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Imposter syndrome

Rockwell Collins ComEngg
Oct 3

I have this feeling since a very long time and recently discovered a term for it. It’s not about anything or anyone. But I constantly feel like my work isn’t good enough and not creative enough. I’m praised and applauded. But it just doesn’t help! Anyone here who can suggest me something to overcome this feeling?

Edit : whenever my Sr. Engineers or my manager/s tell me I did a great job. I just feel like they’re being kind. Also, Im the youngest in the team so sometimes my own explanations to being not-good-enough just works out fine.

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  • Talk to a therapist. Seriously. It’s going to take some work to fully accept that even if you’re not perfect or as good as your internal benchmark for where you should be, you’re good enough to be where you are. Focus on getting better everyday instead of worrying about whether or not you should be where you are. My 2 cents.
    Oct 34
    • Square Horcrux
      This! OP please heed this advice.
      Oct 3
    • Rockwell Collins ComEngg
      OP
      I’m going to consider therapy. It’s expensive but worth a shot, I guess.
      Oct 3
    • Square Horcrux
      Your insurance should generally cover it.
      Oct 3
    • Square Horcrux
      What’s more expensive is letting your fears and anxieties cripple you. Consider it an investment into future you.
      Oct 3
  • HPE / Engbrotein
    I once talked to a relatively well known security researcher who had a CS Ph.D and 20+ YOE, and he told me that he still feels like a fucking idiot. He said that it gets better but that feeling never completely goes away. YMMV.
    Oct 31
    • Rockwell Collins ComEngg
      OP
      This is literally the most motivating thing I’ve read in a while! I’m a master’s degree too! Everyone says, “you’re just 25 and you have a masters?! sounds great”. But sometimes I think it’s not a big deal. :/
      Oct 3
  • Microsoft Xboxj
    If you pay attention you’ll realize other people’s work isn’t that good either! That’s the key to moving past this. Your work is not perfect, but neither is that of others’. So no reason to feel any inferior.
    Oct 31
    • Rockwell Collins ComEngg
      OP
      Yeah, makes sense. I just need to remind myself of this every time I feel I’m not good enough. :’) thanks!
      Oct 3
  • New EVlp62
    Read a book
    Oct 31
    • Rockwell Collins ComEngg
      OP
      Any suggestions?
      Oct 3
  • Microsoft / EngPokeHuman
    Most of smart and hardworking people think about this all the time. You may feel great at one moment for compliments and awards but are afraid that it may mean nothing so you keep working hard.

    Look at the people on the opposite spectrum - Elon Musk or Trump. Do you want to act like them instead?
    Oct 33
    • Rockwell Collins ComEngg
      OP
      I think I’d rather doubt myself and do better everyday than be like them. :’)
      Oct 3
    • Amazon allanact
      HAHAA ELON MUSK AND TRUMP... lmao I hope you’re joking... Musk is eccentric for sure but he’s definitely smart and hardworking
      Oct 3
    • Microsoft / EngPokeHuman
      By Elon and Trump, I meant the opposite end on imposter syndrome - not the hard work and smartness part.
      Oct 3
  • Qualcomm / EngQqwq
    Take a side project and challenge yourself there. E.g. design from the bare metal all the way to fancy distributed architecture or do something non technology related . Anything where you can feel some accomplishment as this is what is exactly missing. This is my personal opinion not sure right or wrong
    Oct 30
  • New / Engnamon
    I’ve had the same problem for years. I agree with PokeHuman, but at the same time I learned living with these feelings do make our lives miserable. I think it’s really important to find a good balance: reminding yourself how much you’ve accomplished so far, feeling proud about it, and at the same time just being aware that there are more you can do tomorrow. I’ve been managing my mental health by staying on this fine line between extreme depression and happiness.
    Oct 30
  • Microsoft / EngGubbins 🤺
    You can try to embrace it and use it to fuel you. Just because people praise you for a job well done doesn’t mean you can’t continue to learn and grow. You will never know everything and be the absolute best, but over time you’ll get pretty good and realize everyone is in the same boat.
    Oct 31
    • Rockwell Collins ComEngg
      OP
      Timeeee yes. That definitely will make me better at what I do.
      Oct 3

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