In pursuit of contentment and happiness?

Get out of Amazon first

Take time to appreciate what you have every day. Journaling helps with this. Write three things you're grateful for each day. You'll start to notice yourself feeling a lot better

Always do whatever you enjoy doing, don't worry about money. If you don't like your job, quit it. If you want to invent something, do it. If you'd enjoy having a small restaurant, open one. Since you have double income, you probably don't need to worry about losing one income. Money doesn't create happiness out of nothing, passion does.

You are stuck in a lifestyle which you and your family become accustomed. It will take a pretty massive change to shift that. Do some self reflection, if you're serious about change, consider moving and/or changing jobs. See what your wife thinks. Focus on what you need and is important rather than what everyone else says you need or has. Consider taking technology out of your day to day (I get your in tech, but maybe when not at home). Consider getting out of the game and focusing on what matters to you.

Take a trip to Bhutan or Africa. Alone. Bhutan culture focuses on happiness. Instead of GDP they have Happiness Index. It’s the only country in the world with a negative carbon footprint. Africa, on the other hand, will put you in a foreign land struggling with basic education and healthcare. Basically both would put you in a place without money or without emphasis on money. You’ll see that people still find a way to be happy, kids are still innocent and laying down after a long day of travel is something to look forward to. Don’t put too much energy into what you’re feeling. You can’t change it by force. Put yourself in a new situation and what you’re feeling will change organically.

Gratitude comes with a feeling. And feeling with doing what we love. Surrounding ourself with what you love is important. We reflect our surroundings and others reflect us. Hence its important to move away from negative environment and not reflect it. Watch the inputs to understand the output.

Help those in need by giving me a referral. I am at a bodyshop right now

Not spending time with kids- there, that’s your problem. Fix that first.

Buying stuff to feel happier in life is an addiction, just like alcohol and drugs. It gives you a quick high that fades away even sooner and leaves you yearning for more of the same. Start living a simpler life, fighting off your yearning for material things by spending quality time with friends and family. It's a slow but sure way to wean yourself off of things and focus more on relationships, which in turn will help you realize that you've been making a bad trade-off when it comes to time-vs-money. The more time you spend with people and doing things you're passionate about, the more you'll realize how little money you actually need to be happy. This will make it clear that you're spending way too much time earning way too much money and not having enough time for things that do contribute positively towards your happiness.

Focus on personal relationships, cheer for others material success while understating your own. Invest time with kids instead of material gifts. Maybe buy another modest house and live simply.