screaming metoo without reason .
Tech lead got fired because of that vid (so the story goes). And it was in my opinion totally non offensive. I love my job. I won't take the risk.
What you talking about? If you don't cross the line, you have nothing to worry about. If you wonder if it is inappropriate, it probably is