Indian Ladies Scoop and back seat

Samsung uriI37
Jan 8 53 Comments

I literally had an argument with one Indian lady as i only take a single person. I asked her politely to be seated in the front and still she sat on the back and literally told me she is not comfortable to seat with other men in the front seat. I, out of courtesy let her and did not cancel the ride. But it was very awkward. #notyourChauffeur

EDIT: Lot of posts are about the lady have a choice where she wants to seat and it makes no difference where they seat.

I wanted to update that she absolutely had choice and she choose to seat in the back seat and i allowed her and was polite enough not to cancel the ride, which is what i will do in future. And like her i also have a choice to allow people to ride with me only on the front seat.. i have no obligations to let anyone ride on the back seat... if they don't want they can cancel their ride and do an Uber/Lyft...

It makes a huge difference where the person is seated for some culture it means you are their driver? Would she seat in the back seat if her boss/Team members was driving and say that i only ride with my husband on the front seat?

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  • LinkedIn fcy504
    As a non-Indian lady who’s always cautious and wary of her surroundings, I probably also would have asked to sit in the back seat. This shouldn’t be called out as race-specific. Also, you never know what past experiences she might have been through that makes her nervous to sit in the front seat with a man.
    Jan 8 7
    • It’s ok in Lyft or Uber. In scoop that will not be acceptable.
      Jan 8
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      if you are cautious then rideshare is not a great idea i do respect your choice but i dont understand how front seat is less safe than back... it is race specific as i the lady mentioned the same in her reply also out of hundreds of drives i made only indian girls seems to do that..
      Jan 8
    • Google HugeD1ck
      How do you not understand how the front seat is more dangerous than the back? Do you understand that literally 1 in 4 women are or will be sexually assaulted?
      Jan 8
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      i totally understand that but if you are so concerned dont get in to a car with a random guy.. but dont demand that you want the back seat.. if you dont like you can always cancel... i am not forcing you to ride with me .. you have all my details before the ride starts...
      Jan 8
    • Oracle suchisl!fe
      Maybe you should put in your profile that you don’t want to ride with folks who prefer back seat
      Jan 8
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      SUre i would do it if the app had that feature... and match people based on that preference
      Jan 8
    • Oracle suchisl!fe
      Am sure any app will have “about you” section. If you are very particular about this you should definitely put it there
      Jan 8
  • Was she hot? 🍑
    Jan 8 3
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      it is irrelevant... i am not doing scoop to hook up...
      Jan 8
    • I’m just asking for a friend
      Jan 8
    • Verizon TheRealOJ
      I’m that friend
      Jan 8
  • eBay Paavi
    Are you driving people for free?
    Jan 8 2
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      its a minimal pay for car sharing .. why should i drive people for free.. i do it to share the ride with interesting people also to reduce my carbon footprint... not for the money definitely.. it is actually peanuts compared to my TC
      Jan 8
    • Verizon TheRealOJ
      Let us fine respectable blind people be the judge of those nuts. TC or GTFO
      Jan 8
  • Nvidia smartpm9
    What would you have gained if she sat in the front row next to you? I don’t think scoop has a user agreement that says you have to sit in the front row because it’s not your Lyft or Uber. You are scooping because you needed that “peanuts”, don’t be cheap, respect your co riders preference. If you are offended because your co rider sits at the back row, don’t scoop (just like how you have suggested to the “Indian” girl that she should not use Scoop if she is cautious).
    Jan 8 0
  • Autodesk dunkinDs
    As a man I am tired of this constant judgement and ‘guilty until proven innocent’ bs. My car, my rules. It’s about mutual respect here, two equals ride-sharing to reduce carbon footprint. If people want a chauffeur driven experience they better pay for it and not share rides on scoop (uber, lyft is still ok, there is a service provider dynamic there between the driver and passengers)
    Be guilt free and cancel those rides buddy. You don’t want that kind of negativity around you. As far as the race/nationality thing goes, I don’t think it’s an Indian thing. Have had weirder requests from others, it’s just stupid people.
    Jan 8 4
    • Dexcom xXhT11
      Why can't equals sit on the diagonal?
      Jan 8
    • Autodesk dunkinDs
      Coz basic courtesy to an equal. They definitely can in dedicated cab services/uber/lyft
      Jan 8
    • Nvidia smartpm9
      @dunkin, so your basic courtesy of being equal is based on the job (i.e. TC or because they are in the same line of profession as you do) and not because they are fellow humans? so Uber or Lyft or Taxi drivers are not equal to you?
      Jan 8
    • Autodesk dunkinDs
      Those are dedicated services you pay for unlike scoop which is a ride-sharing for and by professionals going along a route. But yes you are welcome to theorize all you want.
      I frequently cancel rides for people who decline this basic courtesy and will keep doing that 😊
      Jan 8
  • Google / Eng Bluths
    Too late. You should have cancelled. If she is that worried about sitting in the front seat, she can always order a Lyft/Uber/cab.

    The race baiting was unnecessary though.
    Jan 8 4
    • Verizon TheRealOJ
      Oh ur master baiting?
      Jan 8
    • I am that master baiting
      Jan 8
    • Verizon TheRealOJ
      Finally, caught a live one
      Jan 8
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      i told her i can cancel the ride but she sat down in the back seat and i did not kick her out ... she could also cancel right if she does not like the front seat...
      Jan 8
  • Microsoft
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    Not acceptable in scoop. I would have cancelled the ride.
    Jan 8 1
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      thats what i will do in future... and i blocked her
      Jan 8
  • Seems like you lost my brother. I kicked one out one time because she did the same thing. This is not for Lyft I am assuming, I was using scoop.
    Jan 8 0
  • Dexcom xXhT11
    Since your goal was to meet "interesting" people....well you did. She doesn't ride in the front with strange men.

    she might have a husband or man who will beat the shit out of her if she is seen fraternizing with another dude. You should lighten up and roll with it.
    Jan 8 3
    • She probably shouldn’t be Scooping with strange men like OP.
      Jan 8
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      ^ this
      Jan 8
    • Autodesk dunkinDs
      Lmao if this incident happened in Saudi Arabia or something then yes 😂
      Jan 8
  • Dexcom xXhT11
    And since you are deliberately driving other people around #youAreTheirChauffeur. That's how that works.
    Jan 8 2
    • PayPal mrhuddle
      ^This
      Jan 8
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      i am not driving them i am allowing them to share a space in my car on my way to office...there is a huge difference...
      Jan 8
  • Amazon eapG18
    Why do you care? If your goals are to reduce your carbon footprint and have an interesting conversation, it makes no difference where they sit. The benefits for you are getting a small amount of gas money, use of the carpool lanes and a possible decent conversation. If the conversation doesn’t happen, start up an audiobook and enjoy the faster commute. Such a stupid complaint.
    Jan 8 0
  • Microsoft / Other spartan123
    Was she south Indian? ( Just asking ) I am not an Indian.
    Jan 8 0
  • Microsoft / Eng
    Hack_

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    Hack_more
    If the women are so worried about sexual assaults they should arrange their own transportation
    Jan 8 0
  • Verizon TheRealOJ
    Big ass?
    Jan 8 0
  • PayPal mrhuddle
    At least that lady was bold enough to express and stick to her opinion unlike you cribbing here on the anonymous app! Grow up and move on Mr! She has a choice and right to sit wherever she wants.
    Jan 8 0
  • Flagged by the community.

  • Amazon
    runsjsurue

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    seattle transplant. lived across the world. 1st place where I haven't made friends as yet 😐 the freeze is real
    runsjsuruemore
    Drive a 2 seater like me. #problemsolved
    Jan 8 0
  • Philips / R&D yellowblk
    Not acceptable in scoop. Happened to me once. I asked scoop to not to match with that person again.
    Jan 8 1
    • Philips / R&D yellowblk
      But not all are doing that. May be 1-2%.
      Jan 8
  • Cisco / Product la68
    this is nothing to do with race! grow up and respect people’ feelings. if a woman is uncomfortable sitting in front seat with other men, then there must be a reason ( some history to her..?) i would not be offended.. also you can silently unfavorite her in-scoop if it bothers u that much...
    Jan 8 1
    • Samsung uriI37
      OP
      yeah i do respect that and also i do have my boundaries that i will not take a ride in back seat.. she should have cancelled if she was not comfortable.. i did block her on scoop
      Jan 8
  • Autodesk dunkinDs
    You got to define your boundary buddy. Making people comfortable is a good thing to do, but at what cost is the question you need to ask yourself. If it troubles you and makes you feel bad not worth it and just throw em out, you the boss here
    Jan 8 0
  • Cisco / QA StoneHeart
    just reduce your carbon footprint and move the fuck on.
    Jan 8 0
  • Walmart.com klick!
    She should not sit at the back in Scoop, I agree. They are not drivers, look at them as colleagues. If she has gone through something in the past, she should arrange her own transportation.
    Jan 8 0
  • Microsoft
    Dulqer

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    Dulqermore
    I don't understand what OP is bothered about. She should be able to sit in the back seat if that is her preference. Why do you want to force her to sit in the front seat?
    Jan 8 0
  • Synopsys macwan
    OP. I call it "False Ego". U blocked her...good for u. Move on.
    Jan 8 0
  • Microsoft ramare
    Are you Indian?
    Jan 8 0

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