Indian folks- How did you skirt around the “arranged marriage” pressure from family?
I have very little faith in it and still believe in love. But making my parents understand is getting harder and harder each day. They use their usual emotional blackmail techniques and keep pressurizing me indirectly. I have reduced my frequency of conversations but still, every time I call thats the only topic of discussion. Tips from other women would be really helpul. TC- 160 YOE - 5 (FWIW)
You must obey your parents
Just find your spouse and get married. Tell them it's done. Rip the band aid.
I like girls 😙 Works like a charm if you are a girl. Nothing resets their expectations faster.
Hey hey, now I'm interested.
If you loved your parents then you would listen to them
Not a bro but thanks
Stupid advice is stupid. If her parents loved her, they would be okay with her choice
Are you ABCD too? I just moved out and all my problems with that arranged marriage crap are gone. What’s that? You guys want me to fly somewhere to meet some random girl? No thanks. They can do all the emotional blackmail they want, but I’m too busy with my hustle to care
Not American born. But I just don’t understand the concept. Also I have been living on my own since more than a decade. Still Indian parents are like ninjas when it comes to making decisions for their grown up adult kids🤦🏼♀️
I mean I came here when I was 5 too. The ya re trying to set me up with people who acrually live in India because “we must maintain our traditions”. It’s straight up tribalism. Just minimize contact with them. Like phone call once a week 15 minutes = done
What if mum calls everyday? If I don't pick up call for one day, world is on fire for her. On the other hand, dad doesn't give a fuck 😂 he calls once in 4 5 months
Just do the f you want
THIS ⬆
Do you listen to them on which company to join? Just ignore and proceed with your life.
Just curious, if you meet the person, does it essentially mean you agree to marry the person or do you still have a say after the meet? If not, I say just go meet the person if it's convenient... no harm in meeting more people.
Tell them to have trust in you to find love