Immigration - leaving everything inc. family behind

Microsoft jilla2
Sep 9 16 Comments

How do you cope with that when immigration is a choice (even when not forced to do that like political issues and war)?

For those who have gone through this and made a choice to stay far from family and friends and home country, when looking back did it worth it?

It is a difficult choice for people from east where families are very close and connections are strong compared to isolated lifestyle in west.

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  • Oracle
    not_larry

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    not_larrymore
    Own your decision and make peace with it. FIRE and be ready to GTFO when needed.
    Sep 9 9
  • New pkko62
    Don’t worry, Hindi is 2nd official language in IT here (will be the 1st one soon), you will feel home here.
    Sep 9 1
    • Thought that was telugu !!
      Sep 9
  • SAP / Eng Johnny100
    I moved to the States and at first it was ok. With the years I realized that my values are very different from mainstream us values and now I can say that I regret a move that was un- informed. This said, I have learned a lot of things here at a human level. I met people I would not have met if I had stayed home. Interestingly I have very few us- born friends. I feel more at ease with immigrants in general, regardless where they came from. We have this experience in common. So if I could give you a word of advise it would be not to make this move hastily. Think it through, get informed. It’s great you ask people on here. Very smart move. I wish this had been an option when I came here. Best of luck, my friend.
    Sep 9 0
  • Riverbed Technology semanthara
    Depends on your circumstances. Are your parents in relatively good health? Will your wife and kids be with you or you gonna leave them behind? Are you going to immigrate for few years or forever? How much more money you will be making? All these factors you need to think about. Make a written list of pros and cons. I know its cliched but it will clear your head. As far as coping is concerned, you can always video chat. Bring them over once or twice a year for few months. It ain't so bad. Even in your home country you might need to move to a different state. Its sorta the same except larger distance. And you will anyways be spending 10 hours at work. It's been worth it for me.
    Sep 9 0
  • Uber / Eng itsdara
    Do your research and get ready to become part of the statistics. That means don't just look at the TC, also look at crime, divorce, traffic, expenses, mental health, community, culture etc...
    Sep 9 0
  • Apple 🥭mango
    You need to choose what’s important for you
    Sep 9 0