I have this feeling since a very long time and recently discovered a term for it. It’s not about anything or anyone. But I constantly feel like my work isn’t good enough and not creative enough. I’m praised and applauded. But it just doesn’t help! Anyone here who can suggest me something to overcome this feeling?
Edit : whenever my Sr. Engineers or my manager/s tell me I did a great job. I just feel like they’re being kind. Also, Im the youngest in the team so sometimes my own explanations to being not-good-enough just works out fine.
- New / ProductdangnabbitmoreTalk to a therapist. Seriously. It’s going to take some work to fully accept that even if you’re not perfect or as good as your internal benchmark for where you should be, you’re good enough to be where you are. Focus on getting better everyday instead of worrying about whether or not you should be where you are. My 2 cents.
- HPE / EngbroteinI once talked to a relatively well known security researcher who had a CS Ph.D and 20+ YOE, and he told me that he still feels like a fucking idiot. He said that it gets better but that feeling never completely goes away. YMMV.
- Microsoft XboxjIf you pay attention you’ll realize other people’s work isn’t that good either! That’s the key to moving past this. Your work is not perfect, but neither is that of others’. So no reason to feel any inferior.
- Most of smart and hardworking people think about this all the time. You may feel great at one moment for compliments and awards but are afraid that it may mean nothing so you keep working hard.
Look at the people on the opposite spectrum - Elon Musk or Trump. Do you want to act like them instead?
- Qualcomm / EngQqwqTake a side project and challenge yourself there. E.g. design from the bare metal all the way to fancy distributed architecture or do something non technology related . Anything where you can feel some accomplishment as this is what is exactly missing. This is my personal opinion not sure right or wrong
- New / EngnamonI’ve had the same problem for years. I agree with PokeHuman, but at the same time I learned living with these feelings do make our lives miserable. I think it’s really important to find a good balance: reminding yourself how much you’ve accomplished so far, feeling proud about it, and at the same time just being aware that there are more you can do tomorrow. I’ve been managing my mental health by staying on this fine line between extreme depression and happiness.
- Microsoft / EngGubbins 🤺You can try to embrace it and use it to fuel you. Just because people praise you for a job well done doesn’t mean you can’t continue to learn and grow. You will never know everything and be the absolute best, but over time you’ll get pretty good and realize everyone is in the same boat.