Indian here, how to work with wife?
Married <5 years ago. No kids. Love marriage (were in relationship with her about 2 years before the marriage) Help needed with couple of issues below: 1. She doesn't want (always try to avoid, both calls and msgs) to talk to my mom and dad. It hurts me. On the other hand, I always atleast reply to messages from her parents. I have already talked with her about this atleast once. Not sure why she doesn't want to accept my parents. They have always been nice to my wife. 2. I am always her second priority. Her parents family is always first priority for her. (It is really disrespectful for me, it hurts my ego)
Is this for real?
Arranged marriage?
1 might be because she's shy or feeling awkward. Maybe increase the opportunities for then to mingle. If your parents are in India then go there more often or invite them here. 2 is something that you'll have to live with. This happens if you were arrange-married or only knew your wife for a short while before marriage. Your wife isn't your soulmate but more of a roommate with benefits (i.e. like 90% of Indian wives), and that's not the end of the world.
Don't have kids until you arrange or come to some life agreement with wife..
Don't marry people you don't know. Have the courage to be honest with people you do know.
How did you manage to get to Uber?
Take some English lessons.
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Seek counseling and have the counselor tell her to grow up (basically). She won’t listen to what you say.
Was it arranged marriage? Did you try to have a honest conversation with her? If so, how did she take it? Try counseling
Love marriage. Was in relationship with her for about 2 years before I got married. I already talked about first point and she said she will try to improve on that. She did improve for about 1 week before going back to non-responsive.
So talk to her again? Only way to deal with this is open communication. If it doesn't work try couple therapy. Be honest and open with your wife but if she is not willing to change her behavior then therapy is your last chance.
Talk the same with her and her parents. Talking things openly helps a lot, if things didn't workout then consider a marriage counseling.
Should I really include her parents? Maybe they can have conversation with her then?
If you made yourself clear multiple times to her that her behavior is hurting you then it would be good to take help of other people. Usually girls are more tied to their parents, they'll understand if they explain to her. Also, it depends on how matured her parents are, if they are matured enough they'll understand and explain her in the way she understands. Make sure you behave as wise and as polite as possible.
Put her on PIP
Nice troll. Could have been better though.
OP, you are the troll