I am an Indian Guy from India. Being young and single I do alot of online dating. I don't have a racial preference and have been on dates with almost races white/black/asian/mexican/indians/indian Americans. I get quite a few first dates, some of them go well some don't. But I have noticed a pattern with American born indian girls that they would be really interested at first , but the moment you tell them you are born and raised India. They just freak out. I can literally see a change in their facial expressions and body language. They lose interest right away. On the other hand, if girls from other races find out that I am indian, they get more involved and I can see them being curious about he culture. Have you guys(Indian Guys) noticed this at all? Is this just racist prejudice or what?
Yes
They prefer white man too
Not limited to Indian American women. Many American raised don't want to date FOBs.
Probably.. woulld it be same if the fobs came from england/australia/france?
I have heard same about chinese. Not sure about other ethnicities
Look up the pew research center study on Asian Americans marrying out, a lot of insights.
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Most people care a lot less about race than culture. They probably don't want to deal with the culture norms from the old country. I would try to understand what they don't like about it, and then ask yourself if you exhibit those qualities or not. If you don't, then maybe try to be proactive and mention how you love American culture and not Indian culture. Indian culture is pretty alien to most people born in the US, so I wouldn't blame them for making some assumptions.
But Indian culture is different for white/black/asian/mexican women too. They don't act wierd about it
I think that has to do with lack of familiarity. They don’t know anything about the culture vs knowing all the negatives.
They realize they are just a ticket to America for you
According to my friend who is Indian American, she is wary of dating guys from India because there are a lot of them who are just in it for an easy way to get a green card. Not generalising but thats how it is.
Why do you think other american girls of different races Don't have that opinion? Most of them do know about our visa issues and how marrying an american can solve those issues
Not generalizing, but a lot of such girls think of themselves as a prized commodity too. Indians are usually not known to marry and dump, so even if there might be an added advantage of guy getting a green card, why would thar be a problem? Could it be somehow related to the girls' tendency to find a male who has status, and not having a green card makes them think of the guy having lower status?
A LOT of Indian raised people (mostly guys) come with a lot of old transitional ideas about male patriarchy and racist views in my experience. PS. I am India raised guy.
That’s racist!!
Agree, cjku57.
Women complain all about not stereotyping them but they do that to others. American born Indians are racist. I know my niece in 1st grade was discriminated by an American born. She apparently told her white friends not to talk with my niece because she wasn’t born here. These people have lot of bias. But they preach others on how trump is bad. Remember this when u vote!!
Sorry your niece has to go through that
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Is all your dating sourced from dating apps?
Yes, most of it is
Does that matter?