Hi , Appealing to any Indians who fought the caste system, dowry and all other bull shit and successfully married. Any tips on how to deal with the parents. ? I am presently in the process of mediating my two families who are not on board completely because of the above mentioned differences.
Every family has ego to begin with. Once they realize that you are not going to change, they will accept . Might take months. (First hand experience)
8 months in and still fighting.
Can take multiple years if you are young <28.
It’s your life. Grow a pair and take charge for once.
Families will threaten to disown you etc but then give up on the battle once you get married or have kids. It is a test for how strong you or ur relationship is
You pay for the marriage. Tell your parents that they made you this responsible that you have confidence to choose your life partner by yourself. Also tell them that your decision is final. Then, change the question to what illogical worship they need to do to calm their fears. And in between, praise them for being understanding parents.
U r in America not in India... so what’s stopping you from going ahead? Or is it same log kya kahenge mentality?
Those in America are the ones who struggle to have a conflict with their parents.. having always been the apple of eye.. especially the kid who made to america
Ask them to f*** off. Be strong and highly discourage this behavior. Don't care about their stupid feelings. You shouldn't be mediating. This behavior is punishable, not something you should be having conversation about.
Police complaint should solve this
Try. Evolve. Try. There's nothing better than that. Be objective and less emotional. Might actually work. I wish the best happens, whatever may then that be.
Give them two LC mediums and ask them to solve it in 45 mins with working code.
Lol
Sounds like Facebook interview lol